A bad case of asperger's

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I don't feel like i belong anywhere, i guess im the ultimate aspie. I get meltdowns left and right, can't get a job and i have no interest in jobs. Can't read people can't roleplay in forums and can barely play any online games without getting into bad situations. I feel like i am forced to be alone and arrogant, eventhough i don't want to. Am i the only one this way?

relax. I had many meltdowns and tantrums so that the people who lived with me used to hate me. You need to find out what is causing your meltdowns and try work it out.

the only one who hates me is myself, so i guess that's a good thing

Try to at least tolerate (preferably like) yourself/ neg. energy messes with your life.

Considering that most with AS don't work and have no friends, I don't think you'd be classed as "bad".

I'm sure there's many members here with AS who don't work and have no friends [in person], it's just that not everyone likes to say these things.

that's true, that made me feel less weird. Thanks for that.

i have that problem and ironically it makes it so much harder for other people to like you too... like attracts like... find something your proud about

Youll make freinds here and i bet your not that Bad, anyway Bad isnt always bad!

well im not bad but i sometimes think i am. Thanks for the cool comments all.

I have got no friends (at least who are not on the internet...) and I often used to hate myself. Now I realise that I shouldn't hate myself for who I am. That's just the way we are and it's usually other people who are nasty about us. That is what gives us the idea that we are not 'normal'. Not all people with AS become able to have friends and stuff... Sorry I'm rambling again...

no your not rambling, you are in the same situation as i am. Having no friends makes me depressed sometimes.

Yeah. I get depressed a lot about not having good friends... But, looking on the bright side, i've improved a ton since middle school. At least i have some friends(just not close ones) and a bunch of acquantainces now, lol.

But i think the whole "most aspies don't have friends or jobs" thing is the wrong kind of attitude to have. Everyone here keeps saying that's it's not a DISORDER, it's a DIFFERENCE... So i think, with that in mind, everyone on here has their own unique set of qualities that, given the right environment, can help them become successful people. Find a job where you can use your interests... And, if you're someone like me who has a real need for human connection, then get a job take up an activity that more or less forces you to get used to people and being social. That has helped me tons. You eventually get used to it, even if you're still more awkward than others. Do i still get meltdowns and general crazy-periods where i'm probably far from the ideal salesperson? Of course! But i do get through them, and the overall effect is that i start learning more about social interactions, and i get more chances to connect with people. I know a lot of people are worse cases than mine, yeah.. But i think anyone can take baby steps. Maybe a quiet place like a bookstore or coffee shop would be a good environment. There's not a lot of things to over-stimulate you, but you still get to interact with people in a pretty safe and defined way(just have to deal with questions). It seems like loads of people on here have families and all, and that gives me a lot of hope

I have gotten into lots of trouble trying to socialize on the internet too. I wish I could role play but cant do it well. And I hate facebook and IM. I can only hold down a job if it has extremely limited contact with others, I'd not be able to work at all if I were not a computer programmer. Even tech support is too social for me, and I can't even do things where I'm on my feet, like sales clerk or mow lawns, because of a physical disability. I think if my body were healthy, I would like some sort of manual labor job outdoors, where I don't have to interact with people.