Running away, need advice

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I think about running away all the time (or those who remember i've been having these feelings for a while now) Well i'm getting homeschooled after the vacation (atleast if it works out) But i can't stand sitting home 24/7 even though school is hell, sitting home (with this familie) is actually pretty depressing. Well, next schoolyear would have been pretty brainmelting and suicidal i'm pretty sure of that by several reasons so homeschooling would be better. Well anyway, i'm pretty sure that after all i'm probably not going to run away because i'm an idiot who is too dumb to come up with a decent plan (i've been thinking about it everyday and still don't have a clue) look up alot of info too, i know alot about it now ok but i still don't have an idea how to proceed, expecially because whe aren't one of the richest people... The running away has to be to another country which is probably the most biggest reason why it's impossible. And well, i already created stims when i think about bad memories so i'm mentaly already screwed up, what you gonna do... I just need some advice about it, and i don't need people to say it's bad because i really don't care. I hate people who uses drugs but actually all i want is to take freakishly much drugs, that would be so great. Oh also, don't ask questions about why i want to run away.

I marked the important points in bold (for those who are lazy readers) I didn't put this at Haven because i needed lots of advice and not support.

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i feel for u some level....please dont run away talk with us or doctor or anyone about your situation ...i know its boring to just sit home..but hey u can give some kick to day by walking in store /going in one even i know u migth feel depressed and see no mind to do it ,its just someting that helps me too to bright up day


also dont do drugs alcohol is safest way if u want to feel like it..and i would advice to wait until u are 18 so u can legally go bar and get same effect

I know all that stuff, i've been doing research about running away alot of time, i see no way out. It's an alternative for suicide. and as for followthereaper, i can't go to the store without being depressed like hell and anxious, school has done me alot of damage and being here Or anywhere 100km near it i'm scared to go outside, that' why i want to run away to an other country too. If only there was a way to legally move out at 16 that would be great. Besides i hardly sleep anyway, i'm lucky if i can sleep 5 hours at school time... (really, no kidding!) And apparently i can sleep almost instantly at anyother place, even in school i've fallen asleep so now and then but i always have to go to bed like 4 hours earlier to try very hard to go to sleep (also i can't wait till i'm 18, well i could but then i would probably be really affected and probably completely messed up and probably will stay like that)

Hang in there, man, and don't do drugs. You really need to see a doctor and get on some proper medications. That will help a lot, even as scary as talking to a doctor is. Trust me, I've been there.

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Running away won't solve anything I'm afraid. Your problems would only follow you wherever you went. I get that you don't want to share your problems with an internet forum but try and find someone to talk to about these feelings whether it be your parents, another family member or even your doctor.

If you really are serious about moving to another country then make it your goal to work towards. Finish school, figure out what you want from life then go from there. Don't do anything rash, slow and steady wins the race!

I deleted the post now, feels too risky to leave it on...

sorry about way your family behaves have u thinked about getting contact with your local sosial office..just paste and copy from here and send to em they can help u anyway u like

Gosh doesn't sound like you have things very easy. I can see why you'd want to escape. You say that you don't see you real father often, is he far away? Could you maybe live with him for a while?

But i don't care for them to be reported or whatever, i just want to live a normal life without fear of going outside. And i want friends, i don't care if just one or more... Can't live here anymore, atleast not very happy... And well i sometimes see my father (more then i used to) kinda like once a week maybe once of 2 weeks and just for 5 mins or something.

(usually people hang around outside house with friends away from there house and come home at like 12 a clock or something) I don't have that, i stay 24/7 (-deleted too-)

If you've got nowhere to go then you've got nowhere to go, simple as that. You are just going to have to run away inside your own head, keep to yourself, make your own life and try to ignore the family.

Drugs = bad. You need to get really, really good grades, and you can't fry your brain if you want grades, because the best way an 18 year old Aspie can run away from home is to go to college. Dorm life is easier than being completely on your own, and if you can manage that, then you can get away from home.

Yeah. 18. Sorry, that's the way it goes.

If you run away, you need a destination with [i]adults[\i] who will give you food/clothing/shelter. Family. A friend's house. Kids on their own simply cannot access enough of the basic necessities--and yeah, even if you're mentally an adult, if you're not 18, society says you are a kid.

My sister ran away successfully when she was 16. She lived with my cousins for two years before she went to college. That's your best bet, if you're going to run away: Find family and live with them. And beware it's not going to be like visiting at holidays; you're going to have to put up with all their quirks and annoyances and rules. Most will try to return you home; you are, after all, another mouth to feed. My sister was lucky in that respect. She moved from a household with a sociopath to a household with an alcoholic, though, so her life wasn't perfect afterward, either.

take this from someone who ranaway a lot as a kid because I thought I would escape my problems, nothing chnges you just end up hrting other and mostly yourself please don't run away friend but try I know its hard to but talk out your problems with a parent or guardian because they could give you advice

I was wondering if you'd take a few things into serious consideration before actually "running away":

Where is your money and food going to come from?
How are you even going to get food?
Where would you live?
Where would go if it rained?
If you were in trouble, how could you contact anyone if your cell phone died?
And, how could you recharge your cell phone if you weren't near an outlet?

Those are just some of the many questions you'd have to take into consideration if you'd think about doing something like that.
Then again, you're stressed, which at that age, running away seems like a "logical" explaination, and yet another thing to consider: This country has a growing number are homeless teenagers and you would be adding to that number. And yet, you would be doing it out of selfishness. Yes, I know you're stressed. But, you will soon be an adult and have the freedom to do and go as you please. You have to have patience. Many people under the age of 18, lack that immensely. Even at my age.
Also, ask yourself this question: Why do I want to really runaway? Is it out of boredom or out of a dangerous situation?
Because, if it's out of boredom, than I need to engage myself in something that will entice my knowledge or creativity.
But, if it's out of a dangerous situation, such as abuse, than I need to inform my parents or the police, A.S.A.P.

I may sound a little hard right now, only because I do not know you're situation well enough. I felt as though I could have helped you in some kind of way.
I think I'll come up with a much more through reply when I had read more of your post.
Please forgive me for this rather rude post.
I shall pray for you, if that may help anything.