Do People Act Deferential, Not Friendly, Around You?

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Oftentimes, people act respectfully polite or even deferential around me, using such formalities as Sir even though I'm only twenty-one years old! They've been doing this for many years. It must be how I carry myself; I don't know. I really don't like it.

A more extreme example of this is when I worked at a retail store a couple of summers ago. I was walking up to a cashier, and she must have assumed I was a manger of some kind, so she blurted, "I didn't do it!" before I had even said a thing. She then realized I was just another employee, much to her relief, I suppose.

Sometimes when I'm just walking to and thro, people will suddenly become nervous if I make even brief eye contact with them on accident.

All the time at work.

The upper management and even some exeutives refer to me a "sir" or more often *Mr. (fill in you last name)* while they are on a first name basis with everyone else. I can tell very much after a while that I'm treated differently and it crushes me because that's the last way I want to be treated.

Which kneecap?

Yes im using that one conciously to scare the mods from thinking about banning me again or in case anyone dares to disagree with me here.

Yup, it happens to me, too. My wife says it's because I make people very unsure of themselves. I don't know how it happens, though. She's explained, but I don't get it.

Im glad you have matured into a gentleman with a suit, an accompying orange sash, bowler hat and black walking stick. As i recall when you were 21 you used to wear union-jack emblazened blue dungarees, a skinhead and a pair of doc-martins. Keep Britain British and all that.

Anyway, apologies to NeantHumain for that brief diversion. Going back to what he said, and assuming that, as usual, there is an element of truth in what is obviously vintage NeantHumain stuff. I've often found people using "Mr", before my name, when it's obviously not required. It's sarcasm, because I seem rather detached and formal, sometimes. Fortunately, it's not so bad these days, as I often appear rather the opposite.