Are you "okay" with having Asperger's?

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Interesting responses here... wow.

So yeah, I am OK with it, more than. My son is even more pronounced with ASD. Its hard raising a child like that when everything he does irritates you for some reason. But I have made my peace with it.

My current challenge is to get myself employable somewhere, and run with it, preferably something creative, just a real pity the bar is so high at Disney/Pixar and I am in the wrong country. Companies and managers don't give a toss about me and my issues and see my inability to cope with fast-pacing as me "being lazy". Take for example software development. At some stage of it, you need to clean and refactor all the crap you put in to get the product out the door, and make the thing better. If you run Agile, this is basically standard operating procedure. But no, where I work, let's run it like a sweatshop in Pakistan, no breaks, no lunch, and you get into trouble if you go to the toilet too often. I am sorry I cannot concentrate for that long at a stretch.

Early in the new year I am going to see a life coach so we can figure out what my strengths are and take it from there. Career Change? Most bloody likely, move to another part of the country or even perhaps emigration? Again, most bloody likely.

I would rather continue having Asperger's than be neurotypical regardless of how much easier I might have it.

Yes, now that an assessment with a recognised tool has confirmed the suspicions I had.

Lots of relief and gratitude as well.

Enough skills, specialist knowledge, manners and courtesy conventions learned well enough to stay with one large organisation for over three decades with sideways moves building breadth of knowledge,

Balancing enough Aspie traits that a number of informed people tell me they can spot a mile away.

Slight sadness, having failed in landing conventional romance and family way of life balanced by gratitude for my own home home and space to look after my own sensory requirement outside work time.

I think the question is invalid. It's not like we have much of a choice now, do we? I accept my autism because I have to, but if I had the choice of course I'd rather have a healthy, more fulfilling life. Still, no point in being bitter about things that can't be changed. Make the best of life and be satisfied with what it gives you.

Thank you for your responses =]

The question isn't invalid. I'm asking if you are at peace with the permanence of your condition. Answering by saying "what does it matter, it's permanent" is invalid, because that's not the question asked. However you have answered already by saying that if you had a choice you would be neurotypical. That suggests not being okay with it (even if you accept that it can't be changed), which is the question I was asking.

I am okay with it.

I think I would still be the same person if I was normal, just without the challanges due to AS. However, hating it won't change anything. This is just how my life is, and I'm comfortable with that.

I am not okay with having it a lot of people have left my life because of it I cry every night I just want to be normal my only friends are my 3 horses and 1 dog they are all I have plus my uncle and my mom and dad I hate it.