Does anyone have issues following tasks?

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Countless times my mom sends me to do something and I do something different. Exmaple: today mom said get bags of lettuce and hashbrowns (I got the lettuce/hashbrowns part) so I got 2 heads of lettuce but she wanted the salad bags of lettuce she was really upset with me. I was curious if other people have this issue. It has happened other times mainly going into a store/restraunt to pick up X but I get Y. I'm not sure why I do this. Thanks.

It sounds like your mother wasn't clear enough when she told you to get the bags of lettuce and hash browns. She did say bags so you got two lettuces. Why did she need it in a bag? You did get her the lettuce. Maybe she wanted you to be literal.

That was your mother's lack of clarity. If she wanted something specific she should have asked for it. People expect others to be mindreaders sometimes.

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Patricia

My husband does this all the time. I need to be extremely clear. It actually stresses him out. Honestly, it seems to be more of a guy thing although some girls do it.
For her to get upset at you is just wrong. Don't feel bad about it as the problem is with her in dealing with things

If I am disappointed because my husband got the wrong thing, which happens often, I need to be very careful in how I approach it. If I don't approach it well, he will drop what he is doing and then go. I don't have time to stop him. In the past three months, I have seriously learned to let go. I don't want to stress him out regarding really minor things

She usually gets the bags of salad mix not lettuce heads. I just heard lettuce not bags so oh well.

yes this is quite common on the spectrum actually i have to be told in simple solid sentences no analogies, no metaphors, no sarcasm, nothing, and if their describing like u said to get something, you have to visiaully show me with ur hands, and repeat the directions over and over for me to follow. if not, mind as be talking to a statue prob get more a response from that lol.

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I ask a lot of questions if I can or I just look confused and they'll usually help me. Lettuce is way too vague I don't see how anyone could follow that. I need specifics and directions on how to get there.

I often have problems with this. Verbal instructions I often get confused with because people aren't specific and I end up forgetting what the instruction was if it's not written down. Next time you are asked to get something, ask questions about it like what TYPE, what SIZE, what BRAND etc. Then write it down.

Yeah. I have to ask questions and make sure i have a really specific idea of what i need to do, or else i just end up stressed out trying to figure out which way i should do it and just get completely confused.

I also have a hard time inferring where objects might be if they are not in the place I'm expecting them to be in. For instance, if my wife says, "Can you bring me my cell phone? It's in my purse," and I go to her purse and it is not there, I can't really figure out where she might have left it. I usually just go back to her and say, "It's not where you said it is. Any other ideas?"

Yes, I ask lots of questions and repeat it back. "So what kind of milk?... 2 litres?.... ok biscuits, hot chocolate, milk."

Sometimes, but I feel like it's not always my fault. Like whenever my mom is giving me directions in the car I sometimes complain that she's not being clear enough. It doesn't help that she sometimes says go left when she really means right or straight...But in other cases I think I tend to interpret things differently, but I don't know if I would call that an issue because when it's explained to me again in more detail I can do it properly.

Sometimes I have a terrible time understanding directions. If there's any ambiguity I think of a bunch of different ways to interpret the instruction, and sometimes none of those ways are actually correct. The worst was when I was learning to drive - some misunderstandings were my fault, some were my instructor's, but for some reason I had such an awful time figuring out what she wanted me to do.