List one NT thing you do not understand.

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Pointless small talk, it makes no sense and is just a waste of time trying to listen to.

When I'm excited about something I don't show it with big smiles and enthusiastic cheers or remarks. I just get in a very good mood and maybe grin a little. An ex of mine was very outwardly enthusiastic. It was always weird for me.

Why do people feel it's more important to search for someone to blame for a problem then it is to actually solve the problem and move on?

i dont understand when they dont refer to your name, yet they still expect you to know that they are talking to you when your in a crowd of people. what, do they transmit recognition codes to eachother?

I don't understand why they have to be mean and gang up on people they don't like.

It's probably faster to list a handful of things I understand about NT world than trying to mention everything I don't understand. From a very young age, I had this concept I called "goo". It stood for everything I perceived as illogical, emotional, fake, based on fluid rules that could be bent like a jello, society-programmed, etc. To me it was like an opaque sticky cloud most NTs find very comfortable being in, but the one I have to navigate blind. I can explain some of these NT behaviors and even understand the need for them in some cases.

But, there are the things I will never understand and I strongly believe that even NTs would be better off without them:

1. I bet you've experienced something like this many times: A phone rings, you pick up and hear "Hey <Your Name>, how are you doing?". Then, 1.43 seconds later, the exact time given to you to reply "Good, how are you?", the "Good, good" comes even if you've stayed silent. This is just beyond me. We both know that the caller doesn't give a f..ck how I'm doing. The whole "how are you" question sounds ret*d to begin with.

2. Some convoluted concept of the need and the expectations to protect people's feelings. To me, if something is crap, it should be called crap. Instead, the crap-maker often hears "good work" just to "protect his/her feelings". The real assessment starts after the person leaves the room. The same happens among friends, family members and between couples. The answer to the question "Do I look fat?" should be the truth even if the answer is "you look worse than a morbidly obese dinosaur". This stupid NT invention leads to lies, gossip, resentment, lack of motivation to improve, and, more likely than not, ends up hurting the person's feelings far more than the truth told upfront.

3. Herd mentality with religion at the epitome of it. I could come up with a very convincing argument that nearly every problem in the world can be attributed to this directly or indirectly. I understand there are biological reasons for it (there is safety in numbers), but joining a herd requires you to become one of the cows. The close you are to the mediocre average, the better. Original thoughts get you expelled. As the result, success in this world almost always depends not on your productive abilities, but rather on the ability to navigate the goo of social fabric by the means of lies, fakery and other similar skills to become a cow driver of as many cows as you can.

1.Giggling after stating the obvious OMG so annoying.

2.Finding "no comment" offensive. I mean, come one, when I say "No comment", I mean I have nothing to say!

3.Finding it cool to not be scared of something.

4.Finding it cool when someone does not express pain when clearly in pain.

Why people seem to expect me to be interested in news about other people who I have never even met/heard of. I don't mean a story concerning a topic that happens to feature the third person's experiences, I mean personal news about this third person. Why would you think I would possibly care about your brother's new job or what your child is doing at school if I barely even know you?

Why people having a conversation continually laugh and giggle when nothing funny has been said; how a perfectly straightforward statement can somehow be a huge joke.

I don't understand why people have a problem about you talking about them and you didn't even use their name. What's the deal? No one knows who you're talking about if you leave them anonymous. Some might know but not everyone.


Why do people keep clapping and don't stop? How can they clap for ten minutes and not stop until it's time to be seated?

I understand the NT state of mind, there is nothing that puzzles me about their amorous lifestyles.

I don't understand why NT's find social rituals other kinds of ceremonial BS so important. I don't get why weddings are such a big deal. Same goes for graduation ceremonies and other events where people have to dress up in ridiculous clothing and hear a bunch of pretentious nonsense.