Does your family annoy you more than others?

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That's often been the case for me.

I only find my family annoying if I'm around them for too long. My family live on the other side of the country so that isn't really so much of a problem anymore.

Just certain members of my family and only when they do certain things. That's not uncommon.
My grandmother quite often does things that really annoy me. For example, I was going for a drive with her last week and she asked me if I wanted to get a subway sandwich. I said no but she said that she wanted one anyway. She stopped at the Subway place and I reminded her THREE more times that I didn't want one. However she ordered me one! This wasn't because of memory loss (she's not THAT old) but because she's stubborn and ALWAYS thinks that she knows better than me. That's what annoys me about her.

If it wasn't for her and a few other members of my family, it would be other people who would annoy me more often.

Yes.
One of the great mysteries in my life is that my family know about me less then any bystander in the street
it took me some time to get use to a reality where total stranger might get me much better than the people who shares my personal history and genes
i think that's lots of AS mental difficulties and identity problems stem from this amazing fact

my family don't annoy me one bit, weirdly enough. They know little about me though

I couldn't have said it better myself!

My family has this weird mindset and preconceived notions about me that are just not true. Since strangers are a clear mental slate, their views of me cannot be distorted by hopes, memories and sentiment. And therefore, as they get to know me, they tend to know me better than my own family, whose views are so distorted that they cannot possibly ever get to know who or what I truly am.

Not really, actually. I don't hear from any of them often enough to be annoyed by them, for one thing. Now, when I was living with my sister, neice and grand-nephew, that was another story, but since they moved out and I only see them every few months or so, we get along just fine. Distance makes for good family relations, I think.

Your family typically knows all the right (or more like wrong) buttons to push, and they will often subconsciously do them without even thinking about it. Another person doesn't know these things, and likely would not do them even if they accidentally stumbled on them. Family will often do things to a child to get to them to comply, only seeing the visible result without any idea of how it affects them mentally. Then they'll continue to do this because it "works" even though it angers the child to no end or screws with their head in other ways. Family therefore has an incentive and gets in a habit of doing things like this, when another person never would.

My family annoys me more than others... because I live with them.

It's been quite similar here......I felt the need to shut them out of my life to a very large extent when I was quite young, because my philosophies and theirs seemed to be poles apart, and parental control over me felt very stifling. There were so many things out there that I wanted to take in, and their world was very narrowly-defined and excluded a lot of what I was into. I felt that they'd disapprove of a lot of my interests, or worry about them, so I kept quiet about most of the things I loved, so they couldn't spoil it. And once I'd left home, I found duty visits very difficult to make, and I didn't miss them at all. I never stopped caring about them completely, but you'd never have known that by watching me. Things are slowly changing back again these days though. Most of them are dead, and that seems to be causing the survivors to seek each other out a bit more. My sister and I email each other quite a lot and exchange CDs. I'm starting to get some sense of family bonding, which is a thing that was pretty meaningless to me between the ages of about 10 and 50.

That's the nature of family dynamics everywhere, whether you have AS or are NT.

I love my family, but I didn't choose my family. Certainly they are going to get on my nerves at times.

I agree it's not necessarily an Aspie thing, in fact I'm sure there must be cases where the Aspie has received so much crap from the outside world that they end up staying in the family for their entire lives. One of the freedoms we have in modern times in the developed world is that we can actually walk away from our families without fear of retribution, except when children depend on us.

I suppose it's a sign of really strong bonds when people stand by each other even when they practically drive each other up the wall. In a sense I really admire that, though I'd defend with my dying breath the notion that there are limits on the harm anybody (family or not) can be allowed to do to me before I ditch them. Ideally I suppose I believe that love should be very strong, but not unconditional.

Yes! My mother eats so loudly...like a pig! So disgusting. Only her. Then my brother does this throat thing that is gross. Can't even explain it. My dad..ha...he does so many things.

The thing is, they drive me crazy! I can stand other people...but not my own family! Ahh!

I can become easily annoyed with just about anyone who suddenly cranks up the radio, TV, or CD player. But when it comes to everyday life in general, and especially social ineptness, I think I probably annoy myself more than anyone.

Yes. My mother and her 'silly' moods. Also when she yells at the dog. My sister for acting like everything she says is right. My other family (half-brothers and step sisters) I get along with a whole lot more.

My dad drives everybody in my house crazy! He has autism(and so do I). My half brother is really really annoying!