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18 Jun 2019, 5:24 pm

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If you are depressed then you're living in the past. If you are anxious then you're living in the future. If you are at peace then you're living in the present. The past is a memory. The future is a fantasy. Only the present matters.

There are a lot of obstacles in life. You can try to walk around them, pretend they're not there, pretend not to care, and pretend that they are all someone else's fault. But in the end, the only person that you would be fooling is yourself.

The bottom line is this: life is about learning, whether you're in school or not. We are human. We make mistakes. But your lowest moment might also be the one where you begin to rise, and rise. So double back. Regroup. Brush yourself off, and try again.


Instead of focusing on things that we can’t change that are out of our control, we need to put energy into working on what we can change.

I get inspired by reading about people who rose above any number of challenging circumstances instead of admitting defeat.


I wish that was feasible for me but everything in my life tells me it isn't.

I always had the "God's plan" BS shoved down my throat and was led to believe that God would do everything for me so I just had to sit back and wait. It ended up being a deconstructive outlook for me on all levels.



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18 Jun 2019, 5:57 pm

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I wish that was feasible for me but everything in my life tells me it isn't.

I always had the "God's plan" BS shoved down my throat and was led to believe that God would do everything for me so I just had to sit back and wait. It ended up being a deconstructive outlook for me on all levels.


but now that you see the pattern you can take over your own narrative. If you know what doesn't work you are one step closer to figuring out what does.


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18 Jun 2019, 9:23 pm

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There’s always time. There’s no reason to give up on the things one wants to do at 31.


But why is it that so many people before and after me have achieved those milestones before they hit their 30's but I have not? All of my siblings have graduated college, have careers, started families, and they achieved those things before their 30's (One of them is still in his 20's but he's achieved more than I have). Why have they succeeded while I have only had failures?


“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

—Teddy Roosevelt

We need to carve out our own paths. There’s nothing wrong with breaking the mold.


Self-actualisation is dependent on this.

In addition, the "ideal aspie" focuses on picking oneself up rather than pulling others down, so as to encourage emotional and intellectual growth and be at peace with the universe.

Much of NT society works on comparisons/competition at the expense of others.
Works well in times of war.
But isn't the best strategy for realising our unique, personal potential.

The wise old sage has thus spoken.
Heed my words carefully, my children.
It is, after all, the way to salvation.

<the Oracle of Truth assumes the lotus position to meditate on further great pearls of wisdom>
<the chanting ritual begins>
Om mani padme hum...

https://youtu.be/nCIbASEmPY4



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19 Jun 2019, 5:56 pm

I’ve been thinking about the poem:

“Do not go gentle into that good night” by Dylan Thomas.

The poem is speaking about death, of course, but I was thinking that while we’re still alive, while we still have breath, we should be fighting:

“Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

This poem has been in my head the past couple of days. I’m not sure why.



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19 Jun 2019, 5:57 pm

It's about a person who doesn't WANT to die....

He/she doesn't want to concede his/her entry into Heaven just yet......

(I said "he" originally because the poet, Dylan Thomas, is male).



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19 Jun 2019, 6:01 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
It's about a person who doesn't WANT to die....

He doesn't want to concede his entry into Heaven just yet......


In the poem, a son is telling his father not to give up, but not giving up is applicable to wherever we are in life’s journey.



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19 Jun 2019, 6:37 pm

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“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.”

—Thoreau

Trying to live deliberately is a noble goal.


“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.”

– Albert Einstein


I always feel better after a walk in the woods. It helps to put things into perspective, and I find it comforting. I grew up in the woods, though.


sounds lovely! but there are not many woods where I live (Scotland) :D I can't hide behind the trees


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19 Jun 2019, 6:39 pm

How about the Scottish Highlands?



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19 Jun 2019, 6:40 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
How about the Scottish Highlands?


Good point! I need to get away from the city!


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19 Jun 2019, 6:40 pm

Gallia wrote:
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“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.”

—Thoreau

Trying to live deliberately is a noble goal.


“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.”

– Albert Einstein


I always feel better after a walk in the woods. It helps to put things into perspective, and I find it comforting. I grew up in the woods, though.


sounds lovely! but there are not many woods where I live (Scotland) :D I can't hide behind the trees


It doesn’t have to be in the woods. Any quiet, natural setting would probably do. Some people feel the same way about a quiet beach as I do about the woods.



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19 Jun 2019, 6:42 pm

Scotland in general has a lot of hills and not as many woods but the scenery is gorgeous. shame it's so expensive to get around!

https://www.google.com/search?safe=stri ... 2-mvOO7vaw


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19 Jun 2019, 6:43 pm

Beautiful! I’ve always wanted to go to Scotland.



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19 Jun 2019, 6:43 pm

How about the Scottish Hebrides?



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19 Jun 2019, 6:44 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:

It doesn’t have to be in the woods. Any quiet, natural setting would probably do. Some people feel the same way about a quiet beach as I do about the woods.



good call ^^


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19 Jun 2019, 6:45 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
How about the Scottish Hebrides?


extremely remote from Edinburgh ahah but consider it a challenge accepted :D


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19 Jun 2019, 6:58 pm

Trueno wrote:
Never suffer fools gladly
In fact, never suffer fools at all

Just smile and nod

Always take the option that involves less energy... automatic doors... escalators... etc...

The rest is just winging it


I agree with the first part...but "smile and nod" is very much suffering fools. Not only that, it implies agreement with and lends legitimacy to fools, fascists, bullies, idiots and evil of every description. I'd rather call out fools and bullies; I sleep better at night and maybe I've done some good.


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