views from a 3rd person...

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i have come to realise that whatching others i can see whats going on a bit better than when i am directly involved.

my mum said to my dad "do you want to get richard or should i go?..." lol what she should say is; richard needs picking up, will u go. thus

leaving the optional 'y?' lol

now come to do this for myself, i am hopless, i dont know weather it is because im too involved to think or i just don't have the brain power

to 'multi-rask'

happy to hear any views. comments or opinions....

In classes, social situations, meetings, etc., I always try (tried) to place myself all the way in the back (a dark corner is best) so I can observe the room without getting involved too much and that also gives me the much needed breathing space and distance from other humans in the room. Otherwise, I'd get overloaded and lose track of what's going on around me.

I understand what you mean I think. When I see other people interact I can imagine that I should do this, or say that, but when I actually need to do something it does not happen. Like I am locked at the moment I am involved and need to act for real. I can not come up with a good reaction and just jump to the first thing that comes to mind, otherwise it would take to long for a reaction. Strange, like I can only come up with a reaction when I am an outsider, but not when I am involved in the situation.

yeah thats what im sayin, it does feel like an intense reaction. mostly the wrong action, it pisses me off. i mean how is any one like that ment to get anywhere in life?

If you're watching, you aren't as emotionally involved as a participant in the situation. Plus, you're not having to think about what you are going to do/say at the same time that you're processing what the other person is doing/saying.