Ticker wrote:
Are you an Asian male? If so I'm surprised if this is your experience with getting the short end of the stick. Well I admit they do put unreasonable expectations in US for Asians to be smart. But as far as the women go where I have lived women will nearly get in fist fights over Asian men. One lady I knew would have killed anyone of getting in her way of snagging this Korean martial arts master. She ended up marrying him and he dumped his girl in Korea. I always thought Asians are hot. The two Koreans on the tv show LOST are both sexy. I think a lot of women are attracted to Asian and other dark haired races more than they are other whites. I've hardly ever seen an Asian guy that was ugly I mean.
As far as the other stuff I'm confused. The info I heard on tv was they interviewed either his roommate or classmate who said Cho had no girlfriend.
The early reports said that he did have an 18 year old girl friend. Now they are saying that he had no girlfriend and had in fact been a stalker. In the coming weeks we will learn everything there is to learn about Cho. They have even interviewed his grade school teachers in Korea for possible leads.
For sure there are non-Asian women who like Asian men, just as there are non-Asian men who only seem to want to go out with Asian women. But as an identity, and an identity presupposes some kind of complex social interaction, being an Asian male does create all sorts of problems. We see in media the buddy relationships that Black men and White men strike up, especially in ultra-violent cop movies. As the Hispanic population grows, the reliable Hispanic guy type has also made a strong cameo. In these films, the minority guy is always someone the White guy can rely on. But with very few exceptions, Asian men do not make it to the same status. When you do see Asian men appear in cinema at all, you will not see them as a buddy of the White guy. Asian men are generally portrayed as asexual beings that are bespectacled math whizzes. And before the political correctness movement, it was popular to have the villain as an Oriental. There is an aloofness, a separateness, a wrong kind of respect that is accorded but not inclusion into the easy backslapping world of best buds.
In a sense, we are there but not there. We are sort of white, but not White. We are required to fit but we never do. There is just no proper place for Asian men in America. If you think an autistic White guy has it tough, think about what it is like for an autistic Asian guy. It is like being excluded twice just so that people can really get the message through that you are not wanted.
Still what Cho did is very disturbing to Asians as it is generally thought that as migrants, we must simply accept the mores of the White majority. There is this cultural sense that Asians are permanent guests in America which is why so many of them are perpetually searching for their roots. When a White guy talks of looking for his roots, it just sounds silly. You are American, what more do you want? And as guests, it is disgraceful to do anything to harm such gracious hosts. Most Asians will probably never apologize enough for what Cho did even though they can understand some of the causality that the Asian label forces upon them.