I find that I need to go back a step or two. I have been researching autism spectrum disorders for some time because my 8 year old has suffered some pretty profound developmental, learning, and communication/speach delays since she was an infant. No one has even been able to give her a diagnosis. At any rate, while researching Aspergers, I realized my boyfriend had a shocking number of things in common with those who have the disorder. After that, I found the AS Quotient Test online. I tried to have him take it, but he had difficulty answering the questions, because he takes everything so literally (helllllo?), so I attempted to answer them for him, knowing his personality and behaviors fairly well. I know it may not be terribly accurate, but his score was a 37 (mine, incidentally was an 11). Upon hearing this, he became very upset. He firmly denies that he may have any type of autism, and is insulted by the insinuation. I, however, was a little relieved! There have been times I have been deeply frustrated and worried by his seeming total apathy. For me, this answers so many questions, and I find the prospect of him having AS relatively undaunting. I have already lived with it for over 2 years, and I lived for 6 before that with my daughters issues. There is an abundance of information at my fingertips now that I have a search word: 'aspergers'. What I struggle with now, is HOW oh HOW do I empathize, relate, or support my partner without upsetting or (further) alienating him??? Please help!