List one NT thing you do not understand.

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Their need for plastic surgery and youth. Come on, this situation should be clear that it is precarious in The Picture of Dorian Gray, so shouldn't you strive for kindness instead of eternal beauty or youth?

When you laugh at funny people's jokes and they look at you funny like you weren't supposed to laugh. It's even weirder if you laugh at something which was funny (aspie funny) and it wasn't supposed to be, they were actually supposed to be taken seriously.

Hey I wish I could look young forever. I think olderness is ugliness because of all these wrinkles. If I were filthy rich, I'd probably be spending my money on plastic surgery to stay looking young. But nope I just have to take good care of myself to keep my young looks but of course I will still age.

...the need to keep secrets. When I feel deeply about something, I WANT people to know what I'm thinking/feeling.

I don't know if I mentioned this before on here, but this is what baffles me:

When they're watching a TV programme or a film, their favourite character is always the ''weirdest'' or ''most different'' character, or the character with lots of AS symptoms in the character (not the actual person in real life).
But in real life everyone's least favourite person is the ''weirdest'' or ''most different'' person.

How 'success' is measured.

I really CANNOT comprehend what a successful person is, let alone how and why they became that way.

I do not understand the constant need for re-assurance many NTs need. I try reading it several different ways, and apparently I am missing some subtleties.

example: We have plans together, and I am told I can stay home if I want. Apparently neither of the immediately obvious answers are correct: re-affirming my commitment to our plans, or accepting the offer to cancel. The NT will keep re-iterating the same offer for me to cancel if I re-affirm, and act all butt hurt if I cancel. A third option that also does not work is asking what they want me to do, which of course does not work because that just isn't cricket in their book, I am to work that out for myself.

Hmmm, perhaps I need to throw a "thank you for your concern" or some such in there.

ALL OF IT.

When you complain about something saying something to the effect of "I wish it didn't happen." and they say "well, it did happen."

No s**t sherlock I wouldn't be complaining about it if it didn't happen would I?

What gets me more with that is if I compain about something what I wish ddn't happen, they will say, ''well it didn't happen'' or ''what can we do?'' or ''stop moaning!'' or something else just to shut me up complaining, but if they moaned about exactly the same thing in exactly the same way I would, they just listen to eachother politely and complain about it together. That really annoys me too.


Also what confused me about NTs is they are supposed to be brilliant socializers, but (and I'm NOT exaggerating here!) every single NT I have ever met and spoken to, I've often said something to them (like small talk, ect) and they've literally not heard me at all (and it's nothing to do with how loud or quiet I said it, or even what I said). And I know they weren't doing it delibrately - it seems this same typical habit what they all have. The other day I said to my colleague, ''oh my boss really had a go at me the other day,'' and she really did not hear. She was looking at me and said something completely irrelevent. So after a few minutes I said it again and she said, ''really? Why did she have a go at you?'' and so on. And every NT has done that when I've been talking to them. And I've never done that to anyone - my ears are forever open and each time I hear a voice I straight away put on my listening cap, even if they're not talking to me.
I thought it'd be the other way round - the Aspie not listening to the NT saying something in general, and the NT being very alart and ready for listening out for verbal sounds.

Their insincerity. I can understand saying these out of politeness. But what I really don't get is when they act like they want to get involved with you more than they really do. I can't handle insincere overtures of assistence or friendship. That just upsets me so much.

If you don't really care that much about me, fine--you don't know me so I don't expect it of you. But don't set me up to think you are interested in getting to know me and developing some degree of trust or understanding between us.

NT thing I can not wrap my brain around..........Friend collecting!! !! !! !! Enough said!?

Why they feel the need for company and can't travel or do stuff alone.

I'm NT and the whole obsession with youth gets on my nerves, I don't understand why some of them are obsessed with being popular or who's a virgin and who isn't. Really? Does it matter?

And I see these submissive women who let men push them around and tell them what to do.

I've seen other NTs bully my Aspie friend, WHY?! why pick on him because he's an Aspie?
It pisses me off

something they do over the phone or on msn: "i'm gonna leave you now, i can see you're busy "
if i say i'm not busy or was doing something quick but i'm now done, they say: "ah well I have to go shopping/cook/whatever."
why not say it then?? save me from looking needy , just say it!! !

Town Meetings. Every town meeting I have attended has been an NT Cluster-F*ck. I simply do not comprehend (at the gut and intuitive level) the lack of logic and consistency. I am totally obscure on why people cannot be reasonable and rational.

ruveyn