Do you plan out conversations in your head?

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I do it 99% of the time. I plan what I will say, what I think there reply will be, my response to that and so on. it makes me feel in control to a certian degree

Yes, every single conversation I intend to have is planned beforehand on my head. Of course it never goes as planned.

Also, I always think of the negative outcomes of that conversation. If the negative outcome is too undesirable for me, I won't even try to get in that conversation. Yeah, I seldom talk to anybody simply because I think it could go bad...

Quite regularly: I normally try to plan out the first couple of dialogues in a conversation so that I know how I'll react.

constantly, in my head i constantly have conversatuions on the go, ones that will never happen because i would never be able to articulate them.

I plan ones I intend to have too, but usually fail.

It's not strange that we plan out conversations in our head, what is strange is that we keep doing it.

Our planned conversations never goes as planned. But that doesn't stop us from trying it again.

We shouldn't be judged as weird for doing it. We should looked upon as role models for having the determination to keep trying, despite our many failures.

I would probably would fall asleep if I ever succeeded at the task. That is the real conversation turned out to be the same as my planned one. I already know the outcome. Why stay awake just to listen to it again?

i used to do this all the time as a kid. id spend hours 'talking' to people, saying everything i wanted to say, telling them how i felt, explaining why id done things. it really helped me to feel better, calm down and move on from things if i 'talked' i through. unfortunately the people concerned never actually got to hear any of it so while i was happy to have sorted everything out and forget about it, they were still none the wiser, completely clueless as to why whatever it was had happened and no closer to understanding anything, which often lead to repeat experiences.

something would happen, id react negatively, theyd react negatively to my negative reaction, id need some time alone to calm down, during which i invent a conversation where i explain everything, then i get happy and forget, they are left with no explanation as to what caused me to react, they dont know to avoid it, same thing happens....

and so it went. the amount of these fake convos has greatly reduced as ive gotten older, though i do still do it occasionally.

ZooZoo

ps, my first ever quote! im getting used to this forum lark

yep, all the time. I work out topic lists in advance so that if I'm stuck I've got something to say to break those uncomfortable silences that I can't stand. Although usually I'm rambling on so much anyway that no-one else gets a look in until they tell me to shut up, which happens frequently.

Tiffinity.

yes i do. and usually its completely wrong because the person is not saying what i had planned for them to say to me in such a hypothetical conversation. so then i have to adjust in the real conversation. yay for communication!

I almost always plan out conversations in my head. I don't write it down unless I'm just writing the points I want to talk about. I try not to think about what the other person will say or I'll get a bit anxious about it.

I play both parts of the conversation, and it usually is different.

Yes, road rage scenarios, asking girls out, what I would have said if i'd been part of a conversation someone else is recounting. I think a lot about what I would say and do if a given situation were to arise.

I do this a ton, often without even realizing I'm doing it. When that happens and I eventually do realize, I'll continue as long as the realization didn't break my train of thought.

Other times, I will consciously plan out conversations/encounters. For example, in a class a few semesters ago, I saw three girls I had never talked to but recognized nonetheless (from various places on Facebook). I knew that they were all in the same sorority as my sister. So the second day of class I wore a T-shirt with that specific sorority on it. I figured what would most likely happen is one of them notice the shirt and remember me because I was wearing it, or maybe if I was lucky one of them would walk by and comment on it.

Turns out the professor put the syllabus on the desk at the front of the room instead of passing it out, so everyone had to come down to the front and get it. I get mine and return to my seat (at the very front of the room). So all three of them are standing in front of my seat waiting to get the syllabus. One of them says "I like your shirt!" and I said (as I planned in one of the several scenarios) "Thanks! My sister's in [sorority], do you know her? Her name's [name]." I knew full well that they would know her and like her, nearly everybody does (my sister is very much a people person). They said "Yeah, I love her!" and voila, I make a good first impression.

Moral of the story: be prepared.