danlo wrote:
Our needs are just different, and so are the ways we satisfy them. I enjoy socializing, but my socializing needs are quite different. Just being in the same room as someone satisfies this social need. While I have many conversations routines and abilities which may be employed, there is no drive to employ these to satisfy my needs. They are only employed when required by others to satisfy their needs.
The "autistic pole" as you put it, is not based on social ability. AS people might be just as bad at socializing as an HFA, but this brain difference which is indicated by delayed language skills is not shared by AS, hence the difference in the DSM-IV criteria.
Agreed, though this is another difference between AS and HFA, it is not the key difference as described by the DSM-IV. The DSM-IV ascribes the key difference as been "delayed" language skills, which is indicative of the underlying difference.
Sorry for answering this post a year late, but I have been thinking.
I'm HFA and you and I developmental profiles growing up are exactly the same, but you have problems with self care and help skills, which I do not have. Also I dunno if you taught yourself to read, I most likely around the same time I learnt to talk.
My social needs, I have a need to talk to people every so often or I become pretty lonely. However I never seem to have much of a drive in wanting to have friends (taking socialising beyond just talking to people every now and again). I also like enjoy a lot of time by myself, dealing with people too much can be a little bit overwhelming.
Overall my social needs are low by NT standards, but no different than many other people with AS. In the long term future I could choose to be living by myself and having the ocassional friend drop by every now and again and kind of liking it. My mother who has AS has almost the same identical social needs as I do.