17 Jul 2011, 1:49 pm
OK, I like logic and I'm quite skilled when it comes to the ability of logical thinking. I'm also reasonably skilled when it comes to maths, calculations and that sort of thing, but so are a lot of other woman who have not been diagnosed with Aspergers. The notion that people with Aspergers have an extremely mail brain is far too simplistic.
There have always been man and woman who have autism, so why should woman with Aspergers have a male brain all of a sudden? That doesn't explain the condition at all. Woman can be born with Aspergers as well at other foms of autism. The fact that somebody is male or female has got nothing to do with it!
I am convinced that the emotions of people with Aspergers and other forms of autism may be even deeper and stronger than the emotions of people who call themselves 'normal'. However....when emotions get too strong and when they are too hard to handle the brain has a mechanism of shutting itself off to certain feelings and experiences and when that happens it may feel like you feel nothing for a short period of time. That's just a manner of coping with things. Let me give an example. Some people become very calm in stressfull and frightning situations, that's the same mechanism. Well that's my theory but I probably didn't make myself clear.
I agree with every single word you have written in this post, because it's quite similar to what I've posted above your's.
I may not be 100 percent feminine, but I am all female, if that makes sense. I may not be into shopping amd make-up, but part of me wants to be, but part of me doesn't have the confidence to bring out this beauty. I find it too much maintainence, and since I still struggle with remembering to do little tasks in the mornings, I think that suddenly turning myself into a beauty queen like all the rest will not do me much good. So it's not that I have a male brain. It's just that I have poor memory with these sorts of things that NTs would find automatic. The only reason why I don't like shopping is because I have a fear of crowds. So you're right - saying all AS women have a male brain does sound ridiculous.
One of the things that bothers me most is the believe that people with autism don't have empathy. That's total crap! We do have empathy and a lot of it! Maybe even more sometimes than people who don't have autistic characteristics. The only thing is, is that we don't always know how to handle our feelings and sometimes it's hard for us to show our emotions t to the world. But that doesn't mean that we don't have them, come on! A lot of people who don't consider themselves autistic are very good in faking empathy, sympathy, sadness etcetera. People with autism don't tend to do that because we are simply more honest than many of the other hypocrites who populate this earth. That doesn't mean that people with autism are better. Autism can be a very difficult thing to deal with but we are worthy human beings, just as everybody else.
Like I said in my post above your's, if NTs had more empathy than Aspies, then there wouldn't be half the amount of ignorance as what we get from NTs. If NTs had empathy, we wouldn't be shunned, laughed at, misjudged, et cetera. So I agree with you 100 percent again.
When I a look at the state of the world I'm actually glad that I'm not classified as normal. Everybody is strange and crazy in one way or antother and the neurotypicals are no exception to the rule.
"It takes every kind of people to make the world go round."
Robert Palmer
The only mistake in this quote here you've made is a couple of typing errors. Otherwise, every single thing you have said describes exactly what I think.
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This desire to get on well with others and not hurt their feelings, is totally preventable.
If NT knew what aspie was, if Autism Speaks was correctly advocating for us, NT would be much more understanding, more accepting, and more interested in aspie boyfriends and girlfriends.
Also, and more impotently, aspie is not being taught correctly.
When I was in aspergers support groups, no effort was made to reign in young males inappropriate raving and excessive verbal ranting. No correcting or input from support workers was seen by myself. I felt like a lion tamer with a whip and a chair all on my own... while those paid to improve our world seemed happy to leave us to it, as much as possible....
Good to see you back Ojani, I enjoy your easy way of writing 
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19 Jul 2011, 6:21 am
I live in a fairytale and get very nervous when the fairytale gets destroyed,
like someone appears to be different than I thought he/she was.
I get very scared when I read people wrong.
For the rest the anxiety, lots of different forms of anxieties
I can never relax , only when I'm with my girlfriend I'm relaxed or when on somekind of depressant.
When I was 16 I was a very shy and quit guy.
Now I (26) I can do the normal emulation made very well ( I need a little mental preperation unless when I'm very curious )
People don't think there is anything wrong with me, just a weird sense of humor and euh eccentric.
But I still need my alone time to recover ( analyse and place stuff ).
Everybody loves me when Im in emulation mode, but few people can handle me when I'm tired and I look like a puppet functioning on pure logic ... bye charm, bye wittiness etc
I get tension headaches and migraine very quickly. I hate certain kind of noises, then I go crazy but I hide it, I just die inside ...
And I have severe insomnia from overthinking things ...
I have a spasm I can control, probably from the stress that comes from acting normal/ feeling different or a lack of selfesteem don't know yet.
But I'm very happy with who I am and I learned to deal with most things and found tricks to deal with most situations ...
Next thing up: crack the nasal tone I sometimes have when not concentrating on my speach ( which is most of the time ... only when I'm in charming mode I don't do nasal )
I'm scared of doors I haven't opend yet. 
I'm probably the prototype of an escapist ... I live in movies and romantise every aspect of my life ( the fairytale ), it just makes me less nervous ...
And I'm a compulsive planner, if the plan changes I can freak out, only when very curious I don't care about the plan.
I also plan everything to hide my "limitations" when there are many new people I have to deal with I plan situations to meet them one by one and not in a group.
and so on ... ^^
19 Jul 2011, 7:01 am
I have a spasm I can control, probably from the stress that comes from acting normal/ feeling different or a lack of selfesteem don't know yet.
Hiya Decade welcome to WP!
Herbal things like chamomile, cannabis, hops and beer, many other herbs can help with your nerves.
Google 'nerves foods herbs', and see what is available in your area, and what works best for you. I'm certain your spasm can be controlled, and future issues can be treated too. certain foods and herbs will assist nerve function
Some people have nerve issues. My mum was a gemini and she had bad nerves.
I am not in NT emulation mode, and I use medicinal levels of cannabis and hops regularly, so I am very relaxed about who I am.
A good diet and avoiding caffeine is a must
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Thank you.
My mother is a gemini too. She's anxious all the time, besides she's the main driving force in our family, and the most NT person of us all. Sorry your mother isn't among us.
19 Jul 2011, 2:50 pm
Asperger's is nature's way of doing anything to make me miserable. I read somewhere that Aspies react to medication, like anti-depressants and anti-biotics. So if an Aspie doesn't like diarrhoea and feeling or being sick, they've got to live with chronic depression, or chronic pain and illness. Not that I ever knew how a different wiring of the brain can affect how the digestive system works, since I've always had a healthy digestive system. And in any case, if that was a true symptom of Asperger's, then the doctors would have been checking me physically as a child, (after being officially diagnosed), but they didn't. They were only concerned about my behaviour and anxieties. The rest of me was, and still is, fine. But what if I'm wrong? What if meds do affect my digestive system?
And people say Asperger's is a gift! 
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