Are there some things you just can't grasp?

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I like to imagine worlds while taking walks, mostly. I find it's difficult to properly daydream when I'm not doing something else.

Sometimes my daydreaming gets outlined in worldbuilding terms. I hope to get some fiction published.

Measurements and English - like weights especially, one reason why I've never asked for anything at a deli counter, and with English because I was late to learn due to being mute I still don't grasp things like adjectives, verbs, etc. Measurements and English I missed out learning in school as I was especially 'autistic' at the time, if I miss things first time round I struggle; it could be something really easy, I could actually do whatever it is, but I'll not totally 'get' it.

Finances - mortgages, pensions, savings, insurance - all things I'll never be well-off enough to have, so I don't suppose it matters.
How people afford to live in houses, I just don't understand how people with similar incomes can afford to privately rent or buy houses, when we'll barely be able to afford to rent local authority, if we ever get anything as there's not enough available. People then fill their houses with nice things like sofas and TV's when my stuff is falling apart but I can barely afford a throw to cover up my 4th hand scruffy sofa. How people afford holidays, I've never been on holiday and it makes me so sad, I don't get how others manage to afford holidays.

Further education - how you apply for university, or even part-time college courses, this is one reason why I never went to university, I just didn't understand the process of applying for university, I'm in a part-time college course now but only because someone from student support guided me through it, no idea how to apply for anything else more useful.

How to get a job - I've had one before, but now I've been unemployed for three years, my issues with asperger's are worse, I was fired from my last job, I have no references, I am supposed to be applying for retail work but don't even know how. I want better job prospects but don't know how, and I don't get why no one is able to offer advice or support.

How not to babble - I babble a lot (can you tell?) and I'm long-winded, but if I have a lot of information to communicate I don't understand how to shorten it, like online some people can answer questions with one sentence, where as for me it'll take paragraphs.

Why I must feel certain ways - I'm an abuse survivor a few times over...so I must be traumatised for life, mothers must feel instant love without ever feeling anything negative about their children or else they're a bad mother, women who suffer miscarriage must feel depressed so much so that the word 'miscarriage' can never be uttered around them and they can't talk about the more gory details or legal issues to help others or else they're bad mothers, why feeling depressed because your life sucks isn't socially acceptable, and why everyone feels the need to say sorry when someone you know has died...even decades after.

IKEA - I don't know why, but that store just confuses me, I just don't get the concept.

Twitter - I have an account, but I still don't get it.

Poker - sucks as it's one 'guy activity' I can't participate in.

Magic eye pictures - never got them...then realised I really didn't give a toss anyway.

How people don't get algebra or the ontological argument - sorry, these were easy for me, I don't understand why others find them hard.

Why people put up with being uncomfortable or doing things difficultly - more so when they complain about it, there are always more comfortable or better ways of doing things, ways of making things easier, so do something about it! You can even tell people something that'll make things easier and more comfortable, but some seem to like to suffer.

Mother daughter relationships and female friendships - you see mothers and daughters so close, groups of female friends together, female best friends, there's something very different between them and other friendships, but I don't understand what that is or how they got it. I can't even be around other women, I could never have a female friend like that.

What people in their 30's onwards do - I'll be in my 30's soon, it seems that at 30-40 you stop going clubbing, so what on earth do you do to have fun and socialise at the weekends, they just vanish from clubs...are we supposed to start hosting dinner parties, have date nights, go round to friends for a glass of wine or something? It's like you have to grow-up and start doing these sensible things, you're no longer allowed to do what you did in your teens or twenties, I can't even imagine being like this.

People who have sex without a basic understanding - sure sex education sucks, but surely at some point before you have sex it should dawn on you that you don't know the necessary information about your own bodies, conception or sex. You see people getting freaked-out over the smallest and most bazaar things to do with sex and their bodies because they just lack any basic knowledge.

People who read newspapers - maybe it's different outside the UK, but here newspapers are very specific to certain political ideas etc. so newspapers in particular are very biased, only certain people read certain papers that share those people's views, I don't see the point of reading news if it's just giving you your own views right back to you.

The term 'what's up' - I get they don't mean literally what's up, like the answer wouldn't be 'the sky, the sky is 'up', but do they mean what's happening, what are you up to, how are you, what have you been doing, etc.

People being grossed out by their own bodies - things like bodily functions and their own genitals, it's like they're part of your body, no different to your elbow or mouth, why on earth are you so grossed out or so freaked out you can't even touch your own anatomy?!

Religion - but I don't get it in a good way, always one of my 'special interests' I just find it baffling how people can be religious in the sense of believing in what they do, I remember in school when everyone was singing hymns thinking 'Who is this Jesus guy anyway?' I just don't understand the belief in something like that...it's fascinating though.

Lots of annoying people stuff;
wilful ignorance, when people argue against things like definitions as if because they don't understand or like the definition that it's open for discussion, when people are totally blinkered to anything going on around them, when people refuse to care about things even though they effect them, when people can't think about something with common sense and more so if its something they know but just haven't 2+2 together, the issue of 'girlhate', refusing to think about things differently, refusing to consider something that may be of benefit to them, also intolerance....racism, homophobia, I just don't get why they have to be issues.

Lots of social things;
small talk, how to casually chat to strangers or shop staff, trying to be someone you're not, the idea of not doing something that feels right because you don't think it's normal or acceptable, how to make and maintain friendships, how to know when you are really friends with someone, how to just date someone as all my relationships are long-term I just don't see the point in short-term, how some people can have one night stands, why saying someone is fat is offensive, what's fun about fancy dress, and I don't understand fun at all.

People being afraid of rodents or bugs. What's there to be afraid about and why do some people freak out when they see a road kill or see a live animal on the road? My cousin made me tense when she was acting like a drama queen when she see a live deer or a live skunk or a road kill and my mom freaks out over mice when she sees one in her house and she has freaked out when she see spiders crawling on her. I enjoyed her reactions to them when I was four years old so I always loved going for walks in the forest with her below our neighborhood so I hear her make those sounds. Then one day we went down there and all of the trees and weeds and wild flowers had been cut and plowed out of there and it was all dirt. They built houses there eventually.

Water*





*That was a joke

There are two big things that I simply can not grasp, no matter how hard I try.

The first concept is algebra. The algebra with the letters in place of numbers, I just can't grasp it. I have tried to the point of tears. If you replace those letters with numbers, I can do all the algebra you give me.

The other concept is the concept of god/gods/spiritual things. I understand why people would believe in those things, I just don't get it. It all seems silly and pointless to me. I also don't really get philosophy either, but to be fair I haven't looked that much into it. I have, however, looked into the whole god concept, but the more I look into it, the more I just don't understand it. It is all just so silly to me, and so many people take it so seriously.

Another thing I cannot grasp, if people take the bible so literal, then shouldn't they be against cars and other automobiles and electricity and other things that didn't even exist back in the days when Jesus Christ was still alive? So to say people are taking it too literal because they say fetishes are a sin or homosexuality just because it's not in the bible, I call BS on that because they will mind as well be against everything else that isn't in the bible.


Another thing I cannot grasp is if my ex aspie mate was able to figure out guest behavior, how come he couldn't figure out that at school him being manipulative and violent to get his way doesn't work there but it will at home with his mother. He sure didn't do that with me nor with my parents and his excuse was because he is a guest but yet did it to my brothers. But when his dad be home, he wasn't as manipulative because he knew the difference between mom's rules and dad's rules and knew when dad is home, rules are now dad's rules. So why oh why couldn't he figure out he cannot do that at school?

And one last thing I can't grasp is how dumb people can be. Like the time that one woman locked herself in the car so she called 911 or how someone managed to put her SNES games in the dishwasher to clean them and then expected they could get repaired or some other guy buying 007 Goldeneye and then brings the game back in pieces because he tried to fit it in his computer thinking he can play it and because that didn't work, he takes it back thinking he will get his money back. Really, how can anyone be this stupid?

Pig Latin. I just can't understand how it's done and the rules of it.

I had a terrible time understanding the proof to Sylow's theorem.

ruveyn

Symbolism in novels - if it's not spoon fed to me, I never figure it out.

Reading novels - how do people enjoy that?

Walking as entertainment - that's one of the most boring things I can think to do, at least listen to some music while you do it.

Small talk - I do not care, 'nuff said.

Figures of speech - I understand them, but why don't we just say what we mean?

Religious extremists - because science is always wrong all the time, right?

Hell - well, where the hell is it?

Racism - Prejudice is understandable sometimes, but I have a hard time believing that people really can be racist.

Milk - lets pull on that thing and drink that white stuff that comes out.

Chopsticks - forks are the superior utensil.

Flying upside down - I still don't get it

Birds - how does flapping wings produce lift?

SSD's - why do they have to be so expensive?

Teachers - who seriously goes to school their entire life only to end back up in school?

Facebook - I just don't get it.

Geography - whats so hard about it? I can't believe 95% of the population does not even know how to find their own country on a map.

Insurance companies - socialism? Bring it on!

General Motors - how hard is it to make a car that actually works more than half the time?

Electric cars - how hard is it to put some solar panels on the roof and hood? There you go, problem solved.

Procrastinators - so you have two weeks to do a project. Why is it so difficult to divide up the work load by 14?

Technology - I get so sick of people saying it just doesn't like them. No. Its almost always a user error.

Showing emotions in public - when and when not to?

Bill Gates and Microsoft - why do I have to pay so much for his crap? Doesn't he have enough money?

Writing fiction - I've seen second graders do it better than me.

Hard copies - who needs printers, digital distribution is what we should all be using.

"Hi, how are you?" - If you don't care, then don't ask.

LED light bulbs - what took so long?

Minimalism - why is that such a problem?

Sports - congratulations, you can throw a ball around. That is so much fun.

Spirituality. Philosophy. Finances. Politics. Government.
(These terms and a lot of terms under their umbrella are gibberish to me. I have little concept of them.)

Boredom when not forced into an activity.

Sometimes, that other people exist and have emotions and thoughts. This applies very much so to other animals. I feel completely blocked from any experiencing things in their shoes, and thus they are often incomprehensible to me and seem so alien.

I can not grasp sometimes the difference between lying and changing ones mind. I'm so very rigid.

That people want things to last forever or pretend that they do, especially human relationships and human life. If something dies it is just the way of things, to make room for new things. If a couple grows bored of each other they're ready to move on. It seems incredibly obvious to me.

Emotional trauma to some extent.

Top Five:

1. Time. Time is not a tangible thing, therefore I don't understand it except as numbers associated with events and clock faces. I have no sense of time, and I don't think I will ever be able to understand the theory of relativity despite having tried very hard to get the most basic gist for the past ten years.

2. Why people care whether or not I make eye contact with them. I don't understand why this is so important--particularly when you know somebody like me probably doesn't see much, if anything, when they look into your eyes, regardless of what's there.

3. Why people make fun of each other and where the line is between "friendly teasing" and teasing that ranges from insensitive and hurtful to downright cruel (if it exists).

4. The meaning of the word "abstract" (beyond its use as a word that denotes the summary of an academic paper).

5. Why exactly language evolved in such a way as to be extremely indirect, in the sense that it's often more about what's "between the lines" than about the lines themselves....it seems to defeat the purpose.