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15 Sep 2009, 11:29 pm

Here in Peru I know the roads are dangerous, the drivers reckless and irresponsible so I tend to get anxious and keep a close watch the speedometer and a check on the speed limit signs. But it also occurred to me me in Europe where I would feel uncomfortable in my friend's car who also finds it no problem to use his cell phone.
My friend says it is anxiety, typical for Aspergers, is that so?

I have the compulsion to tell drivers to slow down, respect the speed limits, put their safety belts on, etc...I had better sit in the back and not see the highway or road in front of me, it drives me mental.

Is it true for you guys too?


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16 Sep 2009, 12:40 am

I'm the same way. My mom screams at me whenever I drive because I drive very slowly; I get very anxious over about 40 km/h. But I'm okay riding in the car as long as I don't look at the speedometer.


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16 Sep 2009, 12:51 am

New situations used to give me anxiety. Classic example: new restaurant where I didn't know the menu, or a visit to a new doctor! I used to be REALLY bad with that, but not much anymore. Meeting new people used to make me anxious as well, but not much lately.

Speed? Same I think. It used to be an issue but it isn't at all anymore. I used to be anxious riding fast with friends driving etc... My dad was a pilot and I LOVED flying with him when I was a kid and yeah I remeber anxiety as well. Not anymore. I love going fast! :P

In fact, one of my dreams for the future is owning a blazingly fast small single engine plane.



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16 Sep 2009, 12:52 am

I'm okay with driving at regular speeds -- actually, I'm the family speed-demon -- but I can't stand riding with anyone else. For me, it's a control thing. As long as I'm in control of the vehicle, I'm fine. If anyone else is driving, I'm grabbing for the sissy bar or door handles and gasping. It drives my daughter nuts.



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16 Sep 2009, 2:02 am

Im ok driving the speed limits...although, like many Albertans, when I go down the QE2, I tend to go 120km/h or 125km/h instead of the posted 110km/h...all those going 110km/h are in the slow lane....Thats Alberta for ya. :P

If the cops tried to pull everyone over, the QE2 would be at a standstill, so they dont do anything unless someone is passing everyone and weaving in and out of traffic and driving erratically.


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16 Sep 2009, 8:22 am

yeh definitely

i recently visited my dad for two weeks. we would drive places most days and i had bad anxiety which i was pretty sure was due to his fast driving on small roads.



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16 Sep 2009, 9:27 am

Dilbert wrote:
New situations used to give me anxiety. Classic example: new restaurant where I didn't know the menu, or a visit to a new doctor!

Those are two of my big ones too.. I've been known to look at a menu and burst into tears..



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16 Sep 2009, 10:00 am

When it comes to cars load motors & old people (no offense to old people intended) make me nervous when they drive (I personally feel many if not most old people/I'm talking 65-infinity who are losing their coordination, etc. should not drive or should be retested). I have a hard time being comfortable w/ either of my grandparents driving (they both drive like maniacs, & my grandfather reflexes are awful/can't see either). Motorcycles always make me jumpy b/c of the motors. Otherwise, anything social makes me nervous.


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16 Sep 2009, 10:01 am

Maggiedoll wrote:
Dilbert wrote:
New situations used to give me anxiety. Classic example: new restaurant where I didn't know the menu, or a visit to a new doctor!

Those are two of my big ones too.. I've been known to look at a menu and burst into tears..


Ditto


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16 Sep 2009, 10:11 am

I'm terrible, at first glance of the thread title, I thought you were talking about amphetamines or something...

Speed can cause anxiety, certainly. But it's by no means an AS-related trait. My NT girlfriend is paralyzed if she tries to drive faster than 30mph. I however, love to drive fast. I mean, not dangerously fast, but... efficiently fast. 8)

Stupid, dangerous drivers cause me anxiety. These are the people who weave in and out of traffic, or are hopelessly lost and cut across three lanes unexpectedly, etc, etc. I get awful anxious road rage if I have to drive in heavy, unpredictable traffic. Otherwise, I'm fine.


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16 Sep 2009, 11:44 am

Loborojo wrote:
Here in Peru I know the roads are dangerous, the drivers reckless and irresponsible so I tend to get anxious and keep a close watch the speedometer and a check on the speed limit signs. But it also occurred to me me in Europe where I would feel uncomfortable in my friend's car who also finds it no problem to use his cell phone.
My friend says it is anxiety, typical for Aspergers, is that so?

I have the compulsion to tell drivers to slow down, respect the speed limits, put their safety belts on, etc...I had better sit in the back and not see the highway or road in front of me, it drives me mental.

Is it true for you guys too?


Only if I'm not driving.



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16 Sep 2009, 11:56 am

I love to ride a car.
I can do it fast if needed.

But others on the road drive me crazy.

So to ride a car without anxiety, I need a road all by myself.
Which is not convenient over here :?



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16 Sep 2009, 11:59 am

I get anxious in the car with anyone else. Most other people don't follow the regular road rules and it makes me nervous... extremely nervous. Mainly because I am not in control, but also, because I figure the rules are all there for REASONS, and it's to help keep us from killing one another on the road. It really freaks me out if people only have 2 things they do while driving... gas, or brake. No letting your foot off of the gas and letting it slow down gradually-not for them. They just gas it, catch up to the car in front of them, slam on the brakes. I never understood it.

I definitely prefer to drive on my own-not following the rules makes me feel very unsafe no matter who is driving, and I know most of the other drivers are not following them either.


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16 Sep 2009, 12:07 pm

Acacia wrote:
I'm terrible, at first glance of the thread title, I thought you were talking about amphetamines or something...


You weren't the only one XD I couldn't figure out which one was meant and thought either could do it possibly, lol.


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16 Sep 2009, 3:23 pm

Acacia wrote:
I'm terrible, at first glance of the thread title, I thought you were talking about amphetamines or something...


I'm not alone, then. I had to open the thread to figure it out. :oops: :lol:



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18 Sep 2009, 2:39 pm

Well that doesn't sound weird, that just sounds like you're more aware of the risks than some people. People get a false sense of security because they drive all the time and may go for a long time without any minor accidents happening, so they forget accidents CAN happen. But some people don't get that false security effect.


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