Extra! Greentea meets real life Aspies for first time ! !!

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Now I'm one of the initiated!

I was so terrified on the way there that I arrived an hour and a half late.

The place is beautiful, very nice building by a lovely eucalyptus tree park, but you can't have NLD to find it. It's a laberynth of streets and another one inside the building. Fortunately, the receptionist took me to the room, seeing as the building is for activities for people with developmental disorders.

I met KenG from WP (he immediately told me I was "Greentea from WP" and greeted me by my real name, which surprised me very much. I don't remember telling anyone my real name...) and some others from our local AS forums.

Did they seem strange to me? Only in the sense that the moment I opened the door and went in nobody attacked me like a rabid dog to force me to cough up the details of my socioeconomic status in society like everyone else does here when they meet someone for the first time (What car do you drive? Do you own your dwelling or rent? What do you do for a living? Are you married? What does your husband do for a living? etc.)

And the lack of social pressure was very noticeable to me. I think it's the first time in my life I'm not criticized from the first minute for my choice of a chair to sit on, how much I talk or don't talk, how I'm dressed, etc. etc.

That's great! I myself haven't met many other Aspies, and haven't clicked with any out of the few I have.
I hope the meetups are a support for you.

Thank you activebutodd! I didn't think I'd find Aspie meetings in my communities, I'm so glad there's this place!

Greentea tell me more about the experience.

Well, I arrived so late that there was not much time left to talk, they were already engrossed in a discussion about what were the best places for us to live in this country.

If I'd met them somewhere else and didn't know they were Aspies, I would've concluded they were intelligent, humble, sensible and very shy people.

That sounds interesting. I wouldn't mind a chance to give something like that a try.

This is exactly why I choose to stay away from people. Funny, but I've begun to notice that the more I interact with people, the lonelier I feel. When I am asked questions like those, I find that I struggle a lot, and then end up going off on a tangent about some peculiarity in the shape of my dining area, or something like that, and people stand there with that frozen smile plastered on their face, like, "Okaaaaaaaaay." And I feel like I completely, utterly, do not belong there. You're description made me laugh, though.

Greentea, I am glad you enjoyed it. I also enjoyed going to an aspie social group. I liked the open manner of people who were, though sometimes shy, didnt have that instinct to categorise people, they just took them as they were.

I too got along really well with nearly all the Aspies I've met in real life (one of them in particular I got along with like a house on fire) - but I've never managed to stay in contact with any of them! Presumably because keeping in social contact is not an Aspie strength.

But I don't mind, I take the friendships for what they are.

How can something get along with a house on fire????

It's a saying - it means you get along with them really really well (like you "get on" like how fast a house can go up in flames(?))

big smiles greentea. I wish i could have been there.
i have not been able to access WP for a few days and I have missed you people.
back online now and happy to hear you met up with some likeminded people.

It was good to meet you, Greentea
You wrote me your real name in a pm, some two years ago. (I have an aspie memory which never forgets names).

Oh, I see! Thanks! It was great meeting you too.

I recognized you immediately from the photos of the meeting in South France. It's strange how I don't seem to have prosopagnosia when I first see someone on a photo instead of in real life

As I was crossing the lovely eucalyptus park back to my car, past the refreshing fountain, I thought I wish it were so easy to meet the other WP friends - just get in the car, drive half an hour and that's it, you talk to them in person...

The challenge with Aspies is you can't rely on their body language much, and I find myself having to remind myself about it when automatically drawing conclusions based on body language.

Extra topic I did not see before topic

Just saw this, GT. I am glad you met KenG.

I found this through the new Google custom search engine beside the banner logo.

Works great!!

Congrats on contact I've yet to meet a fellow aspie

I too found some things in the new search, it's great!

Ebonwinter, I know. I had been very curious for years!