Communication

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It's so difficult to speak to people, having to worry about their emotional sensitivities to very abstract things. You have to choose your words so carefully as to not offend them. You have to change the way you communicate with every single person to accommodate their complexes. The thing is, you have to speak to them in order to find these things, and what may be their complex can seem so peculiar to you if not shared, but if it was your complex, as well, you have already worked on communicating in such a way as to avoid aggravating those who have a similar one -- maybe that implies "do unto others..." If you cannot understand something, it's difficult to adjust yourself to that thing. It seems pointless to try and communicate with anyone at all when there are so many possible complications that aren't even fathomable until you are faced with them. Speaking a certain way with one person may offend another, and then...where is your identity if you have to constantly shift that aspect of yourself to suit the people involved? It's a science that is unable to be mastered. You will always be a novice, and it takes so much of your time to study. You would have to devote your existence to analyzing every possibility with every person just so to not make mistakes and cause friction. By causing friction, you are angry with yourself by not being more careful, but you didn't know how to be more careful at the time...you were ignorant...insulting others without the intention of doing so. And even if you know stories of their past, different people respond differently to closely related situations, so you can't predict the affects it would have on that particularly person, especially when there are various events in a person's life that make up who they are, including their psychologically sensitive-areas.

I feel like I should just stop speaking to people altogether, because it's just hurting me when I hurt them by being careless or unknowing. I can't stand having to be so careful all the time, even with the most uncomplicated of subjects. Words are my enemy. Let's go back to grunting, but I would have to make sure not to point the wrong way when gesturing as to not offend. I want to cut out my tongue and sever my limbs. And now I'm thinking of the movie Johnny Got His Gun...what a way to live.

persons are nouns...as are animals/plants (and other living things), places, objects, and ideas...
there is no such thing as something being more of a noun or less of one...only defined or undefined...the vs. a

Can people not understand that they are nouns? I didn't make the rule.

It doesn't make them an object, because an object is an object, though, technically... people are objects, too...just living ones (animate objects). However, it DOES make them a noun, just as is an object, which means they are subject to the same process of description and with as much affection as would be given to objects -- by use of adjectives, metaphors, analogies, etc.

Neo, I understand perfectly what you mean. Precisely to solve this problem you describe, it's that conventions exist. Convention comes from the word convene, which means: everyone agrees to do a certain thing. Because we don't know a specific person, we behave strictly conventional with them till we know them better. Since conventions are a pre-agreed by all way to behave, nobody takes issue if you've done something that hurt them but that is the conventional thing to do in such a situation.