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31 Mar 2011, 11:49 am

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The logic behind it is very simple. We don't get intonation. A harsh tone is an insult. We do not get people's intention, some one can make us get their job done therefore that is our insult. Some one can call us very bad things, see my signatures. For e.g. If someone uses this word "push" when it was not necessary(out of context) and in a jovial tone then it means a very bad thing. "push" sound like "puss" and latter sounds like "pus(s)y". And that means a whore, and if we are called a whore then that means that we were in a whore just as someone says "home" to mean that he/she is/was in home. I realized these things at the age of 26 and 1/2.
Some one can push us here and there, poke us, pull us a bit and we do not mind because we don't realize the mind, which is disrespecting, behind that action. Therefore it is important for males to be physically strong,. I think women should also be big and not petit!


*raises eyebrow*

I believe you may be over thinking things a bit.



It will, no one except one believed me who himself showed some understanding of those rules. His name is nostromous and this is that link.


Why do you grovel in their lack of intellect. Why not walk in your own light and move on from the collective circle with whom many come and others leave only once they remember that life is more then what they 'see'.



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31 Mar 2011, 12:04 pm

daspie wrote:
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The logic behind it is very simple. We don't get intonation. A harsh tone is an insult. We do not get people's intention, some one can make us get their job done therefore that is our insult. Some one can call us very bad things, see my signatures. For e.g. If someone uses this word "push" when it was not necessary(out of context) and in a jovial tone then it means a very bad thing. "push" sound like "puss" and latter sounds like "pus(s)y". And that means a whore, and if we are called a whore then that means that we were in a whore just as someone says "home" to mean that he/she is/was in home. I realized these things at the age of 26 and 1/2.
Some one can push us here and there, poke us, pull us a bit and we do not mind because we don't realize the mind, which is disrespecting, behind that action. Therefore it is important for males to be physically strong,. I think women should also be big and not petit!


*raises eyebrow*

I believe you may be over thinking things a bit.

It will, no one except one believed me who himself showed some understanding of those rules. His name is nostromous and this is that link.


I've studied Nostradamus and think while he had some wisdom most of his followers like to twist everything he said to fit their perceptions.

I wouldn't be surprised if he has a church in his name in the next thousand years. If we survive that long, that is.


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31 Mar 2011, 12:05 pm

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Why do you grovel in their lack of intellect. Why not walk in your own light and move on from the collective circle with whom many come and others leave only once they remember that life is more then what they 'see'.


duh... r u callin' me dum? eye smot


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31 Mar 2011, 12:10 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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Why do you grovel in their lack of intellect. Why not walk in your own light and move on from the collective circle with whom many come and others leave only once they remember that life is more then what they 'see'.


duh... r u callin' me dum? eye smot


I'm sorry. That was not my intention. I was referring to the unforgiving portion.



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31 Mar 2011, 12:17 pm

I know a lot of people who have trouble forgiving. But I can't understand the 'why'. What is the gain?



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31 Mar 2011, 12:18 pm

Babs01 wrote:
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Why do you grovel in their lack of intellect. Why not walk in your own light and move on from the collective circle with whom many come and others leave only once they remember that life is more then what they 'see'.


duh... r u callin' me dum? eye smot


I'm sorry. That was not my intention. I was referring to the unforgiving portion.


Ah, okay.


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31 Mar 2011, 12:19 pm

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I know a lot of people who have trouble forgiving. But I can't understand the 'why'. What is the gain?


I don't understand where people find the energy to hold grudges.


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31 Mar 2011, 12:35 pm

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I know a lot of people who have trouble forgiving. But I can't understand the 'why'. What is the gain?


I don't understand where people find the energy to hold grudges.

Nor I.
And the only thing thing all this has accomplished is to make me concerned that people will be taking revenge on me for an insult I never meant.



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31 Mar 2011, 12:37 pm

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I know a lot of people who have trouble forgiving. But I can't understand the 'why'. What is the gain?


I don't understand where people find the energy to hold grudges.

Nor I.
And the only thing thing all this has accomplished is to make me concerned that people will be taking revenge on me for an insult I never meant.


I'm not all that concerned over things like that. I can't please everyone, and if they decide to be insulted and take revenge I hope it turns out to be worth the effort.

I'm indifferent to a lot of things.


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31 Mar 2011, 3:35 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Zen wrote:
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I know a lot of people who have trouble forgiving. But I can't understand the 'why'. What is the gain?


I don't understand where people find the energy to hold grudges.

Nor I.
And the only thing thing all this has accomplished is to make me concerned that people will be taking revenge on me for an insult I never meant.


I'm not all that concerned over things like that. I can't please everyone, and if they decide to be insulted and take revenge I hope it turns out to be worth the effort.

I'm indifferent to a lot of things.


Like 'The Dude' in The Big Lebowski...."whatever"..... "fuckit, lets go Donny"

Most of my cannabis buddies seem more proficient than non users, at letting go of abusers, and laughing all the way to heaven...



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31 Mar 2011, 3:51 pm

I'm a forgiving person, at least I think I am. That said, I will tend to avoid unpleasant situations and I have a very good memory for when "bad things" have happened. This leads me to burning bridges and breaking connections for, sometimes, very silly reasons. Even though the reasons may seem trivial, the impact often is not. Avoiding a certain restaurant may not be so bad, but when it starts getting applied to interpersonal relationships, I run into problems. It may not be anything that a person did wrong, specifically, but I still may avoid seeing them because of something bad that happened.


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31 Mar 2011, 3:54 pm

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Like 'The Dude' in The Big Lebowski...."whatever"..... "f****, lets go Donny"

Most of my cannabis buddies seem more proficient than non users, at letting go of abusers, and laughing all the way to heaven...


I'm not sure what cannabis has to do with it, but okay.


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31 Mar 2011, 4:41 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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Like 'The Dude' in The Big Lebowski...."whatever"..... "f****, lets go Donny"

Most of my cannabis buddies seem more proficient than non users, at letting go of abusers, and laughing all the way to heaven...


I'm not sure what cannabis has to do with it, but okay.


I'll forgive you for not understanding :wink: , but I'm disappointed... because I know you do actually understand, but pretend not too :!:

Come on Donny, lets go from here............................................................



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31 Mar 2011, 5:04 pm

I may be a medical user, but I've never seen The Big Lebowski and found it easy to cut toxic people out of my life long before I picked up my first joint.

So no, I really don't get it. :-\


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31 Mar 2011, 5:30 pm

For those that know, no explanation is necessary.

For those that don't, none is possible....

Do you understand how maintaining an argumentative stance, becomes habit forming? Like a broken record?

Or, dont argue with an idiot, they will only beat you with experience?

Come on Donny, lets go...................................



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31 Mar 2011, 5:33 pm

Surfman wrote:

Do you understand how maintaining an argumentative stance, becomes habit forming? Like a broken record?

Or, dont argue with an idiot, they will only beat you with experience?


I understand that all too well.


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