I just wanted to thank everyone who responded to my previous thread and provide an update. BF felt intensely bad. He "hit a wall" and realized he needed to make changes at all costs. He realized his behavior was causing problems in all areas of life. He is getting help and therapy for this. We are getting along great now and our emotional bond is deeper. I worked through a lot of stuff emotionally and it helped me to re-evaluate my entire life and make changes.