List one NT thing you do not understand.

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At the risk of being controversial...the way they sometimes can't seem to understand, that despite computers hitting the mainstream, aspies still do (and likely always will) have the upper hand over NTs when it comes to using computers. There's just something about them which makes unusual sense to the autistic mind.

It really annoys me when people say, "I wish I had your brains." I always think, no, you wouldn't. It comes with a lot of things that you really wouldn't want. It's all or nothing. You don't get to choose what you want.

Lol. Along the same lines, I don't get when an NT makes a criticism of an aspie and says "you're so great except for *insert one or two extremely offputting asperger traits here*, why can't you just change that part? Then you'd be perfect." It just doesn't work that way, that's why!

Why they don't seem to hear you if you talk while they're watching TV.

Why they think that just because South Park or The Simpsons or Family Guy are cartoons it means they're for kids.
That annoys me - if they were for kids they'd include them in Children's Programmes, which come on at 3.30 every afternoon from Monday to Friday (well, I think they're still on at those times). But they put South Park on at, like, 10.30 at nights sometimes. And South Park can be disgusting - even if I had a child of 14 I wouldn't let him or her watch it.
And The Simpsons is so cool - it's one of those popular things what's good for kids to like but aren't exclusively aimed for kids.

I'm not keen on Family Guy, it's a bit too far-fetched. It's supposed to be about real family life, but how can it be if the dog talks and the baby talks? I know it's only a cartoon but usually those sorts of comedy cartoons are more realistic. (I suppose people are like, ''why are the Simpsons yellow''?)

And another one (before I forget), how come people always look (and, if they're horrible enough, sometimes laugh) at the victim instead of the villain? Say if I was walking along and somebody just randomly came up to me and intentionally pushed me over, everyone would probably stare at me as though I'm the stupid one, instead of the person who pushed me (who is obviously the foolish idiot).

(This isn't a victim and villain scenario, but it's the same sort of thing as what I'm trying to say):-
The other day I was sitting on the bus, and a man got on, and when he was walking up the aisle to a seat, the bus pulled off quickly and he fell right on to me. He said sorry, and I knew it wasn't intentional so I said, ''no worries, mate'' and he went to sit down. But everybody in the bus were looking at me, and 2 teenage girls kept on laughing at me the rest of the journey home, and I kept thinking, ''why are they laughing at me? So a man fell on me - big deal! Life goes on!''
Would they still of laughed at me if I was the one who fell on someone, or would the person who I fell on to be laughed at?

Also, once I saw somebody screaing offensive abuse at another person right in the middle of a shopping centre, but nobody was looking at this crazy person - they all seemed to be looking at the person being shouted at - who was just standing there innocently, feeling humiliated. I looked at the person who was shouting and swearing because she was the one showing herself up - not the poor victim.

Just the basic...untruth. I don't want to say lying because it's not lying in the standard "to be mean or get away with something" sense, but just the lack of truth.
This is (IMO) the thing that makes me the most socially awkward. I never know if I should trust people or believe what they say. I never trust that people actually want me around. I always figure they include me out of pity or obligation.
'Fake' people drive me absolutely NUTS.
And blunt honesty pisses NTs off something fierce

My hubby says I am just a dude with lady parts. Guess I think more like a guy.

In that situation, I look at the victim, and try to send the message that I sympathize with them. I don't know how much of that is actually received.

I never understood why people make victims out to be the bad guys like why must they apologize first, why is it bad when they stand up for themselves, why is it bad when they get so upset when someone is teasing them?

I don't know how, but I always can tell the difference between somebody wanting to have me around and somebody not wanting to have me around. I couldn't explain how I know to anybody, not even to myself, because the answer why is just too complex to explain why. I think it's just a Theory of Mind thing. I think it's rare for an Aspie to be able to sense what other people are thinking, but I seem to know. I can suss out whether somebody is lying, or whether somebody is just not all the ticket, or whatever the case may be. (Stop me if I'm wrong about using Theory of Mind being rare for an Aspie - it was just what I've interpreted amoung the topic on WP. I may be wrong, because I don't know if Theory of Mind are the right words, it might be something else).

When they constantly dye their hair every couple of weeks. Last week the bathroom was covered in red hair dye and today I found a box of black hair dye on the basin. I mean really? It's like this person changes their hair colour as often as I change my shirt.

How can women wear noisy shoes without driving themselves crazy?

Hah, maybe because so many people seem to enjoy getting looked at/attention, and the shoes are just another way to make people notice them? Who knows.
What I don't understand right now is the insistance on permanence in a world of uncertainties. The black and white, final categories. You're male, or female. You can't be both, or neither, or one for part of your life and the other for another part. You're gay, or straight - not both (the amount of crap people seem to put on bisexual people is crazy) or neither, or one sometimes and another at another time, or something else entirely. You're supposed to stay at the same job, in the same industry - not change your job every year. You're supposed to have one name, that given at birth, for your whole life, the exception possibly if you're female and get married. You're not supposed to change your name for no reason. You're supposed to stay at the same house or flat - not move every couple of years. In a world with so many possibilities, why do people seem to insist ou stay just one thing? Why do they need these words to contain them?

My Mum and I don't get along. We were texting each other two months ago (my last contact with her) and she was getting angry with me. I asked her a question about why she was being horrible and she replied with a text saying "no text, call me". I texted her back to say "I don't like talking on phones, can we please continue to text?" and she replied "I can't say this via text, call me".

What on earth can't be said by text?? If you can speak it, you can write it, its still English and it still contains words!

So I ignored her and didn't call her back.

She knows I have AS and that I have a phone call anxiety. My friend has to call people on my behalf!

This annoys me too. One of my cousins dyes her hair every five minutes - also with completely opposite colours. Her natural hair colour is light brown, and she has a tanned colour skin, but she's now dyed her hair bright blonde and it looks awful on her! (She had dyed it black last year, and that look awful on her too).

I understand highlights, but not dying your hair opposite colours all the time. I really don't know what the attractiveness is in that. They just can't leave their hair alone.

I'm female, I hate my hair colour, but I'm not going to go and dye it black tomorrow. If I wanted to, I'd just have highlights.

I didn't read all 63 pages of this, so I don't know if this one was mentioned, or if this even has anything to do with AS at all. I have always been bewildered and annoyed by peoples' irrational fears. People who freak out when they see a bug, or have an intense fear of snakes or spiders or whatever. Telling them that less than one 5th of all snake species are venomous and that that particular one is harmless makes no difference. I just hate when people are afraid of stupid things that can't hurt them.

Another thing I can never grasp is the hysteria surrounding football. Or any sport for that matter, but particularly the way people get over football around here. I live in western PA - SERIOUS football country. Yes, I fully understand and appreciate how people become products of their environment and get into the stuff that everyone else is into, but the extreme level to which people get fired up over football is seriously dizzying. The only thing I can think of is that the phenomenon serves as a societal safety valve and the tremendous fervor is coming from something more primal than is immediately apparent.

Sure, I understand that. I just do not understand how they can do it. After five minutes of "click, click, click", I would have to fight the urge to take off my shoes and throw them as far as I could. It is the Chinese Water Torture, with heels.