Do female aspies have an easier life in society?

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In a general answer? NO

Though it is easier for a majority of girls with ASD when young because we are not expected to be agile and earlier talking often smooths us past being pinpointed. Females can slip thru the cracks much faster.

Odd behaviors in a girl really count against you.
Many aspie traits are DANGEROUS when we reach an age of sexual maturity. I bet stats would put a big "V" for victim target on our foreheads for at least 80% of us.

Like avoiding predatory partners isn't hard enough for people how to have a regular understanding of social norms!
If we are even a little aware enough to attempt social "mainstreaming", we will have low self-esteem. Likely to have a much much smaller circle of true friends than the average girl.

And expectations are doubled! Already modern females are expected to bring home the bacon, fry it in the pan, yet take of the man.
Add some kids!

Though all is equal in custody court as far as "rights" to children, it is not equal during the timeline of most marriages. We (the fem gen) are still expected to be the primary caregivers and give up all sense of self. top take the "hit " for the "hometeam".

That is fine for me who had children as one of my "special interests". I was able to navigate. My children are well adjusted, and like me for myself as well as for my care of them.
But what about the majority of ASD moms?
Dads can get away with having less connection, standoffishness, touch issues.. crap most any issue but pedophilia or outright beating is handwaved. Moms... EVERYTHING is under the microscope. What is ignored in a father will get an instant "bad mother" label!
All is good with family support. Hostile in-laws? Life is hell. And pressured stress is likely to make a person with lower function/flexibilty make a truly harmful mistake. certainly, lead to a divorce unless the spouse is top-shelf material.


My view is that it is ultimately harder for women. Because the number of expectations is even greater in many more aspects (appearance/behavior/demeanor/abilities), the stress is there whether or not she reacts visibly to it

I, for sure, definitely DON'T have it easier than male autistics.

Being female simply means you have different issues than males. But they're not any less severe.

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Some girls can fake better, but underneath its still super duper hard.
Ive never been able to "fake" really well but I do try during professinal situations.

I'm still fairly curious of these females autistics that have it so easy

To answer the original question from 7 years ago: It depends on how good looking they are when they reach puberty/early adulthood.

Yes, for women beauty makes a big difference. For guys, it is having useful skills in the workplace. An engineering degree makes it a lot easier in society for guys. Or being gifted in "fixing stuff." Making stuff counts too!

It depends how you look at it.

Whether or not it is harder to be a female Aspie, I have no idea. I am a male Aspie.

It is without doubt that more female Aspies get partners and children.

Thus from one perspective it is easier being female; i.e. from the perspective that the point of life is to reproduce and carry on one's lineage; from that point of view female Aspies are more successful than male Aspies.

I don't know what it's like to bleed once a month or however often a period happens. So would I want to be female? I don't know, maybe not. I certainly think though that being an Aspie male is more often than not accompanied by social ostracism.