So I don't understand the concept of being outgoing. Apparently people at my college think I'm stuck-up because "I don't talk much". I say that in quotes because I believe I talk all the time, I'm not shy at all. I ask people questions and say hi when I pass them. I asked my sister how to make friends and she said "talk to people". So I tried that. I tried making small-talk in classes and clubs but it just doesn't progress to a friendship.
I asked someone for feedback to see if they noticed me talking more. They said "no I never see you hanging out with friends and talking. Thats what people mean by talking". I feel like this is a cycle, people think I'm weird for not having friends, and then I try to make friends with them and they don't want to because they think I am weird. So if small talk isn't enough to make friends then how do you make them???
I'm thinking out just attempting to make a conversation with every person I see. Would it be socially acceptable to just run up to people I see walking and say "Hi, how is your day going?" Is this what people mean by being outgoing/ talking to everyone?
29 Jul 2015, 8:16 pm
