AS people = Beta males/females?

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I think it's entirely in the mind. People will argue that this is "well documented in the animal kingdom," the logic being animals are alpha/beta, humans are animals, therefore humans are alpha/beta. The problem with that is humans aren't "mere animals," and alpha/beta traits aren't even consistent across the animal kingdom. So I tend to reject the whole alpha/beta premise from the outset.

Now, I do think that SOME people tend to be dominant, and SOME people tend to be submissive. I'm not really a naturally dominant person. But I did once go up against a pretty extreme machismo alpha male type. He started out threatening to kill me. It didn't help that his gf was cheating on him with me. I don't really have that high a regard for my own life, so go ahead and kill me. lol That means you spend the rest of your life in prison, and you WON'T get your gf back. I win either way. Because you are a rapist and abuser and she doesn't have to put up with any more of your CRAP. So, yeah, go ahead and give it your best shot!

Well, the only reason I backed off is I was assured everything would be ok once everyone went back to their respective corners and let cooler heads prevail. This just changed the game from a physical fight to a battle of whits. Not that I'm all that bright, but I can stay in control of my own mind and emotions. Not only that, but it gave me time to logically demonstrate that she COULD get away from him. He ended up going to jail for a few hours until he somehow got enough bail money. But the whole experience frightened him enough he never came near us again. So by the time I impregnated his ex, it was pretty much a done deal. That's a whole other story…

Anyway…point being IF, and I stress IF there are such things as alphas/betas, exactly how do you define that, first of all; and second, exactly to what extent does it even matter? Most of the time, if I'm being honest, I'd have to say I'm pretty much a beta by most standards. But at times in my life I've also been fairly proactive and even aggressive in pursuing women I was attracted to on one level or another. Four women I slept with were virgins--NOT a fact I'm proud of, but it is what it is. Does that make me an alpha? Or is it some combination of that, pure dumb luck, or some instinctive ability to chase inexperienced women most guys don't really notice? If I'm the exception rather than the rule, I'm a pretty huge exception. So if the alpha/beta labels really have any meaning, I'm not convinced they're actually all that relevant.

I think people view me as being strong in some areas and weak in others.

Ex.
I was a really good student in school, but I was socially awkward and didn't have a real boyfriend. I was bullied, and I was quite the ugly duckling.

Now I stick to myself mostly. I don't socialize much. I care less and less about what people think as I get older. My family does view me as kind of a loser (still living at home, no car), but hey, I paid off my student loans which makes me better than most. I'm sure people think i'm a loser for not dating/ being married/ not having kids, but they can think what they want.

I think you can make up for social shortcomings by being good at something else, tbh. Find a niche and get good at it. Let your special interests guide the way.

Yeah, sure; in that beta testing is frequently my profession of choice.