I used to when I was younger. He and my mother were divorced shortly before my first birthday. Even then, during the first 10 or so months, he had very little to do with me. My mother is a proud woman, but she never tried to keep me away from him. She wanted him to be in my life despite the fact that she did not want to be with him. She would try to find ways to get him to come spend time with me. My first memories of my father...are of him not being there and my mother being said for me. When I was four, my grandmother and I were in Walmart and we happened to see him there. I, of course, did not recognize him. He looked at us and kept walking. My grandmother became very angry and confronted him. Basically FORCED him to come speak to me. I don't remember much about that day. I only remember hiding behind her leg while he mumbled to me...patted me on the head.
As I got older...I hated him. I hated him for what he did to my mother. I hated him for never trying to see me; for not wanting to know me. I hated him for what he did to his other children as well. Unlike me, his sons and older daughter got to know him...and then he just ran away. Said nothing. Just left them and started a new family. His current family. Last year...he finally decided to go to a court appearance. He has never paid the child support that he owed and he never showed up in court. He came to our home that day. Hugged me, lifting me from the floor, kissed me, kept grabbing my hands and staring at me. And then...he opened his mouth. Lie after lie after lie about why he couldn't see me and how sorry he was. Somehow he managed to make it all the fault of my mother, his parents, and his sister. Maybe his lies would have worked if I had not SEEN them try to make him a part of my life. Maybe it would have worked if my mother had been bitter and told me nothing but bad things about him. She never did that. She always told me to forgive him, because we did not know what he may or may not be going through.
I've rambled enough. Long story short...I realized that I didn't know the guy. It is really stupid to assign any emotion, let alone one so powerful as hatred or loathing, to a person that you don't even know.
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I think I know. I don't think I know. I don't think I think I know. I don't think I think.