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I hope this just reflects a temporary state of mind. But based on my experience most of the times it is unlikely since even in real life I know people that have those attitudes and thoughts.
also it is not about rants, but much broader. Exploring the same example I used in an above comment, there is this person who expects acceptance but has intolerant attitudes himself (writing himself/herself all the time is tiring, is there any other way of saying it?). Then how is it he expects to be accepted if he is not accepting of others?

This reminds me of that Ezra kid getting annoyed over stuff too.

Singular "they," so "they/them/themself/theirs."

A lot of people believe it's grammatically incorrect, but this isn't true. Singular they has been around for centuries, and was used by such notables as Chaucer, Jane Austen, and William Shakespeare.

Someone who expects acceptance but gives none is misguided.

a little off topic but this they as singular is pretty weird. Sometimes I use it but it sounds like it's wrong, for instance "a person that talks to themself". But if it's okay then I will use it. In my language we don't have this problem since words have gender. Person for instance is 'she'. I like languages a lot.

yeah Kingdom of Rats is one of the users I admire the most ! And I like her blog too.

saddening situation.
and yeah Kingdom of Rats is one of the users I admire the most ! And I like her blog too.

It sounds weird when you're not used to it, I agree. Use makes it easier.

And languages are awesome.

When I first saw this thread, it didn't interest me, but then I saw that it was getting longer and some people whose posts I have been enriched commented on it so I gave it another look.

AngelRho, not everyone is you or has your capacities. Most people, NT or otherwise, find starting a small business to be quite difficult. It seems odd, given what can easily be learned about disability in general (and executive dysfunction and social communication deficits in particular) to make the assertions you've made here.

One thing the whole thread makes me think of is the idea that people often are annoyed by seeing in others things they dislike or disown in themselves.

Edited to add:
The whole discussion of ableism is very interesting. I want to be as able as I can be, but I am better of if I work around the things I really can't do than just try and fail over and again. It took decades of trying really hard for me to figure that out, and even longer to understand why it like this, but self-knowledge of limitations is a good thing, although you have to avoid letting that knowledge get In the way of enjoying life.

I do not love to do this to you, ha ha-weep. Actually I find responding to you, such as now, really quite unpleasant and even have had to force myself to write, this message but feel it is my responsibility to respond as I feel (taking this terminology from you, so from the horses mouth) the kind of attitude and innuendo you are engaging in is poisoning the well. So how can good intent poison the well? It can when it is mixed in with reaction and grudge holding, and speaking of in myself, too. The question is--how to sort it out, separate the wheat from the chaff, remove the stains? Actually I do get some personal benefit out of writing to you, as it helps me to look at myself, so in this sense, I do love it, but this is only written after the fact, as the insight about being pure in the moment occurred just now.

Well, I don't disagree. No, not everyone has the same capacities as I do, nor do I have a number of capacities that others have that I wish I had myself.

I'm not annoyed that people express natural emotions such as loneliness or desperation when they indeed cannot themselves change their circumstances. What annoys me is that there are those who CAN take control over their circumstances and for various reasons, not all of them in my opinion good, fail to do so. What is especially bothersome to me is that there are those who'd rather whine about it than make any effort at all.

I can't help that kind of person, and I'm convinced nobody can. I CAN help someone with the both the ability to do something about it and the will to do so. Moreover I'm convinced more people lack the will much more than they lack the ability. If it is social anxiety that destroys the will, or if it is something like irrational fear that destroys the will, then there are steps one can take to fix that. All I want to do is encourage those who are hobbled primarily by fear and anxiety.

Those who lack the physical and mental ability I cannot help. It's not that I don't care, it's just that I'm ill-equipped to do so. There are better people than I am to do that sort of thing, but by no means is anything I've said a blanket condemnation of those who even under the best circumstances are unable to help themselves.

Okay. Then don't 'help" those people. Just give yourself a pat on the back for being omniscient [IRL, is your name god?] and quit saying things to make them feel worse. Also, I could send you my "being worthy of receiving help resume". If I qualify,do you think you could help me out with a couple hundred dollars?

1) Yes, I have seen this on WP, and I generally ignore it.

2) Yes, I have seen this on WP, and I generally have trouble perceiving it, so I try to give some practical suggestions that probably end up useless for certain people with certain mindsets, but could be useful for others reading the threads.

3) Discussing these theories is fine with me, but to people reading these discussions, I suggest that you rely on broad collection of sources beyond wp for reliable information about autism.

I'm just going to follow you around and say, What she said!

The omniscient point is a very good one. I often surprised that people on this forum fall for that idea (that they know what somebody else's struggles are) - because haven't we all been put through people making those stupid assumptions about us ourselves. Hasn't pretty much everyone here had somebody look at them say, Why aren't you doing A or Why do you act like B, or Why are you pretending you have C?

Aren't there things in all of our lives that people can't comprehend about us? Lucky you if you there aren't, but you are on an autism forum and people here will discuss problems related to autism.

I myself wish the forum was more geared toward proactive help, but I think in a way that because we process life the same way, maybe it is, it's just that we all are very slowly proactive. But seriously if it's too whiny for you, why don't you split your time between here and a place that is less whiny? It's an autism forum.

I honestly find this kind of attitude to be a form of hate speech.

This is super useful advice, and special interest is good way to use it. I am using this all the time and getting bester at using it from when I first started figuring this out for myself. I have some projects sitting on project shelf, and applying this strategy will help me bring these things to reality.

<--- Likes the way Kingdom of Rats writes. Very even tempered, she is and makes lots of sense.

I agree, it's a lot like what I'm trying to do writing my book. But some people aren't there yet and who are we to say they should have to be or they are whiny or self defeating if they aren't?

What I really wish is that there was some Autism school that we could all go to to help us understand exactly things like this. Also, I could really use a class that explained money to me in a way I could understand it because I'm a mess in that area. I think if people had mentors and little pushes and someone helping them cut down the massive jungle overgrowth so they could forge a path, Autistic people could really come out and shine as a group.