this is strange, and cool at the same time- any explanation?

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This is pretty interesting! We went to a new church this AM, and I was meeting a few new people, and a boy (my age), came up to me, and started talking to me, and he asked me if by any chance, I had AS, now HOW did he know THAT!! He said that he had it too, and he was the first person that I felt comfortable with, that was my age, I guess I feel comfortable with him, because he knows how my brain works, etc. HOW would he know that? Could he tell just by looking at me, or what????????
I plan on talking to him more next week, when we go back, this was a church we just started going to, this week, and I really like it a lot. Thanks, Parrotnut

that is pretty awesome parrotnut! no explanation except his powers of observation must be keen

we tend to give of subtle cues. I confused a psychologist once because my physical affect and eye contact gave him conflicting information.

That's pretty awesome!

Similar "non-verbal dialects"?

Do people feel more comfortable with others with "non-verbal dialects" and body language similar to their own?

My guess anyway.


Good for you.

I think many people would notice something a little different but he alone knew what and why. He sounds like he could be fun to hang around with. You are lucky.

I've had a couple of similar experiences, with children telling me I was the only "friendly" or "comfortable" adult in the room. But they didn't have AS as far as I know, nor did they identify me as an Aspie.
Quite an experience.

I've identified a number of Aspies in real life, but I've never said anything to them about it, because I think they probably don't know, since people in my generation usually don't.

That is so cool, Parrotnut. I hope you two strike up a good friendship.

I've always been able to tell who I'm going to be friends with merely by looking at them. Some times I even goes (in my head ^^) "oh no, not that person", yet I still end up friends with them. I don't really know why. ^^

If AS is his special interest he might raise it in conversation. It is socially odd to say "Hi, you have a neurological condition." Maybe he says that to many people and he must be right once.

A bit like predicting you will find lose change in your sofa. Everybody have a look now.

When we went to church yesterday after the service was over, I got a chance to talk to that boy (his name is Joshua) for a good 30 mins, and I asked him how he knew that I had AS and he said he noticed that I was not making eye contact when I would talk to him, and that is how he knew. He said that I have a slightly worse version of AS than he does but not too badly. He saw me twisting my ring (that is what I do when I get nervous), and he said, I see you are twisting your ring and that is a nervous tic, also from the AS.

He also said that his special interest is war planes, and aircraft things, military, and that sort of thing, so he was telling me that if he saw a bunch of war airplanes parked somewhere, then he would see the airplanes and he could look at them and immediately tell what kind of aircraft it was and how fast it went, etc, which is EXACTLY what I can do with parrots, I can go to a birdfair, and see all kinds of birds and immediately tell everyone what kind of bird it is, without even looking to see if there is a sign that has what kind it is on it, LOL!

He also said that people with AS, then to lack empathy. He said a few years ago, 6 members of his family died within a 3 year time span, and he was sad, but not distraught, or anything, like a lot of people get, he thought to himself, well, he/she is dead, and is in a better place, and then he forgets about it, which is exactly what I do also.

Isn't that interesting?????

I've identified one Aspie in my life, and then I told him about my suspicion, he did know what it was.

I (correctly) identified someone as being on the AS a short while ago (just after reading the "this device will detect children on the spectrum" thread ) after about a minute's contact (kinda funny with him looking at one wall and me at the other) though admittedly I had a clue from the context and I hardly trust my own judgement.

This is really cool In a way, it's not surprising that he realised you had AS. Us diagnosed Aspies know about (probably in great detail) all the typical hallmarks of AS, so in theory we should find it easier to recognise someone else as having AS than anyone else.