What quirks, habits, etc, have NTs pointed out to you?

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* When I am really concentrating on something, I chew on my tongue...I was always getting into trouble at school coz the teachers used to think I was chewing gum in class.
* Coz I am really short my feet don't touch the ground when I am sitting down, so I am swinging my legs to and fro.
* Alternatively, if I can reach the floor with my toe I will jiggle my leg up and down, almost like I am keeping beat to some really fast music.
* I am always being asked why am so unhappy, even when I am feeling fine.
* My partner says I click my fingernails in my sleep.

Jumping into other people´s conversation, making "otherwordly" remarks about things, having tics in my eyes, sniffing, drumming fingers, pulling hair and other stuff.

I've been told often that I take things too literally and can't recognize rhetorical questions.
What's really happening is that I'm making a joke and THEY'RE taking it too literally.

I have a tendency to run imaginary conversations in my head, either rehearsing the way I am going to say something to someone and imagining their responses, or just imagining what it might be like to talk to some historical person like King James I.
Apparently, my facial expressions change according to the content of these conversations and I am not aware of it. I will laugh or let out a little snort of frustration or something, and it has nothing to do with the real world. People think I'm crazy.

I have been hearing this for ages

you are so immature
a crybaby
a drama queen
agressive
rude
arrogant
selfish
egotistical
don't smile a lot
don't laugh a lot
little sense of humour
he's my third child (Hanny to colleagues)
indecisive
oversensitive
everyone must be like you
not everyone thinks like you
we get our wires crossed too often
you don't listen
you stare at people, it is not done
bad hygiene...picking my nose sometimes,not washing my hands after using the toilet...(I do it when I think of it).
I am cold
no compassion
dumb (when I asked questions during movies)
I ask too many questions
talking at/in monologue
stretching it too far in talking
you are not the centre of the world, my dear, believe you me.
you are eccentric
not any more special than the other
so passionate
talk too fast
walk too fast
obsessive
walking enyclopedia
how do you remember all those street names form your travel?you are always on your own, don't you miss your family?
How do you survive?
Get with your feet on the ground
you are so naive
clumsy
always drawing attention
an exhibitionist
narcissist
obsessed with sex, why?
no inhibitions (when I dance in my underwear or walk over the street in tights or other non-masculine wear.)
You are so obstinate about things /generalise too much
you are in an world of you own
you are a bit borderline
perfectionist
loner
user
loser
psychopath
bully
quickly agered
short fused
childish
I spat a lot when I spoke as a teenager, too much saliva production, so they were annoyed
I spoke too fast, still do when I have a meltdown
defensive always
and my eldest sister(she was 11, I 7) was the first one to comment on my using of big gestures with my arms, I learned not to use them after that.

You are not organised
don't get into my space
you can't postpone it any longer
you are not a planner
weird
madman
No sense of time
a dreamer
no one can count on you
irresponsable


Need I say more?

in a college pre calc class a social group i formed said i was monotonous..ive heard that one a lot. also sometimes I say yah when people are talking to me and today someone who was talking to me said ''yah yah yah'' lol

Occationally staring
Being tactless
Saying "off" things
I used to not give eyecontact

-If someone has not seen me in years they will say I have gotten so tall or they barely recognized me.
-I dont like to shout loudly when something exciting happens, (wich is something that runs in our family)
-Only uncommon is putting myself down or going out of my way to insult myself.

The rest of the problems were when I was younger-
-I didn;t look at people when I talked to them all the time especially when I didnt; know them well I could look at people who I liked or friends
-pointing at people in public
-Mentioning things that weren;t supposed to be brought up such as a suprise party, or a personal problem or bringing something up at the wrong time.
-I didn't understand facial expressions all the time.
-not liking jokes or things that were not meant to be taken seriously because I didn't always know when someone was kidding
-Only comfortable singing in a position- I used to love to sing but only in a certain position any other time I was nervous. I had to be on something round, level, and long that didn't bend hanging from the ceiling with ropes so it could move slightly and high enough I wasn't able to touch the ground. I had to have on leg on each side and be facing straight out with no lights on me. I would have my legs straight or wrapped around it . The only person who caught on were some friends who were in the chorus 2 of them were solo singers and one of them was the captain. After noticing the improvement of me on it and off it they asked me to have one built so they could practice singing. One of them invited me to watch them sing and they sounded better to me in that way.
-Being bored of family- I used to get bored of seeing the same family every time. I would always try and leave at the last minute and make plans with a friend so I wouldn't have to deal with the family get togethers. I used to get angry at my aunt because she owned her business and was too nice to the workers so she would be the first one to arrive and the last to leave and I never got to see her. IT was kind of annoying hearing the family ask me the same questions and not be part of their conversations.

"You really shouldn't correct people when they're wrong. People might get hurt."
"Stop arranging the cards (when playing card games) in straight lines! It's annoying!"
"You have a lot of weird compulsions."
"Why do you spend so much time alone? You need to get out more!"
"You really don't like being spontaneous, do you?"
"You really don't react well to change. That's very immature!"
"Why don't you look me in the eyes?"
"You're a very quiet person. Why are you so quiet?"
"Are you talking about science AGAIN?"
"You never smile in photos."
"You should be more enthusiastic when I tell you good news."
"You're quite gullible and naive, aren't you?"
"You're a bit like Sheldon in The Big Bang Theory. You both have a hard time getting sarcasm."
"You're like a brain on two legs."
"You think too much."
"You're afraid of people."
"Are you sad? Are you angry? Are you ok?"
"Whoa, you're really weird for noticing those details."
"Are you listening?"
"You're cute when you get excited. You sort of bounce up and down on the spot."
"Stop worrying."
"You're on or off. Never in between."
"You really like repeating things, don't you?"
"You have weird food habits."
"You already said that."
"Why do you always move your feet back and forth like that?"
"That was a joke."
"Whoa, your memory's good!"
"Why do you always wear black jeans?"

"What's wrong?" or "You look sad?"

"Can you see how close you're standing to me?" (When standing and talking to my mom I often end up right next to her with my breast touching her(oddly I can't tell I'm touching her as in I can't feel it through my clothes otherwise my dislike of being touched would keep me at a further distance. Though my eyes are so bad I need to stand close or have all the lights on to see good.)

"You and you're elbows." (I often stand with my arms bend so my elbows stick out which makes walking around me harder for people.)

"You don't need that many lights on." (Actually I do, Mom. My eyes are bad and everything looks darker to me than to you so I do really need more lights on to see stuff.)

"Turn the ceiling light off it's too bright." (I'm the only one that likes that light because on a sunny day I only need that one light on to see well, but parents don't like it so have to use all the other lights to compensate.)

"Sit up straight." (as a kid. My mom wishes she'd listened when Grandma told her the same and tried very hard to get her kids to listen. Didn't work. Of course she didn't explain her reasons until we were older I don't think. But I don't remember a lot of things from when I was a kid so she might of.)

"Don't write/draw/scratch with pencil so loud in Church." (as a kid).

"You need to be aware of your surroundings." (But I wasn't to such a degree as a kid that I have no memory of being in speech class at age 5 or any of the I.E.P. meetings all through school. Or being told about having CP before reading the words off a 'Jerry's Kids' donation box at the store and asking what it was. Answer "You have that." Thoughts at the time: Really? The kids on the box can't walk and I can. Something doesn't add up.' I didn't ask for more info and I don't know why I never asked about things back then. I make sure to ask questions now.)

"Don't stare down at your plate when you eat. Look up between bites."

"Stop looking at me! Mom, [name] is staring at me!" - sister years ago when we were kids. (I was staring at the wall behind her and was only dimly aware she was in front of it at the time. I still don't know what I'm suppose to do when I'm eating. I can't stare of other people, but I'm expected to look up every so often. So I look up and look around the room and return my gaze to my food. It seems to appease people enough that they don't bother me too much. I just can't linger on anyone's face or they'll think I want something.)

"Don't eat so slow. Take normal bites. Don't eat like a chipmunk. Don't take squirrel size bites. Take normal bites." (as a child)

"Don't eat so fast. Slow down. Put your food down between bites" (as an adult)

"Slow down! Don't just shovel it all in. Put your fork down between bites." (as a child concerning vegetables which I never much liked and still don't like.)

"*gasp* That's too much. Put some of that back." (portion sizes. I partly blame TV or making large portions seem normal. I see food more often on TV then at meals.)

"Don't say that. You can't say that. That was rude. You don't say that." (No idea what I'd said either time, but I eventually got better at censoring what I say.)

"Don't say 'sorry so much it's annoying. Stop apologizing." (people on the internet a few years ago when I used to say 'sorry' often in my posts as I didn't want to risk people take what I wrote the wrong way which had happened once before.)

"I can't hear you. Talk louder. Speak up. Don't mumble." (Everyone)

"You sound like this when you talk *lowers voice* mumble mumble mumble." (my mother replying to my statement that 'I don't mumble'. She thankfully doesn't do this anymore.)

"Come in here to talk to me." (Everyone else can call to others from different rooms or behind the chair the other is sitting in and be heard fine and they do it to me, but I can't do it to them because they can't hear me. The bad thing is I suspect it's a learned behavior from growing up in this family and so something I do automatically even though I ought to know it doesn't work.)

"Hurry up. I told you to do x y time ago why haven you done it yet?" (because I have no concept of time passing and wanted to finish/continue the thing I was doing when you asked me to do x.)

"I'm going to the store." (mother) *time passes and I go to see what's in the kitchen and she's still sitting in her chair.* "I thought you were going to the store?"(me) "I am."(Mom) "You said that a while ago. I thought I'd have gone already." (me)

They always get sidetracked doing something which delays them going places. And yet they get upset if I do the same thing which I learned from them.

28 years of learning by example can't be undone just because constant nagging against the behavior was added later. I didn't chose so much to copy them, I just did it.

"Don't put your hands on your face you'll get pimples." (Uh, how do you live without ever touching your face with your hands at least once?)

"That's her nose-a-scope." (not funny Dad.)

Yes I often held a closed fist to my face covering my nose and smell my skin. I still do it in private sometimes. No idea why I do it. I just do, guess I like the smell. I think I used to block out cleaning smells that way now that I think of it. Good thing I'd learned to mostly ignore my family's comments about my behavior by then. (I'm guessing I was maybe 8 or 10 at the time. I'm bad with time and ages. It all runs together in my head.)

"You are so sensitive." (Mom meant emotionally not sensory. Heard this a lot. My meltdowns involve lots of uncontrollable crying. Didn't know about ASD for most of my life though).

"You are so narrow-minded." (constantly told this by my mom.)

"Who are you talking to?" (sister asking after over hearing me thinking out load to myself). "Myself!" (me)

"Why are you telling me this?" (sister after I had shared something with her. I took her annoyed question as a real question and explained. She looked more annoyed and walked off.)

"Nobody says 'extinct'." (Mother and sister at different times. I used 'extinct' a lot at one time. I used it correctly as far as I know, but it's not commonly used a lot so my using it was 'wrong' somehow.)

They also get annoyed when I say things like for example

"Great Grandpa did such and such a thing, but Grandma didn't know about it because she didn't exist yet (when it happened)."
(Exist is 'wrong' because people don't talk like that. I must not be a people then. )

"You talk in parenthesis." (My mom making an observation as we tried to think of stuff to talk to a doctor about, concerning a diagnosis.)

Not sure if all of the examples are ASD related, but that's all I could think of.

Hmm. I did quite a few of these in hs.
Sitting so people can see my knees (kind of like L)
playing with my food /eating it a funny way
Twitching when I'm trying to channel my tics.
staring off into space
Reading a book / playing on my computer when people expect to talk to me
Accused of befriending weird people
Various others...

"Why do you walk that way?"
I'm reasonably tall (6 feet) but apparently I take smaller steps and lots of them to get where I'm going compared to other people my height or even people shorter than me. Ever since it was pointed out I can't help noticing it when I'm in a hurry and scuffling.

-- That I walk "on tip-toes" -- actually on the sides and balls of my feet.
-- My rocking
-- Hand flapping
-- Brutal honesty
-- Correcting people on their misquoting of facts or grammar or story details
-- The ability to pull obscure information out of my a...er, um...head.
-- My sometimes child-like naivete

"Why do you never make facial expressions?"
"Do you have emotions?"
"Are you a robot?"
"Why do you always stare so much into my eyes when I talk to you?"

Additionally, people often become desperate, and frightened when speaking to me.

In high school, all of the douchebag NT party-boy normal kids thought I was a psychopath who would blow up the school one day.

It kind of sucks when you're an almost overly emotional, social person who has to learn to talk to others through unconventional means due to the stigma attached with having a blunted affect, and preferring eye contact over looking away.

I'm glad I had a friend in high school though, or I might not have made it to where I am today.