procrastination

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does aspergers tend to have the effect to make people a procrastinater, or is that something else? i am a really big procrastinater. don't mean or want to be, i just am. wether it is getting something fixed, finding a job, or what ever. i want to do it, just can't seem to get myself to do it.

I procrastinate a lot. Maybe it has to do with co morbid ADD executive dysfunction or perfectionism. If you are a perfectionist, you might as well not start because you'll never be satisfied. A lifelong issue for me

I've always very, very much had that problem.
At the suggestion of someone here on my "cleaning" thread, I joined the FLYLADY mailing list, and that massivly helps with the procrastination on cleaning stuff..
In the past when I was looking for jobs or needing to find one (I'm on disability now.. ) I think part of it was that I had so little idea what to do or what was expected. Like the whole how to approach, how to ask for an application, how to fill out an application.. None of it quite made sense to me. I could never figure out how to go about any of it. Part of it is that I'm so sensitive and ruminate so much, that I just couldn't keep a job because I'd burst out in hysterical tears for hours at a time.. and the going-about-getting-a-job was a lot like being criticized. Then I'd always say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing and suddenly it was like my chances were gone. Another part of the problem is that I just have no talent for anything.

But yea.. so far as some of the procrastinating, the FLYLADY helps.. but that's mostly just for cleaning.

It's possible that AS exacerbates or facilitates procrastination, but it's certainly common among non-autistics as well.

Two of my latest book purchases are "Forgotten Algebra" by Barbara Lee Bleau, Ph.D. and "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Overcoming Procrastination" by Michelle Tullier, Ph.D.. I've barely cracked the cover on either of them. No, I have no problem with procrastination at all.

I read somewhere that people who procrastinate need the adrenalin rush of utter panic about meeting a deadline in order to focus enough to get the job done. When I was in college I would always find myself in an all-nighter writing a paper that was due the next day. I would often get an A too so I guess I was writing it subconsciously all along. But I suffered. I'm always getting to the gas station on fumes even though I tell myself I'll fill up at a quarter tank. My father was the Zen master of procrastination.

All linked to obsession and routines. If your mind is truly focused on something, you'll do it. Otherwise, getting interest in anything where you mind isn’t is very difficult.

I am a procrastinator as well but ironically when something needs to get done, I can just do it like that. It's things that I don't find important I procrastinate. But I heard it's a human trait. Sometimes it's frustrating because something that is important to you doesn't get done because the other person doesn't see it as important so they procrastinate. It causes me stress and then I get all pushy and bitchy. I can remember when I cancelled Dish Network, they wanted this thing back from the dish and my ex had it and it had to be given to me so I could mail it back to them and it was stressing me out because if I didn't return it, they would have charged me big bucks. But he didn't care because he said it was just a threat and wouldn't give it to me and I was so hurt by it I dumped him after he was rude to me on the phone one night and then two days later he called me and asked if I wanted it and he came by and gave it to me. Then I was able to mail it back to them and the friction was off me. I just stay away from those people now for relationships. I know my husband would never do this to me and I sure won't do this to other people either because I know how it feels to have someone do this to you. It's selfish when you do it to someone.