Never getting to go to college .
It's a pretty grand offer, and you're right, it's a lot for him to take in.
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Personally, I'd be contacting her by PM and VERY, VERY politely inquiring if she would consider giving me her phone number and accept a collect call so we could speak directly.
The offer is real and on the level.
I will say though, . . .
. . . it's not an unconditional offer. . . .
I hope he is on the level.
. . . I'm not falling for the whole "but I need money for this and that", and then he vanishes off the face of the planet in some drunken haze - not gonna happen.
I'm not entirely sure, from your response, if I may have been misunderstood. In case I have been, I will attempt to clarify my meaning.
I do not mean to be casting doubt on the genuineness of your offer, nor your sincerity in making it. Personally, I am largely convinced of both. I also do not intend to downplay the fact that you are taking a bigger risk than he, if your generousity is accepted. The conditions you place on the offer seem eminently reasonable to me, as does your mention of your patience, and by extension your offer, having a shelf life.
I further recognize, and agree with, your point (in another post) that his response thus far has not been encouraging.
It is, however, understandable that a vunerable person who has recently been preyed upon by persons with a duty to protect his best interests may reasonably feel suspicious when someone offers unexpected level of support. This understanding, of course, assumes that HIS story is substantially true and complete. I'm hoping to encourage ASS-P to at least investigate the possibility that you are, in fact, sincere, rather than allow his suspicions to convince him to dismiss the offer out of hand. This IS the internet, and the simple fact that you have made an offer does not, in and of itself, prove that the offer is valid. I am trying to point out how self-defeating it would be for him to make no effort to verify whether it is or not.
If you feel that my comments are conterproductive, or that I am sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, let me know and I'll bow out. In any case, I hope it is clear that I have meant no offense to you - or to ASS-P, for that matter.
...Anything else aside , saying " I'll blow your brains all over the wall " is a sign of someone to be wary of , ( Which does not mean that one should not say " Don't be a faker/victimize us ( try to )/do anything bad " , of course . )...Going further than that into that specific a threat is something to be wary of , certainly on the part of the prospective brains splat-ee .
You are very good at quoting people out of context. I said that if you turned out to be some kind of kiddy fiddler and thought you would have your way with my two daughters, I would have no trouble blowing your brains across the wall.
ASS-P, you don't seem to want the help. Consider the offer closed and void.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do with your life.
You are very good at quoting people out of context. I said that if you turned out to be some kind of kiddy fiddler and thought you would have your way with my two daughters, I would have no trouble blowing your brains across the wall.
ASS-P, you don't seem to want the help. Consider the offer closed and void.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do with your life.
...If you're going to declare something closed based upon one comment , I think that that is a sign that it wasn't a very serious offer .
Your " blow/splatter "* threat , as it happens , was not just directed at prospective interference with your children , but at prspective other things as well , speaking of " quoting people out of context " .
I would not want to do any of the " lesser " bad things that the " splatter " comment was stated as an answer to , should such things happen , let alone interference...Again , you got rather " firey " , did use this language apart frrom interference , and now have racted immediately emotionally to my saying something - which was not a rejection - instantly !
To put it mildly , our temperments(Sp??) appear to not match !
Were I to go elsewhere , I would of course need to clean up , put on some new clothes ,and , carrying a suitcase with at least a second pair of clothes and some necessities and something to read , take a plane or a bus to Whereverville .
How would this be paid for ?
Oh , and a person who handles themself "____Girl " stands a fairly good chance of being underage (or " just past " said stage , 18-25 , especially if an Aspie , after all , I guess )...Need I say more ?
Frankly , too , I don't have a lot of skills - Computers ? I am not a computer genius by virtue of being as Aspie , and even as far as typing I am not a " trained " typist ( I look at the board while typing . ) . Physical stuff - there's that " diabetic ulcer on the bottom of my feet " pesky thangwhich I've had , non-stop/close to it , for years , another manifestation of something that already led to 1/2 a toe being amputated and the usual warnings from the medical personell I've seen regarding the possibility for more...I am pointing all of this boringly practical stuff out , not trying to shoot it down 1005 .
OK, I've sat back and watched for a day, to see where you would go with this.
Let me start by saying that yes, initially it was a "Put up, or, Shut up" kind of deal.
However, I've had time to sleep on it, and speak with my family about this situation.
We - as a family - are completely willing to help you out if you are a fellow aspie that's fallen on hard times.
Regarding your concerns, let me address those now.
Location - I live in Virginia.
Transportation - I will drive to you, collect you and drive home again.
Accomodation - We have a room that you can use until you get on your feet.
Medical - I'm a medical professional; I'll help you regulate your diabetic issues and also dress your wounds daily.
Future Education and Job prospects - My family and I will pay for you to go to school here, to study what you need to become a phlebotomist (you may have to google that). Now that's not a great job, however, you only have to take 3 classes to qualify, all of which can be completed in one semester. When you are qualified, you will earn pretty good money for a one semester trained field - around $30 - $40 an hour in our area. Once you have a job, you can find your own place and then you can go anywhere you want from there. If you wish to train further and become a registered nurse for example - you will have both the contacts and the money to do so.
So there you have it - the offer is there if you want it.
Now, that said, let's assume you are possibly not on the level. Let me detail how that situation will be handled. I'm former military. My husband is active service military. We have two daughters. If you feel that this is an opportunity to attempt to flees us, to fiddle with our kids, to burgle us for drug money, or any other severely illegal activity - be warned that I have a mossberg within arms reach while I sleep, and I would have no trouble blowing your brains all over the wall in defense of my family.
If you are on the level and need help, then my family is willing and able to help.
Wow.................just wow
Quite an offer you are handing him there.
...Again ( As this quote of someone else's quote of your original , unedited?? post shows . ) the " blow/splat " comment was not only aimed at hypothetical interference .
Even a friend of you on this board called you " voiatle " , or similar language , IIRC .
Were I to go elsewhere , I would of course need to clean up , put on some new clothes ,and , carrying a suitcase with at least a second pair of clothes and some necessities and something to read , take a plane or a bus to Whereverville .
How would this be paid for ?
Oh , and a person who handles themself "____Girl " stands a fairly good chance of being underage (or " just past " said stage , 18-25 , especially if an Aspie , after all , I guess )...Need I say more ?
Frankly , too , I don't have a lot of skills - Computers ? I am not a computer genius by virtue of being as Aspie , and even as far as typing I am not a " trained " typist ( I look at the board while typing . ) . Physical stuff - there's that " diabetic ulcer on the bottom of my feet " pesky thangwhich I've had , non-stop/close to it , for years , another manifestation of something that already led to 1/2 a toe being amputated and the usual warnings from the medical personell I've seen regarding the possibility for more...I am pointing all of this boringly practical stuff out , not trying to shoot it down 1005 .
OK, I've sat back and watched for a day, to see where you would go with this.
Let me start by saying that yes, initially it was a "Put up, or, Shut up" kind of deal.
However, I've had time to sleep on it, and speak with my family about this situation.
We - as a family - are completely willing to help you out if you are a fellow aspie that's fallen on hard times.
Regarding your concerns, let me address those now.
Location - I live in Virginia.
Transportation - I will drive to you, collect you and drive home again.
Accomodation - We have a room that you can use until you get on your feet.
Medical - I'm a qualified medical professional; I'll help you regulate your diabetic issues and also dress your wounds daily.
Future Education and Job prospects - My family and I will pay for you to go to school here, to study what you need to become a phlebotomist (you may have to google that). Now that's not a great job, however, you only have to take 3 classes to qualify, all of which can be completed in one semester. When you are qualified, you will earn pretty good money for a one semester trained field - around $30 - $40 an hour in our area. Once you have a job, you can find your own place and then you can go anywhere you want from there. If you wish to train further and become a registered nurse for example - you will have both the contacts and the money to do so.
So there you have it - the offer is there if you want it.
Now, that said, let's assume you are possibly not on the level. Let me detail how that situation will be handled. I'm former military. My husband is active service military. We have two daughters. If you feel that this is an opportunity to attempt to flees us, to fiddle with our kids, to burgle us for drug money, or any other severely illegal activity - be warned that I have a mossberg within arms reach while I sleep, and I would have no trouble blowing your brains all over the wall in defense of my family.
If you are on the level and need help, then my family is willing and able to help.
This is the post you are quoting out of context ASS-P. If all you got from this was 'brain splatee', you have more than just being homeless to worry about.
Yes, or, No?
Don't answer with some long winded contradiction of what I'm saying/asking, just answer the question.
...You have called it " closed and void " so that's rather irrelevant at this point , I would believe so . I will stop posting on this matter for now ( Today , anyway . ) .
Were I to go elsewhere , I would of course need to clean up , put on some new clothes ,and , carrying a suitcase with at least a second pair of clothes and some necessities and something to read , take a plane or a bus to Whereverville .
How would this be paid for ?
Oh , and a person who handles themself "____Girl " stands a fairly good chance of being underage (or " just past " said stage , 18-25 , especially if an Aspie , after all , I guess )...Need I say more ?
Frankly , too , I don't have a lot of skills - Computers ? I am not a computer genius by virtue of being as Aspie , and even as far as typing I am not a " trained " typist ( I look at the board while typing . ) . Physical stuff - there's that " diabetic ulcer on the bottom of my feet " pesky thangwhich I've had , non-stop/close to it , for years , another manifestation of something that already led to 1/2 a toe being amputated and the usual warnings from the medical personell I've seen regarding the possibility for more...I am pointing all of this boringly practical stuff out , not trying to shoot it down 1005 .
OK, I've sat back and watched for a day, to see where you would go with this.
Let me start by saying that yes, initially it was a "Put up, or, Shut up" kind of deal.
However, I've had time to sleep on it, and speak with my family about this situation.
We - as a family - are completely willing to help you out if you are a fellow aspie that's fallen on hard times.
Regarding your concerns, let me address those now.
Location - I live in Virginia.
Transportation - I will drive to you, collect you and drive home again.
Accomodation - We have a room that you can use until you get on your feet.
Medical - I'm a qualified medical professional; I'll help you regulate your diabetic issues and also dress your wounds daily.
Future Education and Job prospects - My family and I will pay for you to go to school here, to study what you need to become a phlebotomist (you may have to google that). Now that's not a great job, however, you only have to take 3 classes to qualify, all of which can be completed in one semester. When you are qualified, you will earn pretty good money for a one semester trained field - around $30 - $40 an hour in our area. Once you have a job, you can find your own place and then you can go anywhere you want from there. If you wish to train further and become a registered nurse for example - you will have both the contacts and the money to do so.
So there you have it - the offer is there if you want it.
Now, that said, let's assume you are possibly not on the level. Let me detail how that situation will be handled. I'm former military. My husband is active service military. We have two daughters. If you feel that this is an opportunity to attempt to flees us, to fiddle with our kids, to burgle us for drug money, or any other severely illegal activity - be warned that I have a mossberg within arms reach while I sleep, and I would have no trouble blowing your brains all over the wall in defense of my family.
If you are on the level and need help, then my family is willing and able to help.
This is the post you are quoting out of context ASS-P. If all you got from this was 'brain splatee', you have more than just being homeless to worry about.
...( Okay , I'm adding this . )
It's a rather crucial additonal point .
I was just replying to one - important - point in it at that time .
The initial answer wasn't intended as a total " No ! "...It was warily pacing around...You , however , responded to it with the " closed and void " statement .
From what you are saying dude, it seems to me that you are beyond help.
You can't answer a simple question. I'm not trying to put you in a bad spot, I'm offering to put my whole family at risk of being murdered by a 'possibly drugy pedophile', and you think for some odd reason that you are in a position to barter and complain about me being cautious.
Really? That's just mental.
Now, that kind of begs the question - If you are on the level and wouldn't hurt my family, why are you shaking in your boots? You had nothing to lose.
As far as I see it, being a homeless type 2 diabetic with no prospect of regular medical attention/medication - is tantamount to a death sentence.
But hey, if you want to spit if the face of someone who was willing to risk everything to help you, that's your call buddy.
Good luck with that.
Knowing me.....i'd be VERY suspicious. I must admit it DOES SOUND too good to be true. All sorts of nightmarish scenarios would be running through my mind.
For instance....I would wonder if Fixer Girl and her husband were serial killers like Karla Holmolka and Paul Bernardo.
Maybe they'd sexually torture me and grind me into Italian/German/Jewish/Serbian sausage.
I guess i'm too much of a cynic and a misanthrope. The more rational part me realizes there ARE people out there as generous and kind-hearted as Fixer Girl likely is. They may be as rare as Charlie Sheen's moments of sobriety....but they do exist.
How exactly do you expect me to react to what you have just written about me and my family?
We are offering help, and you seem to be obliging us to prove our innocence as if we are on trial - where do you get off doing that?
I have stated that my husband is serving in the military, hard to do if you're a serial killer.
Me? Well I have a greencard - which you can't get with a criminal record of any kind. I underwent a full background check through the FBI before I was granted permanent residence status.
Frankly, what you have written says a lot about you and nothing about me and my family.
ASS-P is homeless, with no money, food or medical care. How does your 'stirring sh't' help him in any way?
Fixer_Girl, I don't think he meant to speak to you, personally, but the real fact that anyone can say anything on the internet, and that truth is hard to verify. Me, I have my little clues I look for, but when it comes to your honesty these posters don't have access to some of the clues I've had access to, so they are going to be more suspicious. When you read in the news about all the horrible things that have happened following internet hookups, I'm not going to tell them they are overboard wrong; over the internet, everyone must keep a skeptical eye.
Still, I very much think ASS-P should accept your offer. But is even my opinion suspect? Of course it is. While I know that I am who I say I am, how do any of these posters know it?
Anyway. There is more conversation for me to read. I'll do that before I make any more comments.
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).
Knowing me.....i'd be VERY suspicious. I must admit it DOES SOUND too good to be true. All sorts of nightmarish scenarios would be running through my mind.
For instance....I would wonder if Fixer Girl and her husband were serial killers like Karla Holmolka and Paul Bernardo.
Maybe they'd sexually torture me and grind me into Italian/German/Jewish/Serbian sausage.
I guess i'm too much of a cynic and a misanthrope. The more rational part me realizes there ARE people out there as generous and kind-hearted as Fixer Girl likely is. They may be as rare as Charlie Sheen's moments of sobriety....but they do exist.
How exactly do you expect me to react to what you have just written about me and my family?
We are offering help, and you seem to be obliging us to prove our innocence as if we are on trial - where do you get off doing that?
I have stated that my husband is serving in the military, hard to do if you're a serial killer.
Me? Well I have a greencard - which you can't get with a criminal record of any kind. I underwent a full background check through the FBI before I was granted permanent residence status.
Frankly, what you have written says a lot about you and nothing about me and my family.
ASS-P is homeless, with no money, food or medical care. How does your 'stirring sh't' help him in any way?
Fixer_Girl, I don't think he meant to speak to you, personally, but the real fact that anyone can say anything on the internet, and that truth is hard to verify. Me, I have my little clues I look for, but when it comes to your honesty these posters don't have access to some of the clues I've had access to, so they are going to be more suspicious. When you read in the news about all the horrible things that have happened following internet hookups, I'm not going to tell them they are overboard wrong; over the internet, everyone must keep a skeptical eye.
Still, I very much think ASS-P should accept your offer. But is even my opinion suspect? Of course it is. While I know that I am who I say I am, how do any of these posters know it?
Anyway. There is more conversation for me to read. I'll do that before I make any more comments.
DW, you seem like a really nice person, and from the stuff you say online, you seem pretty constant with your approach to situations and issues at hand.
So how's this?
I'll PM you the logins to all of my security feed cameras that are all over my house. You can view them, and then report back to the others if I am on the level or not.
I'm essentially opening my house to you.
That's a heck of a lot more than anyone else is offering as a means to identify who they are.
However, from the way ASS-P is acting, there's no way on earth I'm helping him anymore.
I don't need to take his BS. I offered help, and he countered with quoting me out of context in an effort to undermine my integrity - I'm not having that. If that's how he treats the people that offer to help him, I'd hate to see how he treats his enemies.
DW_A_MOM, I've Pm'd you the links to my security cameras (all over my house).
I've set up a login for you and used an appropriate password.
Have a look around, see for yourself if I am on the up and level.
It goes without saying, however I'm going to say it anyway.
Please don't give out the links to anyone else.
I'll leave the logins for you to use for the next day or so, and then I'll delete the access.
Thanks.