AS and Sexuality again...

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l am female but think like a 'male' as far as social stuff apparently. I came out as gay in my early 20's. I am femme but I don't really get along with 'femmey' girls that much. It's weird.

I still identify as a girl. Kind of between being a tomboy and a girly-girl. I like makeup but when I was a kid I played with Star Wars toys and now I'm really into video games and stuff. But I'm bisexual. I don't like getting involved in the gay community--the pride parades and all of that--because it seems kind of ridiculous to me and I think homosexuals have more to gain by showing they can integrate in society instead of parodying themselves. Really, bisexual is just a convenient word I can use to describe the way I am attracted to people. Not much of an identity for me.

I was kind of surprised there were so many transgendered people on here but that's really interesting. There might be something that makes people on the autism spectrum more likely to be on that spectrum as well.

I'm male but fairly asexual (in that I don't feel driven by a desire to have sex, so that on the rare occasions that it occurs it's a pleasant surprise).
A lot of my female friends are Lesbians (no mixed messages there).

I'm 100% perfectly comfortable with my gender: I'm male and I like it. But I don't like the opposite sex, I like people my own gender.

I'm definitely outside the norm: I'm bisexual, have multiple partners, and don't ever see myself settling down monogamously.

As I wrote above, there are a few sexual / gender differences between Aspies and NTs, but they do not primarily concern homosexuality or bisexuality. It could also be true that socialization plays a role in gender typical behaviors, but I don't think this is the whole truth that can explain these differences in Aspies.

To get an idea about what these are, people can read studies on autism and sexuality. There are a few interesting, for instance a danish study.

I'm asexual, but have a couple of tendencies that may be of a sexual nature but may also be some autistic thing. I've tried to research it, and found nothing. Anyway, the only person I've told about this is the psychiatrist who assessed me, and I'm still waiting for my report. I would like to see if anything has been said about it in there, and then maybe I could get some clarification on what it is. For now, I feel that it's too private to post about here.

I'd consider myself as bi-sexual - I am female, and happily living with a male, but through my life I'm attracted to people. It doesn't matter what gender they are, just as it doesn't matter how tall / short they are, what colour their skin/hair/eyes are, what religion they have (if any), if they like sport (or not)... It's all just something that makes up who they, as a person, are and if they can be happy with themselves and with me and I can be happy with them, then yey!

Yes, gender can give you gender specific self-confidence, and nearly every kind of self-confidence is sexy. I'm definately female, happy about being female, wear things to emphasise my femininity (yup - boobs) when I want to, wear a nice dress to a fancy "do", but also enjoy slouching around the house in jeans and a T-shirt/jumper when I just want to be comfy...

Before I met my partner, if I just want hanky-panky, then men were easier to pull (and to be fair, that's all most of them were interested in too); if I wanted a relationship, it didn't matter what gender the person was as long as I felt I could be happy with them and they could be happy with me.

[I realise I'm replying to a really old thread - blame Warsie from here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt99839.html as I think my reply is more relevant to this topic than the one it's linked from ]

I don't lend the idea of gender much credence to myself, subjectively. I feel as if the whole idea of what men and women "are", determined culturally, are more or less illegitimate extrapolations from legitimate psychological and even sexual differences (For example, women are by and large physically weaker. That's a sexual fact, because their inferior strength are not culturally derived, unverifiable, unfalsifiable "Facts" pertaining to the ultimate nature of the sexes. Therefore, the men, by and large, extend this to it's "Logical" end, designating themselves as the provider for their families, never once considering variables such as the possibility of the womens' superior or equal psychological strength and drive to serve that same role, which may inspire her to, given the chance, excel at certain tasks, despite being less strong physically.) which are wholly unnecessary. I'm comfortable with my sex, but what I am characteristically is what I am as an individual human being, not as a member of either supposed gender. It's much simpler and sensible to label myself in that respect than it is to lay out my individual characteristics and say I'm more "Masculine" or "Feminine". I suppose I could say I'm androgynous, but that'd be saying I'm unidentifiable as either a member of the male gender or the female one and again, those for me are unnecessary assumptions which I don't feel I need to assume the existence of (Unlike murder being wrong). Therefore, why should I, again?


Also, I'm straight. One unorthodox thing you could say about my views on sexual relationships is that I believe in Polyamory/Open relationships from a philosophical standpoint. That doesn't mean I'll necessary enter one; just that I am certainly open to the concept of entering one or having a partner in one, so long as there is mutual consent on both ends to do so. As long as everybody's honest and responsible adults and nobody's sneaking behind anybody's back, I fail to see the "Immorality" inherent in such an arrangement.

Gender neutural here. Have always been a 14 year old boy at heart and always will be. Have only had straight relationships but am now single and intend to stay that way for the rest of my life...

I am a gay female (don't like the L word) and a demisexual.

Needless to say never had any relationships or sex or anything!

I think there is more likelihood for an Aspie to "test the waters" so to speak, regarding sexuality, than maybe an NT.

I am just no typical girl. As a child, when my friends were playing with barbie dolls, I choosed to play with the barbie horse and be the monster which would come out and destroy the barbie houses etc. at night.
If I put on very feminine clothes I sometimes can look like a transvestite when walking (this is a little exaggerated).
Its like I dont value gender as much as normal people; Im a person.
Sometimes I like to be more feminine than other times, and the differense is big, so people are used to be surprised that I change my style.