Tired of Support Groups!

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I still go to support groups once in awhile. It's all small talk and "ain't it awful?" talk. I hate support groups.

I want groups who see that there are aspies out there who are the world's best computer engineers, the world's best electrical engineers and the world's best mechanical engineers but nobody knows it because support groups usually don't talk about how to bring people together to build some cool stuff and mentor aspies who wouldn't know what to do with their engineering brilliance.

I want people in support groups to look around at each other and see that there are enough people to do some big planning and make things happen, to step in for each other where one is weak and the other is strong. Together the sum of our parts can create some cool things and ways to determine our own futures without begging for the system to fix things for us.

Together we can intimidate the system!

There! I'm done with my rant. I don't have a support group. I have a real life solutions group. Very small but, at least, I have something to aim for, something to give me hope.

I used to go to support groups (12 step kind also), but that was before I found out I was an ASpie. I really don't think I could 'put up with' an ASpie support group, in spite of the fact that I would be a good example...

The nearest support group to me is over 100 miles away, in Fort Worth. And I am pretty much depending on someone far away to invite me to visit them if I want to meet other Aspies.

Tim

I attend a social group for ppl wid AS but its only once a month but i hardly get da tym 2 attend as im always playin tennis or out wid me m8s.

I have been participating in a meet-up in my town for social anxiety, but it isn't a support group like the kind mentioned here. We mostly do things together, to reduce anxiety. Like go to movies, or out for dinner, or for coffee, or we just hang out talk. There is one other Aspie in the group, and we get along ok. Don't know how long it will last, as I tend to get onto other obsessions, but we'll see.

But I don't like support groups, where people just sit around and moan about their fate. I used to get something out of them, but now they just annoy me. I've changed, I think.

I feel that if I were at a support group, I would be just as insightful and fun as I am here, provided that we were allowed to talk about whatever we wanted, not just the topics the facilitator came up with.

Tim

i went to a couple when i was in the mental hospital. it was terrible and basically i'll never go again

*shrug* My father is an aspie; he's also brilliant at least in maths and sciences (197 IQ), and he's one of the top four engineers (in his field) in the world. He has extraordinarily little patience for support programs of any type (this is up from "none", where it was previously). That being said, he also has extraordinarily little patience for any group at all; he's quite believing in the "if you work for it (by yourself, you'll get it" thing.

my parents kept suggesting i go to one but the "aint it awful" and small talk turned me off it right away.

I used to go to a support group for a while, but what bothered me was that it soon began to feel exactly like high school. There were the popular members, there were people who hooked up for coffee after the meetings, etc. I ended up quitting, because it was just one more place that I didn't fit in.

Then it wouldn't be a support group. A support group by definition is mean to give support in difficult situations, if it were about the positives it'd just be a meeting of people. ^^

I wish there were a group for Aspie adults around here. Might actually make some friends and/or learn something. There's nothing though-only a group for parents of Autistic children.

Yeah, it's probably something similar for me too. There's probably something up in Chicago.

This makes me glad that I don't go to support groups. How is small talk and "ain't it awful" going to help you get your life together and achieve something?
People should start "good kick in the arse" groups. Ones that are geared towards SOLVING problems, not sitting around patting each other on the back and feeling 'validated'.

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