List one Aspie thing you don't understand

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I think ASP-Z is true. I'm not saying that everyone you know will know someone with it, but a lot of people you know might know someone with it. My mum's friend's little boy has just been diagnosed with AS a couple of weeks ago. And my manager's sister has AS. And a couple of my colleagues know people with it too. It is not unknown.


I agree with this too. My mum is NT, but as she's got older she says she hates socialising.

Yeah yeah yeah, anyone can quote some numbers without even citing a source, but I'm telling you, out in the real world, Asperger's is very common indeed.

How come I struggle in social situations and everything, but when it comes to talking verbally to a man I obsessively fancy I'm not afraid to use any social cues? I practically turn into NT when I talk to men I fancy. I can even block out other sounds around me, like NTs do when I'm talking to someone I fancy. Weird?

Note: I do actually know more social cues when I'm with family. But I still act Aspie in other ways with my family, ie, noise intolerence.

yet I worked with Slacker Mcjobs for over 10 years. I should be one of those rocket Scientist Lu Xun (famous Chinese writer), Harold Cho (Harold and Kumar), writing sex jokes in C++, and Math sex jokes, and writing love poetry based on Math, and graduating with an IB, with lots of Asian C-pop listening flippy haired friends, and driving my ricer around, playing Piano, playing cooking mama, and going to church, graduating from UCLA with my other Asian friends, and participating fully in the Chinese economy as some rocket ninja....MENSA geek who is able to write Klingon Opertas, and produce them (I'm currently in the works to writing the epic of Morlor), while writing long winded posts of why Cao-Cao is better than Lu Biu. While understanding the hidden references on futurama, beating Space Invaders while listening to All Mix Rush.....

All I managed to do was just graduate top of my class in "special job training program" automotives. Well it's not over. I intend to work and school part time, while I prepair my NDT skills to work in NERD HEAVEN. Disneyland as a guy who degums the seats off the rides (NDT repairman). I want the pension, I want the SHARES, I want California, I want a degree from Santa Ana College I want American wife, with kids, and BBQ Cheese Whiz burgers, and Chiense Soy Sauce chicken with my neighbors breaking down my doors, and demanding me at Big American Church, meetings what my recipes are, I want pets, I want yard, I want a man cave, for all my geeky nerdy toys.... I will have this geeky Disneyland employee Nerdy dream. Where I'm working in the Haunted House, trying to find that disemoded radio's voice and seeing the actual ghosts who haunt this Either that or the Indyana Jones ride.

How come when I'm listening to my MP3 other noises distract me, but when somebody calls my name when I have my MP3 on, I don't hear them?

Why is it that as a child I knew school behavior and home behavior but I couldn't figure out home behavior and friends house behavior? I guess that is why my old aspie mate could figure out guest behavior and home behavior but he couldn't figure out school behavior and home behavior.

Why is it that I can do eye contact off and on and have normal conversations off and on?

Since I hated tight clothing as a kid, why is it that I could tolorate wearing stretch pants? Aren't those tight clothing?

Since I hated jeans as a kid, why is it that I was wearing them as a toddler? Didn't they bother me or did my sensory issues get worse as I got older? Can they get worse?

Why is it that I can learn body language but have a hard time seeing it?

My mom said I hated crowds as a child and I couldn't tolorate the noise but why is it that I remember being in noisy places and none of it seemed to have bothered me?

Why can other aspies remember their traits so well in their childhood and I don't?

Why must aspies make their special interests come first and put everything else last that is more important? Your obsessions aren't going anywhere and you can do them in your free time. (I don't mean all aspies because I know not all aspies do this)

Why my obsessions come and go and there comes times in my life where I am not obsessed with anything.

Why I was so incredibly naive as a kid and teen.

Why I sometimes type something else when I meant to say another.

Why I overcame my dyspraxia and other aspies seem to not.

Why can't I stop completing some tasks in a perfect manner, when I know full well that nobody cares or will even notice and that there are better uses for my time?

How could I have been so socially stupid when I was growing up. Some things are just so obvious, and I just missed them?

Why is it so hard to do things that are not one of my interests?

Why do I keep on asking questions that cannot be answered?

What is really funny with this is the people I make connections with throw fits when I don't hang out with them. As funny as it may seem the one or two friends I have pressure me to hang out when I just don't want to.

I love that! I'm always asking myself this kind of question too. At the moment I am on job-seekers, but I am getting so anxious about it, because I'm trying to get a job what will definitely work around my obsession, but am too afraid to admit this to my family, friends and people at the job centre, because they will just look at me and shake their heads and say that I am crackers and need to get a life. But I feel I can say those sorts of things on here because I know that other Aspies can understand because some are going through the same dilemma.

I am so confused with myself, too.
How come I suddenly don't care about any social anxiety when I am speaking to men I fancy (who I secretly get obsessed with), but then become afraid of using social cues when it comes to speaking to everyone else? (Apart from close relatives).

How come I am able to automatically block out light and smells in public places, but sound and people I just cannot block out even if I tried?

Why do crowds of people really agitate me in shopping centres?

How come I mixed well with other children when I was at preschool, but my social norms went straight downhill on the very day I started school?

Why does my face have a miserable expression when I am relaxed? (It's true - if I am sitting on the bus, and I'm relaxed, my eye-brows go into a frown, and my bottom lip sticks out, as though I look like I'm in a sulk, even when I am not).

How come I suffer from a very severe anxiety disorder, which is bigger than my AS and Dyspraxia put together, but I still don't have stimming habits like some Aspies do?

How come I've become so obsessed with the weather, just because I've developed a fear of snow? (Shouldn't I become obsessed with something I like instead of something what makes me anxious?)

How come I am anxious of things what are very common in life, like snow, people, loud noise, viruses/diseases, rejection, and change?

Why does my mood keep on changing from chatty and relaxed, to tearful and depressed? (Not extreme, though - just general).

Stimming. It is annoying and unproductive. So why can't I stop doing it?

Why I am so anti social when my husband and I go to my sister in laws or his old boss's but yet when I go see my old friend, I can socialize. Maybe because it's one and one, who knows.

Why it's so hard to stop doing the computer and then stay off for days or all day. It was so easy at first and then I started to slip back when I found ways to be online. Everyday I tell myself "starting the next day I won't be on much" but here I am.

Why I did fine at birthday parties and my brothers but when I had one of my own, I didn't do so well. I never had one again.

Why do I keep analyzing situations if there is nothing I can do about it?

Tony Attwood suggests 1 in 250 have Aspergers in his guide to Aspergers. That's not ironclad yet but if so he suggests there will be sufficient population to justify a robust AS clinical community (iirc anyway).

Was walking to get something to eat and I echolalia'd quite a bit this afternoon and why this occurs has been on my mind since. I know ASD makes people do it but I want to know why ASD makes people repeat words/phrases.

How come I'm really, really anxious about what other people think of me and so I be very careful that I don't say weird things, yet I am always saying or doing weird things, and then regreting it after? Why can't I just not say or do the weird things in the first place? I say and do these weird things, then get upset when people judge me so much.

That's why I hate myself so much.