Is Arguing All the Time an Autistic Trait?

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I will sometimes argue about factual matters, especially online (I'm not as adept at sparring verbally, in-person).

But over the last couple of years, and after alienating a couple of friends over my insistence at asserting my perspective, I've lost some of that old fire I once had. I still like a good vigorous debate now and then, but only insofar as the participants keep it in the abstract and refrain from making it personal. Otherwise, I find debating emotionally draining and it leaves me in a foul mood for the rest of the day.

I definitely find that I always always always have to be right/have the last word. However, I always put it down to being stubborn/ arrogant/ young and having to have the last word. I've been told that many grow out of it as they get older. I'm not sure if it's something that can be tagged back to ASD, for me.

Autistics tend to argue about things quite a lot. Where they generally differ from NTs is that they argue along rational, informed lines and enjoy the intellectual challenge of either proving their point or being convinced by the other person's opinion. All too often, arguments between NTs deteriorate into a slanging match.

I find I have a habit of, when someone tells me something, I'll say in what I deem to be a conversational tone "Oh! I thought it was X" as if to say "silly me" but I think people often take that to be me correcting or challenging them.

I argue constantly. It's a horrible trait that ruins my life.

Not one of mine, I back out if there is a potential argument, even if I wish I could give my opinion. I feel like I have to plan what I say in detail to sound certain or avoid running out of material while I'm trying to say it, so I know I won't sound reliable if I try to argue.