List one NT thing you do not understand.

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Why do NT's love to push when they can clearly see you're near a meltdown and you can't answer or do what THEY want you to do but they still push?

Someone pushes me to do/say something and I push back.

Thank you, Janissy! That makes sense!

It makes sense in my head, anyway. I guess I don't get it for the same reason I look at the lotto and wonder why you'd bet on that if you wouldn't bet on getting in a car crash on your way home. Why bet money on the lotto, but not on--

OH MY GOD INSURANCE MAKES SENSE.

Why do they say Christmas is for children, when adults at work get Christmas bonuses and get took out on a Christmas meal, and there are gifts for adults in shops?
Christmas is a tradition what's been passed down generations for thousands of years, and it's a religeous festive holiday.
It's more magical for the children, but it isn't for children.

Why do they feel the need to ask someone 'what is wrong?' or even 'how are you?', even if they don't know you.

That they would rather be 'polite' and say nothing when you appear to be in distress.

That when I say 'I can't talk good right now' in my computerised shutdown voice they ask 'why?'

That they get angry at me for having a meltdown/shutdown/seizure combo and then go on about some sh** about me not wanting to talk to my step-family.

That they know you have autism but still say it's stupid for me to think about something in the way I do.

That they call me a hypochondriac just because I talk about autism a lot.

That every time I try to have a serious discussion with them they become sarcastic.

That they constantly say 'I was just joking' but still fail to realise I never get that they were just joking. Then when I tell them they say 'sure, whatever you want to believe.'

I don't understand why it's wrong of me to hate this person, when I have many logical reasons why.

That instead of providing concessions at a concert for me I'm the one that has to stay away and not disrupt the performance.

That you're not allowed to be hyper at said concert.

That they can show that they're bored when I try to bring up a topic but if I show I'm bored people say I'm rude.

Oops that was more than one.

I notice a lot of one upmanship among the NTs, especially males.

ruveyn

Nationalism/Patriotism

Everyone one should be a pacifist.

I can't limit it to one reason...
So here's four current/long-standing annoyances from an even longer list.

If you don't want to know how I feel then please do not say "And how are you today?". That's a question and I have an answer, so why are you getting all annoyed because I gave it?

Will you please stop flapping your mouth and making silly talk about nothing whatever. It's making me feel ill.

I am NOT lecturing you. You asked me how something works - and I know, so I'm telling you.

Sorry, no; I tend not to say "Good morning" because it's a pointless ritual.

I don't understand why they get so emotional over trivial crap all the time.
I don't understand why they are so f***ing negative when it comes to other people they don't even know.
I don't understand why they can't understand me.
I don't understand what makes them different from me.
I don't even understand what it truly means to be NT so I wouldn't be able to pick out their behaviors because I DEFINITELY FOR SURE DO NOT know what is normal.

Maybe it's not just just NT's. Maybe I just has a probrem with everyone.

I dont understand why it is so "Gross" or "wrong" for a girl not to shave their legs

These are all related:

When I am trying to talk through a concept or problem with an NT, why do they seem to think I want supportive affirmations? Why do such affirmations tend to involve telling me that I did not see, hear, or experience what I saw, heard, or experienced?

Why, when I mention Asperger's Syndrome or autism to NTs, do they constantly bring up this one 10-12 year old autistic or AS child they once knew and try to tell me how I'm different from that child and thus not autistic (or not autistic enough)? I'm 30 years older than that child, and odds are good I was not identical to that child at the same age.

Why do NTs assume I see an AS diagnosis as a bad thing?

The worry and the pretense. They care so much what others think and go to such lengths to pretend they don't. That's what socializing IS. I can't help but imagine what people could accomplish if they stopped that! Some spend their every waking moment on THAT! Why can't they just be happy? They are surrounded by wonder and awesomeness and they choose to focus on that? I don't get it.

I don't think I have a freakishly high IQ. I think the only reason I'm so smart is because I don't waste my every waking moment on that.

I blew up at a woman at work one day - I told her that she was 100 times smarter than she thought she was and 1000 times smarter than the others thought she was. I told her to stop saying she couldn't do things. I told her that she says that all the time. I said "You keep saying you can't do it, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE DOING IT!" I was SO mad and she cried and THANKED me! And now there's no stopping her! And she's in her 60s! Did she suddenly become HFA? No. She just stopped worrying about what the others were thinking, doing and saying.