What does eye contact actually do to you?

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What does eye contact actually do to you?

Make you cringe	32%	[ 29 ]
Make you fearful	28%	[ 25 ]
Make you giggle	0%	[ 0 ]
Make you cry	3%	[ 3 ]
Make you angry	0%	[ 0 ]
You NEVER give eye contact	12%	[ 11 ]
Nothing, you just don't like it	24%	[ 22 ]

Total votes : 90

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11 Jun 2009, 3:11 am

If you make eye contact, what does it actually do to you?

Does it make you cringe?

Make you fearful?

Make you giggle at the wrong time?

Make you cry?

Make you angry?

Or does it depend who you are looking at or do you absolutely never give eye contact?

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11 Jun 2009, 3:34 am

Pain.

Which is why I avoid it.

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11 Jun 2009, 3:53 am

I just don't do it and don't really understand why people make a big deal out of it. Why don't other people look into space?

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11 Jun 2009, 3:57 am

Its difficult to me because I dont like looking at people when they are sitting or standing near me. I prefer to look away, or at the wall or floor. I have some strange problems with my vision though, I sort of have a weird stimmy gaze and I compulsively trace my eyes around things and my gaze is constantly stuck and caught on things. All in all very very uncomfortable. I have dyspraxia too so I think that I have difficulty coordinating my eye muscles and that this plays a large part in this.

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11 Jun 2009, 4:15 am

zen_mistress wrote:

Its difficult to me because I dont like looking at people when they are sitting or standing near me. I prefer to look away, or at the wall or floor.

Yes, I agree, the closer they are, the more difficult it is and its much easier to discuss something if you have a wall or floor without a pattern on it to distract you when you are considering the reply.

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11 Jun 2009, 4:52 am

i get flip in my guts - a big dose of hideous fear and also nausea. yes...nausea. doesn't do much for romance.....

"Let me look at you..let me look into your eyes," He said, as he reached a hand towards her.

"Woah, f**k off...yikes...your eyes. I'm going to spew," she gushed, as she barrelled her way through the house, hands flapping, to the bathroom and the clean. white porcelain toilet bowl.

He left, shutting the door like a definite punctuation, behind him.

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11 Jun 2009, 4:54 am

I can make brief eye contact with people I know well but otherwise I feel a strange sense of vertigo also a sinking feeling in my gut.

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11 Jun 2009, 5:13 am

millie wrote:

Same, I am suprised that extreme discomfort/nausea/vertigo isn't up there.

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11 Jun 2009, 5:21 am

millie wrote:

"Let me look at you..let me look into your eyes," He said, as he reached a hand towards her.

"Woah, f**k off...yikes...your eyes. I'm going to spew," she gushed, as she barrelled her way through the house, hands flapping, to the bathroom and the clean. white porcelain toilet bowl.

He left, shutting the door like a definite punctuation, behind him.

Hilarious! You should write romance novels... :lol:

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11 Jun 2009, 5:23 am

Kaleido wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

Its difficult to me because I dont like looking at people when they are sitting or standing near me. I prefer to look away, or at the wall or floor.

Patterns can be very distracting, like weird stripy carpets and square patterns and little intricate ones. The unemployment office has a particularly annoying carpet that I find it hard not to look at.

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11 Jun 2009, 5:32 am

hostilebanana wrote:

millie wrote:

doesn't do much for romance.....

Same, I am suprised that extreme discomfort/nausea/vertigo isn't up there.

Lol at millie.

Ooops, didn't think about nausea and couldn't see how to change the poll just now. Apologies.

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11 Jun 2009, 5:58 am

Well, none of them, but the closest is fearful.
If I look into people eyes it's a bit like they're shooting lazers at mine, it's weird, you know that strange feeling when someone's watching you from behind and you know they are? Like that but magnified..

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11 Jun 2009, 6:07 am

I think a 'nothing' option is missing.

It does nothing to me now.

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11 Jun 2009, 6:11 am

Sora wrote:

I think a 'nothing' option is missing.

It does nothing to me now.

Because I asked what it did to people, I didn't expect anyone to reply if it didn't actually do anything to them

Good point though.

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11 Jun 2009, 6:35 am

It mostly makes me cringe. I also feel fear. When it's with someone I'm in love with, I can do it for longer. With anyone else, there's a strong element of ickiness to it.

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11 Jun 2009, 6:38 am

Pain, fear, overload. Destroys the ability to even think.

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