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I'm wondering whether i should tell my parents or my older sister that i have AS, i already told a good female friend of mine that i have it. It was on the tip of my tongue to shout it out when my mom was giving out about how unsocial i am and my two main obsessions boxsets and video games. I am closer to my sister than my parents and i would tell her when we are alone with no one else around. Who should i tell and how?

man this as touchy as it can get sadly in today's culture everyone is trying to "look" perfect and they see their children as a reflections of themselves. Treat it like getting into a cold or hot pool go slow let them ease into it

I think something like AS is very important, it impacts your whole life. I think at least your parents and others close relatives should know. It's not something to hide. Don't overwhelm them immediately, but give a lot of explanation and take it slow. Perhaps that makes it easier for them to get used to the idea.

I think you should atleast try to tell your sister. I don't know how but if you are comfortable enough with her you should be able to ease yourself into telling her. Start talking about the problems you have and then say this is why.

And don't "tell". Inform. Do not weaponize it in a fight. For the love of all that is holy(and thus symbolic of man's folly) wait for a calm time.

Upset people are usually a LOT less tolerant.

I think you should first tell your sister that you have it (or that you think you have it) and then maybe she could help you tell your mum. It might help if you print off some information about AS so they can understand it for themselves. However don't expect a positive reaction - you can hope, but all families aren't as accepting as one would like.

You've seen one family, you've seen one family. It depends on your family. In mine anyone with something "wrong with them" will likely be bullied or patronised. I would have no expectation of useful support from telling them. I've read of supportive families with parents that can sensibly deal with issues but they are not all like that. Inform yourself more first. Then decide if your family would be hurtful or helpful.

The only reason I didn't already tell my family I have AS is because it wil change how they treat, viewand think about me forever (such a cliche!)

Whats the best site to print off information about AS anyway?

http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/ad.html

Here's some good information. It's not enough to be overwhelming for someone who has never heard of it.

I'm reading a book at the moment called 'coming out Asperger' written by lots of different people, both professionals, parents and people with AS themselves. Although I have got kinda stuck on chapter 3 (I have a slight bit of AD/HD), the book seems quite good. Maybe it would help you work out who to tell, when and how.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

In St. Neots library! I was quite suprised to find it because most libraries only have the 'poor parents, look what you have to put up with' type books. Have a look online for it, I'm sure it's available in the US.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )