You know you're autistic when...

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I think the reason that NT's will remark on our behavior and yet, when we say we're autistic, they immediately go "that's normal!" because of possibly a few reasons:

1) they don't really think about the behavior in a systematic fashion. People may comment on odd behaviors, but they probably don't remember them or think all that hard about them. I honestly remember a lot of people's behavior, but according to what I've been told most people forget.
2) NTs are typically empathetic. When reading a list of "You know your an Aspie when" comments, if they relate to one or more of the comments, even if it was just one event, they're likely to assume that they might be autistic or that things like that are normal. What's not understood is how many and how often these comments are true to us.
3) I don't exactly understand it, but I think there might be a certain social heirarchy place for "eccentric" or "odd" people. People don't assume any biological or mental reason for this issue, but merely think of it as a personality type thing.
4) Obviously there's the possibility of stereotypes of autism changing their perception.

These are just a few theories, probably wrong because I'm kinda ditzy in the whole "how people percieve me" area and can't really use that for my observations, but yeah.

Maybe it's because they think there is a difference between acting weird just because it's weird, and acting weird because of a diagnosis. And then their reaction is like: "oh no, it isn't THAT bad anyway, that you need a diagnosis". Or maybe they don't get that the traits they "also have" are of another kind in an aspie than in an NT, but it requires a bit more explanation.
Or... if it's really a diagnosis they can't mock you any longer for being weird, that would be rude, so maybe they prefer to believe that it isn't? (Hmm I don't hope that's too bad a suspicion...)
And I don't say that it's like this for all NTs.

...you get upset because Vista doesn't have the defragmentation boxes like those seen in Windows XP.

If you get sudden intense episodes of depression when you are otherwise happy.

You get upset when your partner moves something.

You don't ask anyone "How are you?" because are not interested in how they are feeling.

You find yourself fixed on an item for long periods of the time

You like to sniff things and touch

You brought your ear plugs to school because the students would get loud in class

Someone who doesn't even know you're autistic jokingly calls you autistic.

(Yes, this has happened to me, quite hilarious actually cause later when I told him I actually "was" autistic, he felt really bad about it).

... when you get excited about your digital watch turning to 08:08:08 on 08/08/08

People compare you to Rain Man and ask if you are autistic
(That actually happened to me when I was 15, 16 too)

when you (or a parent) tell people about your autism they ask if you think that it's because of vaccines.