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jennyann45
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28 Aug 2009, 12:34 am

Hey everyone. I'm currently seeing a regular counselor at my university as I can't afford to go to a specialist, and while she knows a good bit about AS and really wants to help me, most of what she knows pertains to children, and obviously being 21 those don't always help me since I've grown out of some of the treatments they do with children.

I have a few problems, but my main one is having severe trouble with change. I feel like it's almost getting worse with age, the more "reality" sets in and everyone's pushing for me to be on my own. She can't find any methods for dealing with change, and she wanted me to go here and ask if anyone had to get treatment for that and what your counselor did that helped...? Even just advice for me that would really help.

Also, totally unrelated, but do any of you ever feel bad that you can't connect with people? I feel really broken hearted when I realize what should have been a moment of bonding between like my mom or something was just a moment of aggravation and not being able to find anything to say that would enhance that "bonding", or not properly being able to say "I'm sorry" or "thank you". I mean, I know I'm not a bad person, but sometimes I feel like I'm a really bad daughter or friend...especially since people have been pinpointing it out to me over the past year. I just don't like the thought that I'm hurting people.



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28 Aug 2009, 9:29 am

jennyann45 wrote:
Also, totally unrelated, but do any of you ever feel bad that you can't connect with people? I feel really broken hearted when I realize what should have been a moment of bonding between like my mom or something was just a moment of aggravation and not being able to find anything to say that would enhance that "bonding", or not properly being able to say "I'm sorry" or "thank you". I mean, I know I'm not a bad person, but sometimes I feel like I'm a really bad daughter or friend...especially since people have been pinpointing it out to me over the past year. I just don't like the thought that I'm hurting people.

Yes.. very much so. That's actually most of the point I was making in my "netbook" thread.. The chick sitting next to me complimented my computer, and my response was to tell her that it's a netbook and not a laptop. It's like "crap, she was trying to be nice and say something, and all I could do was tell her she used the wrong word for it!? What is WRONG with me?!" :?



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28 Aug 2009, 3:38 pm

Maggiedoll wrote:
Yes.. very much so. That's actually most of the point I was making in my "netbook" thread.. The chick sitting next to me complimented my computer, and my response was to tell her that it's a netbook and not a laptop. It's like "crap, she was trying to be nice and say something, and all I could do was tell her she used the wrong word for it!? What is WRONG with me?!" :?


Don't you hate it when that happens? Yesterday this really nice girl in my class complimented me on my shoes and kept talking to me about my shoes, but the whole time I was just smiling and nodding, I think I managed to utter "thank you" once - I mean they're just shoes! But as soon as she stopped talking she had this look on her face, that "um, okay...?" look and I was like, greeeaaat, she'll never talk to me again now.