Is anyone else sick of the anti-NT bias?
I'm horribly literal in my use of language and immediate understanding. Though I am perfectly able to understand metaphorical language and double meanings with a little thinking.
And to me, NT is a abbreviation to neurotypical.
And neurotypical would imply that all those with a normal neurology are meant.
But often, NT is used to mean all those without autism.
It is problematic once a person starts to refer to those who 'get along fine with each other due to that they can read non-verbal cues' as NTs when they speak of people without autism.
Not all people without autism have the abilities that autistic people do not seem have (in that form). How good is a person with ADHD at reading non-verbal cues if they constantly miss them, how well does a person with ALS in expressing their state of mind by their facial expression, how does a person who's blind in a communication that is vastly based on visual processing?
I know that you can't always remember to think of those not present. But one should try to acknowledge as often as possible that there are more differences than just the obvious 2 - autism and those 'normal' people.
I mean, sure I am literal. But come on, to my mind it makes a sane and sensible trait to have.
Just caught this after previewing my post:
Both Aspies and NT's are imaginary beings.
Us and Them are imaginary beings.
I prefer a Scientific term, hairless ground apes.
HGA's do form a spectrum, and 75% are sure they are in the top 25%.
If the behavior of HGA's offends you, you will be offended for life.
HGA's are an endless source of humor, and the most damage they do is to themselves.
An excellent choice of quote and a brilliant wording. I'd say 'as always', but I didn't read/didn't stumble upon anything to read from you in a long time to be able to say that. That was a good refresher for my memory. Inventors tend to be most interesting with words!
I think that the way the NT-like posters on this forum attack semantics of AS discussion are ignoring the fact that AS have communication disorder. If the NTs on the forum maybe adjust their sense of communication to the notion that AS people might have semantic-pragmatic disorder, and maybe not parse sometimes-oversimplified language for discriminatory intent, it might help them talk to their AS kids, wives, etc. better.
You're all climbing on some lofty pretense that you're arguing against discrimination, when in fact you are dumping on how the social ret*ds aren't talking about social behavior with sensitive-enough semantics due to their semantic-pragmatic disorder.
Don't be under the delusion that there is a bigotry or discrimination or bias issue here. What I see is condescending semantics-hacking of NTs and higher-functioning AS against the attempts of some AS to lamely discuss and analyze NT behavior.
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mono-lith-ic / a: constituting as massive undifferentiated and often rigid whole / b: exhibiting or characterize by often rigidly fixed uniformity... / That definition works for me.
Becoming conscious of abuse is difficult and comes in stages. Anger and venting are a necessary part, and WrongPlanet is the safest place to do it.
I want to compare it to domestic abuse, except that the kind of abuse I'm talking about is more profound than typical spousal abuse: (a) It is not something new. It has been going on since birth, and is the only kind of treatment you have ever known. We're not just talking about a loss of identity and self-esteem here; we're talking about someone who was actively prevented from really developing a solid identity and self-esteem in the first place. Basic concepts of trust, communication, confidence that should have been formed in infancy, and you’re building them from scratch, as an adult, with no help from anyone. (b) You can't get away. If you are under-age or economically dependant or employed by your abuser, you have no options. You need to find a way to heal where you are, while the abuse continues.
You need to break free and get it straight in your own mind before you can hope to explain it, even to an NT who is willing to hear.
I think a little venting is not only understandable, but a necessity. And, considering all the soul-crushing social fictions that we are forced to swallow, I think a little self-defensive social fiction is more than reasonable.
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Ephemerella, would you please write a book? Starting with the stuff you’ve said in this thread, expanding and explaining it, and working in elements along the lines of the thinking of Malcolm X. “Who Taught You To Hate Yourself?” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRSgUTWffMQ&NR=1
You're all climbing on some lofty pretense that you're arguing against discrimination, when in fact you are dumping on how the social ret*ds aren't talking about social behavior with sensitive-enough semantics due to their semantic-pragmatic disorder.
Don't be under the delusion that there is a bigotry or discrimination or bias issue here. What I see is condescending semantics-hacking of NTs and higher-functioning AS against the attempts of some AS to lamely discuss and analyze NT behavior.
... then again, couldn't it be equally possible that rather than displaying NT traits here, they are actually displaying extremely AS-prevailant traits? You are accusing them of being pedantic, picking things apart, getting upset over semantics, and failing to communicate.
To me, this sounds more like an absolute expression of AS frustration than anything else.
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You've been there. Something that I've gone through... TWICE. Wow, thank you for posting this. It means a lot to me.
I'll go out and read some Malcolm X if it has helped you, and you recommend it to me. It makes sense to read the words of others who have experienced similar things. Thanks for the link.
You're all climbing on some lofty pretense that you're arguing against discrimination, when in fact you are dumping on how the social ret*ds aren't talking about social behavior with sensitive-enough semantics due to their semantic-pragmatic disorder.
Don't be under the delusion that there is a bigotry or discrimination or bias issue here. What I see is condescending semantics-hacking of NTs and higher-functioning AS against the attempts of some AS to lamely discuss and analyze NT behavior.
... then again, couldn't it be equally possible that rather than displaying NT traits here, they are actually displaying extremely AS-prevailant traits? You are accusing them of being pedantic, picking things apart, getting upset over semantics, and failing to communicate.
To me, this sounds more like an absolute expression of AS frustration than anything else.
You do have a point.
You know it is such a fascinating problem, how to communicate optimally in a forum that is both neurodiverse and where a lot of people have communications disorder, who log in from all over the world, talking about what are often ambiguous meanings of their social experiences.
This is one of the most intensive and challenging verbal-training periods I've undertaken this year. I'm improving a lot in a short time but it's quite complicated because the communications disorders occur on many levels, as well as cultural bias and frame-of-reference semantic disconnects, all at once.
I do think it is not constructive, tho, for NTs and higher-functioning AS to dump on the expressions and attempts at social discussion (even venting) of other AS. Part of the PTSD, or traumatization, of some AS with communications disorders who go out in the world, is being ridiculed, punished or retaliated against for attempting to discuss the abuse or complain about it. Almost always, it is easy for the retaliation to focus on how the socially ret*d, communications-impaired AS is trying to say what they are trying to say. If you cannot learn how to speak (frame the ideas) to talk about the traumatic or hurtful social experiences, because you lack a social mind you will never be able to process the trauma, because it doesn't process internally but just sits there like a lump of trauma. So AS with social trauma PTSD have to explicitly, verbally and hopefully with help, construct that corner of a social mind needed to process the experience. It's not something AS do lightly, they are not anti-NT bigoted rants, and it shouldn't be dumped on. And any discussion on this board that helps young individual AS learn the cognitive skills on how to build social insights from discussing experiences, is helpful to avoiding their developing a PTSD from negative social experiences when they grow up and go out into the world.
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I wonder, do you think, from my posts here, that that covers myself? Because I for one am not happy, no longer naif, for d- certain not a Wunderkind - nor was I ever, though perhaps I thought so at the time - and am instead suffering under a socially crippling set of reactions, attitudes, phobias, whatever that I was fairly happy to find, after thirty years, appear to have a name. It's not trendy, it's not cool, I don't want the stupid thing, I do not think the game is worth the candle but it is at least nice to finally know what it's called.
If you weren't thinking that, then I apologise for once again reading you wrong. If you were, please reconsider.
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Who is all?
If you know what is really going on in another's minds, you either are either delusional, pretending or indeed able to read my thoughts and the thoughts of others.
For clarification, who is socially 'ret*d'? Not those that are included by the 'we', according to you:
I sincerely doubt that 'we' of those who're not socially 'ret*d' for being unable to think through all social interaction is meant to represent those with AS. Or else many with AS will now be undiagnosed.
You say a lack of SPD gives you the ability to understand SPD.
That does not make sense because it is even just plain incorrect.
Do you have ADHD? If not, you must be able to understand it. Many of its traits are the same or related to AS. Or maybe OCD? You must understand that too.
What I don't understand is your whole reference to langauge use and understanding langauge use of others that you claim relates to my post of reflecting about personal use of language.
Autism doesn't necessarily equate to an inability of respectful consideration of others.
If a person shows they're capable of developing a verbal understanding of 'others vs self' in use, they also have a verbal understanding of 'others and self'. Whether this is more than just an understanding of words or not, whether they actually have an understanding of the context and how far that understanding goes, how they are able to adjust that knowledge and thought-process to new situations... that gives way to a lot of what others perceive as impolite behaviour that is not intended nor considered.
Then of course it was all the better that I, autistic even, wasn't talking about changing the choice of words but about consideration and thoughtfulness of what I, you and everybody else will mean with their words and what to associate and what not to associate with a person who happens to be non-autistic (but has others disabilities).
Why the hell are you talking to me in the first place, when you indirectly attack me anyway? I wasn't talking to you. If you are annoyed by my presence in the form of a post and cannot not-attack me, it would be wiser to ignore me or stating your annoyance rather than giving it way.
Furthermore, you are not the measure or decision maker of what AS/HFA are like nor for who is allowed to be autistic or not, what co-morbids they have and do not have. Neither for their viewpoints and intentions.
I don't care if you like to be or not of why you pretend to want to be, but you are definitely not.
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These forums are a place for people to talk about their issues and in particular the discrimination they've experienced because a lot of their world is biased in favour of the neuro-typical. However, I do feel uncomfortable when people focus on a mentality of us versus them. Sometimes I feel that people's factional tendencies combined with the potency of their experiences of discrimination in all its forms can make them a little overzealous. I like to think that they are just enthused to find others that understand and share their experiences. When I get tired of the repetition I simply stay away from the forums for several months.
We are all people, with some differences, and rather than polarising each other we ought to be encouraging openness, understanding and tolerance.
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I wonder, do you think, from my posts here, that that covers myself? Because I for one am not happy, no longer naif, for d- certain not a Wunderkind - nor was I ever, though perhaps I thought so at the time - and am instead suffering under a socially crippling set of reactions, attitudes, phobias, whatever that I was fairly happy to find, after thirty years, appear to have a name. It's not trendy, it's not cool, I don't want the stupid thing, I do not think the game is worth the candle but it is at least nice to finally know what it's called.
If you weren't thinking that, then I apologise for once again reading you wrong. If you were, please reconsider.
No, I didn't think that at all because even tho your posts were arguing the other side, you had grounded ideas and reasoning that had value in terms of being useful thought.
I learn a lot from reading opposition posts, where the posts express insights.
Who is all?
If you know what is really going on in another's minds, you either are either delusional, pretending or indeed able to read my thoughts and the thoughts of others. ....
Sora thank you for your post. I have to go but will bookmark & read later.
Yes.
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Nothing personal, I'm just vindictive.
'Them' meaning 'all neurotypicalpersons'? How can such an incredibly large group who only have one thing absolutely in common - lack of a neurological impairment - be an easy target?
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