What quirks, habits, etc, have NTs pointed out to you?

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To my daughters "your dad scares me, he always looks mean and angry"
"why are you tapping your fingers and thumb together all the time ?"
"you approach your work in a black and white way"
"why do you sweat so much?"
"just relax for f*&%s sake, it's only a job"
"who cares if it's not straight !"

let's see...

I sucked my thumb until I was 12, and the orthodontist had to put a device in the roof of my mouth to make me quit :/

I always have and always will rub on the bottom of my shirt, the end of my pillow case, the string on my pants...whatever clothing I can rub on.

Things people have said to me:

Are you mad?
I can't read your mind.
OMG, you are SO HARSH.
You're so dramatic.
The house is clean mom.
Talking to you is like talking to a kid.
You talk waaaaay too loud.
Calm down.
It's not the end of the world.
You go from 0-60.
You walk waaaay too fast.
You have no medium.
From my mother:"you look so stupid rubbing your clothes like that, what's wrong with you?"
I hate your sound effects.
You're so weird.

Definitely stims
and always you're "weird" "odd" "different"

"can you act normal??! !"
"the neighbors are going to think something is wrong with you"

I've been told/ asked:
- you're quiet, you should talk more, you talk to quietly
- why do you look around at the room and not at the person you're talking to?
- stop making noises!
- why don't you want to play games (board games, RPGs) with us?
- is something wrong? You seems sad/ angry.
- why don't you like going to bars?
- why don't you like sports?
- why don't you try to get a girlfriend?
- how did you figure that out!? (Usually a mechanical problem)
- why don't you go back to school?
- you're so smart, why are you working here?
- you're really smart about a lot of things, but really stupid about other things.

I also once overheard someone talking about how I was telling them about a project I was working on. She said " the whole time I was thinking OMG dude, I don't really care. Shut up!"

There is much more, but don't have time at the moment.

I'd echo most of these. People tell me:


You should become a nutritionist, nurse or a doctor. I HATE school! At least once a month I get this.
You are SO ADHD. Close, but no cigar.
You never stop singing, huh?
You're a genius.
You're a ret*d.
WHY DON'T YOU SIT DOWN?!

I was told the other that by a woman that apparently I ask for her opinion, she tells it to me, if it's not to do with me or what I want to hear, I think she's being nasty to me. I asked her for an example, but she couldn't think of anything off-hand. It then made me think do I really do that? Do I do that to everybody, or is she the only person I do it to? I must admit, I do tend to clash with this woman because, although she doesn't seem that Aspie to me, she doesn't seem that NT either, and as a socially awkward person myself, I can sense that she displays social awkwardness too. I'm usually good at detecting social awkwardness in other people, and I have been proven to be right. Normally I let other people have their opinions. It's others that don't let me have opinions if it's not what they want to hear.

I don't know.

My rocking back-and-forth.

I cannot guarantee all these were pointed out by neurotypicals but some that have been mentioned are....I move my hands a lot when I talk, I apparently touch my face a lot when I talk(i think thats more when I am nervous, but not sure as either way I am never conciously aware of it unless someone mentions it). Then that I don't make a normal amount of eye contact.

There are other things but thats all that comes to mind right now.

lack of eye contact and bland voice.

"Why are you so quiet?"
"Intimidating"
"Too blunt"
"What's wrong, you look upset/sad/angry?"
"Smile!!" (when I was younger...then after years of being told I don't smile enough) "Why are you always smiling like that?"
"You should eat more" (then, after years of being told I should eat more) "Stop eating so fast" "stop hunching over your food"
"You eat angrily"
"You walk like you are angry"
"Why can't you hold your shoulders up straight?"
"That girl who cries all the time"
"Why are you shaking, are you nervous?" (no it's a tremor)
"You really like to wear skirts huh?"
"You like your hair that short?"
"Look at her blushing!"
"Why don't you get out more?"

"you keep twitching your fingers and flapping your hands its so funny! (stimming when talking to my sister)"

" what wrong? (not smiling or making facial expressions when im happy)"

" what are you looking at?" (not making eye contact)

" emily i could care less" (talking about sonic)

" Emily... i asked you to clean that up" (taking a while to do what im asked)

" what are you looking for" (sometimes, ill have something planned in my head and i tend to pace the house, it looks like im trying to find something but im not)

"please change your shirt! let me wash it" (i have a favorite shirt i dont like to change because it has sonic on it)

"wash your hands" (eating messily)

"where are you going? im going this way!" (when i walk, i can control the direction but i cant walk in a straight line, so it seems like im going in a different direction)

"That made no sense!" (my sister gets frustrated when i cant talk anymore and sentences will come out broken)

" SHHH (speaking too loud or screaming)

" stop talking! ( what my sister says when having a three way conversation and i say the wrong thing)

" dont hit yourself" ( a stim i had since i was 2)

" dont bite me!" ( another stim)

" you need new pants (again, i dont like to change my pants)

countless more to name


my sister will also mock my hand movements and my stammering.