Joined: 25 May 2009 Age: 38 Gender: Female Posts: 22 Location: USA, Indiana
31 May 2009, 12:49 am
I've tried to be sarcastic, but it ended up sounding like I was serious by the tone of the voice.I remember my highschool friend telling me about that it didn't sound like I was being sarcastic.
Joined: 24 May 2009 Age: 57 Gender: Female Posts: 4 Location: Near Vancouver, BC, Canada.
31 May 2009, 1:00 am
I'm all for the elimination of sarcasm, as its main purpose is to make a fool out of someone. It's also passive aggressive behaviour, a behaviour that really doesn't have anything attractive about it.
I believe that one should mean what they say, and say what they mean. It makes life easier, particularly for those of us who are literal thinkers.
Joined: 30 Apr 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 532 Location: Woodbridge, VA
31 May 2009, 1:34 am
Sarcasm is one thing I "get", and I myself am very sarcastic. I tend to be very obvious and overdo it, though, so there's no question of my true intentions.
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Joined: 14 May 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 416 Location: England
31 May 2009, 5:36 am
I'm good at pulling off sarcasm. If you're having difficulty, why not be ridiculously dramatic? Like, roll your eyes and shrug your shoulders as you say your sarcastic line...it may sound/look stupid but at least there's no room for ambiguity then?
There's sarcasm and then there's dry humor. I think of sarcasm as intending to belittle. Sometimes if I attempt to make a gentle wry comment it is taken the wrong way because of my flat affect. My younger brother has a way of saying the most obnoxious thing possible with a deadpan expression and only those who know him well know he actually believes the exact opposite. It's sort of an family thing.
I think people tend to take me seriously when I am being sarcastic. I am always making sure people knew I was being sarcastic. I know people have taken me seriously before, especially with jokes.
Joined: 14 Aug 2008 Age: 52 Gender: Male Posts: 12,003 Location: australia
31 May 2009, 9:26 am
i am not sure i can learn the meaning of "sarcastic".
i think i know what it means, but i am not sure.
i think sarcastic means when you talk in an apparently serious tone but in a joking way about things that are annoying.
i always talk in a serious and non jocular way about things that i find hilarious about a situation.
people think i am serious however.
sarcasm does not work when i try it.
the last time i tried a "sarcastic joke" it failed with almost catastrophic proportion.
i was at a business lunch and the owner of the business was making jokes about my page boy hair style.
he was calling me little lord fauntleroy, and after i had imbibed some champagne i decided to try to be "sarcastic" because he was talking about my hair but he had none on the top of his head.
i got my comb out and asked him to look at the floor so as i could comb my hair (in a serious tone of voice). (my inference was that his bald head was shiny enough for me to see my reflection in).
the whole room went silent and that boss said "yes mark i think you'd better sit down mate!!"
other people looked at me as if i had just been killed, but i do not know why this all went wrong.
[/b]bd[b] I think the reason your joke failed was because of a status issue. He is allowed to make fun of you but you are not allowed to make fun of him. It's a secret NT rule.
Joined: 14 Aug 2008 Age: 52 Gender: Male Posts: 12,003 Location: australia
31 May 2009, 9:56 am
who told him he is allowed and who told me i am not allowed?
the situation deteriorated drastically after a short while but i could not really care. they were fighting among themselves and i realized i was free to go so i went and got a taxi home.
"status" is something i do not much percieve.
it was a champagne ridden mellee of a luncheon which i departed from.
^ that's what I'm saying - it's an unwritten rule- one of many b.s. rules in society that n.t.s learn by observation I guess. I'm not saying I agree with it.