Is not finding babies cute an Aspie trait?

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Cute or not, I always prefer animals...

I always found Babies revolting dribbling and blowing bubbles, give me kittens and puppies anytime they are much cuter and nicer.

I really, really, really dislike babies, small children, and toddlers. Older children can be moderately OK. Depends on what they're interested in, if they like science they might be OK. Otherwise ugh, they're mainly loud, smelly, obnoxious and total brats!

I find babies fascinating. They are not like adults, not even like older children. They think and see the world differently. I love to see a young child learning how to do something.

The only time I found a baby interesting was one time my friend's baby was in a walker and I was feeding it baby food. It was opening it's mouth and getting excited when it saw the food. It was like feeding a little baby bird.

You guys who don't like babies should do a little bit of study on early childhood development. It really is interesting. Not everybody finds babies cute (especially true of people who've never had children)--but you may certainly find them fascinating subjects for observation. And, anyhow, you may have kids yourself some day, and you'll want to know about kids so you can understand better how your own kids learn and think. No matter how cute your own kids are or aren't, you will almost certainly care deeply about them and want to know as much as you can about them; so it never hurts to learn early. And, if you never want kids, what's to say you won't need to mentor or care for someone else's children?

I never understood why society actually enforces this idea that all babies are cute. I've seen some horibly looking babies and children in my life, so much so as to get an unmitigated exclamation of "Christs, what an ugly child!" on my part.

As its true to all human beings, some of them are aesthetically pleasing and others aren't.

For me, it goes for babies as for adults : some are cute, some are beautiful, some well... I prefer to look somewhere else.

And, just like adults, most are beautiful sometimes, and repulsive some other times. Depending on what they express. Ans, I guess, how I feel at that moment.

I don''t really like babies.

When I'm shown a picture of one, my mind also goes "yep that's a baby alright". I've never said it though.

I prefer cats

My own babies were the most gorgeous creatures in the universe.
Those of my friends' that I see often I can grow to like.
Other people's babies, not so much.

It is part of the "natural" human condition to want to reproduce, to have children and continue the line. Therefore, most people find babies cute because they represent this. This in spite of the fact that they're not visually appealing, they smell, and well... they're just gross.

As an adult with ASD I have no interest in reproducing. So that could be why babies don't appeal to me at all. When you look at people who are really far along the spectrum-- those who are completely withdrawn and can barely communicate-- they not only have no interest in having children, they are completely asexual. So it's fair to say that those with mild autism, that are still too self-absorbed to have any interest in reproducing, would not be turned on by babies, due to their autism.

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I've had a bad habit where I'll see a mother walking with her baby/child and then I'll stop and say "Dawwww, look at da' baybeeee!" (Even if the baby is 4 or 5) Then I'll move on after seeing what her face looks like, It's harmless fun. Hehe.

I never find babies cute. I find anything after that all the way to before middle school cute.

Neurologically, you aren't really wired to find babies cute until you interact with babies. During and right after pregnancy, there's a mental switch that flips that tells you "This is my baby; I should take care of them". People who aren't moms, but who interact with babies, also start to gradually like babies more. It's natural--we're wired to protect and raise the next generation. True of guys as well as girls, because humans in general have a pair-bonding/group social structure.

I'm willing to bet that if you guys who say you don't find babies cute were given a baby to take care of that you couldn't find someone else to baby-sit, you would still take care of said baby, and eventually start to find the baby appealing. I don't know whether you would find the baby cute, per se, but you would start to bond with it. Finding the baby cute isn't nearly as important as having the desire to protect the baby. You can look at a baby, see a wrinkled little ratlike creature, and still care about its well-being.