How do Asperger people party?

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I usually have to drink some alcohol to loosen my inhibitions a bit, and I have to be in the right mood to socialise, but provided those two conditions are met then I'm usually quite good at mingling and chatting with friends and strangers and having a good time.

ETA: I appreciate that not all Aspies are comfortable with meeting strangers and socialising. I think I'm a bit atypical because as a teenager I was in care (I'd been physically abused by my father), so from being a teenager I was used to moving around living in different children's homes, in each of those homes lots of other kids came and went, plus I had to change high school at one point after moving, so I grew used to meeting lots of new people and making small talk and getting to know people. I reckon if my teenage years had been more typical and settled, then I probably wouldn't be anywhere near as outgoing and good at 'faking' being sociable as I am now.

I like parties!

I'm usually soOOOoo scared before going, but, after a while and a few drinks I get going.

Somehow the night usually ends in some very odd way.

Once I went to a part, and the night ended with me being arrested for body boarding in a fountain, full wet suit and body board, early hours of the morning and the fountain was in the middle of roman city - that was funny.

Once a party ended with my friend and I being rescued by the police, as we were hanging by our fingertips from a kitchen window three floors up, in an effort to get away from some crazy guy that kicked in the door (he thought we were sleeping with his wife! we weren't by the way).

Another time I was arrested by the cops in London for stealing a rickshaw and (as did my friends) racing them through soho, while screaming at people in French to get out of the way - I can't even speak French.

Yup, I do ok at parties.

I party quietly, with as few people as possible.

I try to find if they have a pet. If they don't, then I sit/stand in an isolated corner and eat a lot, then leave at the first opportunity. This applies to parties with people of an older demographic than myself - I don't go to college parties (though I am a college student).

However, I initially thought it was a question as to how Aspies would party if everyone at the party had AS. I want to know!

^ Heh, heh, I also love pets, pets just totally make me more comfortable around parties. I remember one open house I went to had a little boston terrier named Zoey and a golden retriever named Joann and yeah... I was at home, especially with Zoey. Dogs make me so much more comfortable!

I don't party unless the party is a party where there are people of my same interests. Like parties that my anime club hosts

Totally depends on the party.
For one, I don't drink, and never have, so any party that centered around alcohol has been pretty much boring for me. Although one notable exception was totalllllly AWESOME! (the two hot chicks making out above my head I think made the party for me...)

Ahem. Anyway. If there's music and I can dance, I'll usually just let loose into the music, not caring too much if I look the fool or not. (I used to look like a total idiot, but nowadays people think I'm awesome!)

My ability to socialize is odd. I do poorly at meeting with and keeping close friends, yet I somehow manage to fit in when part of a group and so I do have a few friends that way.

I actually had quite a few friends up until one big mistake led me to flee my hometown in shame at the beginning of this year.
So now I'm back to square one with no friends, knowing almost no one and so no more parties. *sigh*

I love to go out with a handful of close friends (which is about all I have). A group of 5 is perfect for me. Drinking and chatting together whilst saying crazy stuff to strangers is great fun!

I feel overwhelmed if I have to go to a club with loads of strangers though. The combination of heat, people I don't know I am expected to get to know, and very loud music makes me feel sick and uncomfortable.

I didn't know we did {party, that is}

I used to do pretty well at parties after having lots of drinks.
But I'm an alcoholic, so no more drinking or "social drugs" for me.
Now I'm back to where I was as a teenager. I just stand around akwardly, waiting for an opportunity to escape out the door when nobody is looking.

ill be at corner drinking and talking at my special indrest, pacing around or rocking

I "party" by getting together with fellow gamers and playing D&D or Magic: the Gathering or something of that sort. I did go to a root beer kegger once with a few friends and I ended up standing off to the side, talking to a friend of a friend about gaming, so go figure.

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