Oh my godddd, social security interviiiieeew

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Uuuugh, I go in tomorrow with my mom and aunt for this stupid interview so I can get social security income, because I'm having so much trouble finding a job and I have to pay my school loans soon. I'm so nervous. I kind of want to just sabotage it by acting like I'm just a lazy jerk, because I really don't want it, but I need it because I don't want my mom and BF to have to keep paying for me. >__<;;;

I DON'T WANT IT THOOOUUUGH. *hatehatehate* Why is it so hard to find a job? And my mom is like "I'm sorry if we have to say something tomorrow that might hurt you, but it'll be because you need this" and then she started CRYING, so now I'm totally freaked out and anxious and I don't want to do this. Jesus Christ. Have any of you done this?? What do they ask you?? Do we all have to be in the room together?? How long does it take?? Tell me it's not so bad.
I wish it was over already, I hate the suspense. I know it's going to be so humiliating.

Augh I'm such a wimp.;;;;;;

I don't see the big deal.

You're going to an interview because you and your physician feel you are too disabled to work (the whole point of disability pensions). If it's anything like here in Oz, you'll just be asked questions concerning such, i.e., why you can't work, and if she's a psycho or psychic, he or she will probably do their own little covert assessment of you. If you can't answer the questions due to your impairment, you have someone else help you.

Good luck!
My parents keep going on about how they think i should get social security... i don't think i need it, because i have a job, and my parents mostly support me. but my parents and my doctor said that since i can only do it part-time and it's not exactly the kind of job a person can live off of, that i'd probably qualify. i dunno.

Aaah, you guys are so casual, that makes me feel less nervous. XD;;
I know I'm probably overreacting, but I just build these things up in my head and they seem so terrible..

My son gets SSI and at 5 he was too young to be interviewed. They relied on the doctors report. Still, I wouldn't want to rely on a government employee to assess my capabilities. There simply isn't enough understanding about invisible disabilities. I was told by a previous psychiatrist of my own if my son ever had to be re-evaluated, to make sure his doctor didn't use the term "remission" meaning he responded well to his meds because SSA would interpret that as "cured". Anyway, Good Luck and just act natural .

I've been to 3 interview hearings. One some years back, and 2 recently - one last year where disability was denied and then an appeal hearing earlier this year where it was approved.
Yes, it does bring a lot of anxiety!

Some things to consider:
1. answer questions with specifics and facts, they don't care how you 'feel about it'.

2. do not try to be 'helpful' and add more information when answering questions - I've heard an attorney say that more of his clients have talked themselves out of disability than Soc Sec would have declined.

3. there may be a medical person there which will be asked questions, some hypothetical, along the line of "Given this this and this, can this person do such and such kind of work?"

4. answer questions with specifics and facts

if u need it, just hit the spot when u see it if they just ask u something along do u need it ? just say "yes"

Mine was really not that bad. Being a huge wreak and not being able to talk to people is kinda exactly what they're "looking for" at an interview for disability.. I guess they could just freakin' tell nobody would want to employ me.

Exactly, Maggiedoll.

Whenever I go in for an interview, I toss my coping skills out the window. I let my mind drift, leaving long silent periods between questions. Sometimes the interviewer, in such a kind, helping voice, has to pull me back on track or repeat the question.

Thus I demonstrate what I am. Mentally disabled.

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Hey... you know, being on social security does NOT stop you from looking for a job. I had a summer job and I'm on SSI. Do NOT give up just because your mom is putting you on SSI. I doesn't mean you can't ever work. It just means that right now you are having problems supporting yourself because of your disability. You can even get SSI if you are only able to work part time.

In fact, there are programs for people who are on disability that will help you get work. So this could actually be a good thing, as far as working. If you can't work, find a volunteer job instead. It will look good on your resume and be something to do.

If you do end up crying, remember it will be temporary and you will recover. Sometimes it's hard to control that sort of thing.

I do volunteer.. although it will probably stop me from qualifying when the SSI comes up for review. I'm not sure how often that happens. I can't really imagine being able to keep a job for very long. Volunteering, when I break down I can hide in the house for a few weeks until I recover. When I'm breaking down and have to force myself back out, it ends up snowballing into a huge mess. Then I get fired because who wants to pay somebody to be a big wreak? scares the crap out of me.

Thanks you guys! Especially you, Callista, you are right and your words are very encouraging. I'll look into those programs.

I went and it was not very painful or uncomfortable at all. Mostly it was a lot of all of us sifting through papers (from my schools and counselors, etc..) looking for technical info. And the interview lady was cool, too. I couldn't stop myself from trying to act competent and normal, but I got stuck on a lot of the questions anyway and had to turn to my mom and aunt, so that was probably a good thing for the interviewer to see. I don't know what my chances are of being accepted, but there's nothing I can do about it now so I am not anxious anymore.