Are You Able to Hide Your Aspergers?

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People tend to find me creepy, but not because of the way I act but the way I look. When they observe the way I act I get considered shy, which is true.

EDIT: Why the hell is it that every topic I comment on dies? Am I hated or being offensive?

I can detect it in people who I know, or I can tell the differences between someone being socially awkward and someone just being a trouble-maker. Most NTs who don't understand about socially awkwardness tend to assume a lot of socially awkward people are trouble-makers, but I can detect when somebody's not intentionally causing trouble and when somebody is. It's called empathy, I have it, NTs don't.

I can't detect other Aspies if I don't know them, unless they're doing something that's physically common in Autistics like rocking backwards and forwards in public or covering their ears or having some sort of a meltdown or something, but otherwise if an Aspie passes me in the street and is just walking along like everyone else then I wouldn't recognise anything, even if they're walking with a funny posture I still wouldn't assume they're an Aspie because that's just overestimating, and not all NTs have a perfect posture either, I've seen people walk hunched or stiffly or whatever, posture can come from personality traits too.

I never even realized it with my best friend, who is ALMOST on the Spectrum ( his son definitely has Asperger's btw) but then I never knew about it in those years..
I to get the "Creep" epithet thrown at me, it must be my body language. I never knew why girls in college who did not even know me call me that. It made no sense, but maybe I stared or avoided eye contact too much? Still a puzzle.
By graduation I learned to blen in a bit more. Having "creep" yelled at you gets old pretty fast. Really!

Sincerely,
Matthew

I never tried to hide it because I never heard of it until a few years ago when I was bored at work and reading the dictionary. Most of my strange behaviors fell away during puberty but I still can't make or maintain friendships or relationships easily and I still have impulses to bang my head against things when I'm under severe stress. Nobody would know by looking at me that I'm any different from the next NT. They might not even realize it by talking to me, depending on what they're talking about, even though my voice sounds a bit harsh. Even my husband thought for years that I was just shy and emotionally fragile and unusually fidgety with my fingers.

most of the time you can hide it.
but if you go on to a socail event you most likly be noticed

Well, I never followed any fad at all, in clothing or looks. I just wore what was comfortable for me. No special "look" though I did display a lot of delayed echoing of stuff I saw/heard in TV & movies.
I still do not know why someone who knew me NOT AT ALL would call me a creep though. It does hurt when its the opposite sex saying it about you..

Sincerely,
Matthew

First of all, I don't care.

I do play my role on the stage of society but just for the practical aspect of it.
As to hiding I can't really say I succeed. Nobody thinks I'm an Aspie, just different. But in the end I'm not really hiding anything, just not publicly announcing. If anyone ask I confirm.
Being an Aspie to me is a pride, not a thing to hide.