Anniemaniac wrote:
I don't know what it is, but I find that everytime I go out, people always stare, and it's usually always girls, rarely guys.
I don't have anything that really sticks out about me. I'm kind of plain and blend in. I don't dress wacky or have weird colours in my hair or anything like that. I don't have an unusual walk, but yet, girls always stare at me. Usually teenagers or women in their early 20s. I've also noticed that it's usually a particular type of girl that looks at me. Usually the ones with died hair, make-up, very fashionable usually in groups of 2-4. I don't wear makeup or dress highly fashinable, but I always look presentable to go out and I buy clothes from typical stores that most teens/young women do, so it's not like I wear clown suits to go out in.
I can be doing anything or nothing and they still stare. If I'm shopping, they stare, if I'm crossing a road, they stare, if I'm sitting on a bench, they stare. I don't get it. If I'm on my own they stare, if I'm with someone they stare. When I look at them, they look away.
My AS is very mild. Whenever I mention it to people they're always surprised telling me they'd never have noticed or that I "look normal". Some people don't even believe I have it, so I don't think people who've never met me can guess I have AS or that I'm a little weird just by a few seconds of looking at me. What makes them even stare in the first place? Maybe if I was doing something to catch their attention, sure, but I just go about my business like everyone else. I've asked people if I do anything weird when I'm walking and they always say no, so I don't get it.
Does anyone else get this? Any idea why or what they stare at?
I don't need to write a post on this subject because you've said exactly the words I would have put. I've got exactly the same trouble as you. I'm a 20 year old female, and I go out looking trendy and presentable. I even have a fashionable handbag. And I'm slim aswell, and I don't walk odd either. I walk up straight, and at an ordinary pace. I try not to look at other people, but I can sometimes sense that somebody's looking at me, and when I do glance at them I notice that they
are staring at me - just as I assumed.
In the corner of my eye, I even see people turn their heads towards me to give me the usual stare, and this even happens when I'm walking near a brick wall and there's nothing else for people to look at but me. So I always know that they've turned their head just to look at me. I take it personally too, because I look around at all the people I see, and I see some acting really stupid and they don't seem to get looks. Once I saw this strange-looking man stumbling about on his own, muttering to himself, and he looked all dirty and smelly too, but nobody gave him looks like they do me. I looked carefully at people passing him, and I knew they were all looking ahead.
I don't get stared at if I'm with somebody as much, but when I'm on my own, people stare at me like I'm the Elephant Man.
06 Jul 2009, 2:33 pm
I don't look at them 
