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23 Jan 2006, 11:29 am

I was talking to a girl in one of my classes today, and she had a pretty monotone voice. I didn't notice anything else particularly aspie about her, but she had the monotone voice, people. Could this be a sign? Is she One of Us?

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23 Jan 2006, 11:58 am

this is what gillberg said about the typical aspie girl:
extremely low whispering voice.
extremely passive personality, or extremely negative personality or extremely hyper personality
so shes not an aspie just coz she has a sign that sais she is an aspie BOY

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23 Jan 2006, 1:47 pm

berta wrote:

Hmm, in the brief conversation I had with her, I really didn't seem to detect very much of anything about her personality. She spoke matter-of-factly, without much animation. I wouldn't call her passive, but she didn't seem very active, either, but it was only 9:00 in the morning. In her appearance, I didn't detect any oddness or deviance from the norm; she was dressed like a typical well-dressed college girl.

What I certainly noted was absent was any enthusiasm. She talked and asked questions almost as if programmed to do a little conversation. That sounds silly; her brain was probably practically on autopilot because of the time of day.

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23 Jan 2006, 3:10 pm

It sounds like she could have a probloem with depression instead of AS. It doesn't sound like you have enough information to start making conclusions yet.

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23 Jan 2006, 4:51 pm

berta wrote:

I talked in a monotone voice when I was an Aspie GIRL, and not a low, whispering voice. I had many traits typical of Aspie BOYS. As far as I know my parents did not have my sex changed when I was an infant. I still occasionally talk with a monotone voice.

I am not familiar to Gillberg, but if he (or she) clumps Aspies girls in only a handful of extreme types, then something's being overlooked. We're not carbon copies, you know.

I was passive, but not extremely so. Actually I was probably more along the lines of "very indifferent." I was always strong-willed and independant, so at times I wasn't at all passive. I just wanted to be left alone, and sometimes being passive acchieved that and sometimes not. I was depressed and anxious, but not hyper or negative. (I stress: depressed is not the same as negative.)

Actually since a monotone voice and matter-of-factness would be a little out of the ordinary for a college age girl, I would suspect something's up. I doubt depression - being a depressive, that's not how we talk. We, well, try not to talk at all. If the conversation felt oddly like an information gathering session or an interrogation, yeah she's likely an Aspie. Aspies women have that affect on people - like we're giving them the third degree even if we're just asking for directions. We can be very detached yet rather intense at the same time and it weirds people out. It's not what they expect from a woman.

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23 Jan 2006, 5:32 pm

NeantHumain wrote:

Neant,

Why don't you walk around with a copy of the DSM-IV and start diagnosing everybody you meet with something? :roll:

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23 Jan 2006, 5:34 pm

jman wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

Neant,

Why don't you walk around with a copy of the DSM-IV and start diagnosing everybody you meet with something? :roll:

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23 Jan 2006, 5:35 pm

jman wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

Neant,

Why don't you walk around with a copy of the DSM-IV and start diagnosing everybody you meet with something? :roll:

I hope you are rolling those eyes at your own inability to recognise satire.

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23 Jan 2006, 5:43 pm

No I don't think it's satire just look at his next post.

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23 Jan 2006, 9:08 pm

berta wrote:

Im almost the oppisite. Im loud (or so im told) in places that im not supposed to be. Im not passive, Im told Im overly agressive (though I dont see that at all) I am Hyper and very negitive. bit I have the wrong inflection in my voice. I sound like Im pissed when Im not, and I come off as mean when Im not. Thats the opposite of NO inflection and let me assure you, its twoce as bad. People take stuff the wrong way all the time b/c I sound like I mean it.

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23 Jan 2006, 9:11 pm

jman wrote:

NeantHumain wrote:

Neant,

Why don't you walk around with a copy of the DSM-IV and start diagnosing everybody you meet with something? :roll:

If he tryed that, he'd come to the realization I have: no one is really NT, and we've all got something.

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23 Jan 2006, 10:37 pm

NeantHumain wrote:

NH, I sincerely hope this is one of your little fun-pokes at people who overdiagnose. You pull that joke a lot so it's kind of hard to know if you're serious about this one; but if you are, COME ON, it's just her voice! You need more info than that!! !! If it's a joke, though, perhaps a bit too subtle for me...

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23 Jan 2006, 10:43 pm

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Yes, I was half joking. I actually just saw her again while exercising, and her voice wasn't flat this time.

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23 Jan 2006, 10:58 pm

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Yes, I was half joking. I actually just saw her again while exercising, and her voice wasn't flat this time.

-wipes forehead- whew.

Now, if you saw her again and she was talking in a monotong while perseverating about the various varieties of cheese, not making eye contact, wouldn't let you touch her, was distracted by a fan that was blowing in the background, and had flat feet, you mihgt be able to argue a case.

((That was ME being tongue in cheek))

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24 Jan 2006, 4:01 am

jman wrote:

No I don't think it's satire just look at his next post.

Then I apologise for the error my good man.

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24 Jan 2006, 5:35 am

My advice is to stop dwelling on things... just a bit of advice, any potential GF would be put off by your intense diagnosing of everything.

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