Do you hate getting into peoples way in a store?

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Like almost bumping into people etc. My sister is always pulling me out of the way (like today in Publix I thought the women was turning a corner but went straight) I HATE when my sister pulls at me LOL! It's SO annoying!! !! I don't mind if I plan ahead (for example I KNOW Black Friday Chirstmas time etc. they are more busy) but for normal everyday traffic AHH IT'S ANNOYING!! !! !!

I made a thread about this awhile ago. It feels like whenever I go out in public (especially shopping) that I'm always in everyone's way. It seems as if everyone else has a natural sense of where others are moving to, and fro that I don't have. It must be some kind of nonverbal thing, because it doesn't seem to happen to everyone else around me. It makes me really, really anxious, and one of the biggest reasons that I hate shopping. Throw in 2 ASD kids along with me in the mix, and we're a total nightmare in a store. We're in everyone's way.

YES! Not sure how often it happens for NT. It seems I have always positioned myself in the wrong place, and I am totally oblivious to someone who needs to get by. My ex would always remind me when I was in the way. Sometimes bump into people too. But more often I'm just "in the way". Or I almost walk right into someone and I have no idea of which way they are going to turn so we can walk past each other, so I kind of go back and forth deciding what way to go.

I hate after todays incident my sister mouthed something at me (not sure what) and I felt bad almost in tears. I HATE almost bumping into people (and yet like I said if it's planned holiday time etc. I'm fine)

I avoid stores on holidays. And when shopping if there are people in an aisle I avoid it and go to other ones. Sometimes it's not possible to get to an aisle that is empty but I do my best.

Several years back, some woman in the supermarket glared at me and said loudly, "Somebody ought to run your a** over."



I still have no idea what I did wrong besides coming out of the end of a blind aisle (aren't they all?) and stopping quickly when I noticed her approaching. I didn't hit her or her cart or any of her grubby kids, so what was her problem? Or was it me?

I don't go to that store any longer. People are much nicer at the small grocery store (not supermarket) in my town. They even take your groceries out and put them in the car for you, then return the cart, so you never have to worry about your car getting dinged by stray carts abandoned by inconsiderate jerks who can't be bothered to walk them 20 feet to the nearest "cart park".

Sometimes I feel that way - hate that sidestep dance, trying to figure out how to get around somebody. 'Excuse me - pardon me - pardon me - excuse me...' ::AAAUUUGGH!! Just PICK A DIRECTION ALREADY!::

Other times, I know why I'm there, exactly where I'm going and what I'm going to do when I get there and I don't feel like wasting time. Then I feel like everybody is in MY way, milling about like cud-chewing cattle as they browse mindlessly, or stroll along at a snail's pace, talking to their shopping partner. I can't stand getting behind a couple of babbling fat people when I'm in a hurry.

The WAY of it topic

I guess I am one of those who does the sidestep, mumbling "sorry" and coming to a stead stop, waiting for the other to pass by. I think this is because I hyper focus on NOT bumping into others.

I thought it was just me I can be on the widest pavement (sidewalk) in the country but if certain people are walking in the opposite direction then they'll somehow manage to swerve over to get in my way. It's always middle aged to elderly women who do this, I'm constantly having to contort myself to get past them. younger women and men don't do this to me.

Prince's Street in Edinburgh around xmas is crazy, feels like real life frogger and I'm like the frog jumping in between people. must look strange but it's either that or knock someone out

anyone else have a problem with places to stand? Whenever I'm at the train station I find a place to stand and wait then find out it's the busiest area and people need to push past me

Thank god it's not just me, lol! What I really *love* is when I'm trying to get down an aisle and there's a crowd of people that aren't budging. Yeah, nothing like having a family reunion at WalMart.

I avoid people all the time. I also do kind of a stim with curling my hands when I feel awkward or feel as though I'm possibly competing with others for space. This particular stim has gotten worse since I've upped my exercise program, but I don't care, and I'll keep doing it because the good effects outweigh the bad. They say "sorry" sometimes as though they've offended me, but they haven't. My facial expression probably says "hostile" or "intoxicated" even though I am neither. I don't go down the aisle if it would be necessary to move someone else out of the way. I like to give strangers their space.

Yeah, this is a problem for me as well. It's 10 times worse when I'm walking with my kids, one of whom is AS, because he's like that, too. I'm sure we must look funny as we're walking along, no one quite sure where to be in relation to everyone else. I'm so focused on keeping track of my kids, and not bumping into things, that I can't see the forest for the trees, as they say. So, we end up standing in the wrong section of the parking lot, looking around and scratching our heads, because I wasn't able to just look for the car and walk toward it.

I don't mind, because it's a chance for me to be friendly. Unless it's a girl I find particularly attractive, then I kind of squeak (supposed to come out as "I'm sorry" or "Excuse me") and look at anything but her.

On the contrary I am always focused on where another shopper might go, yet they rudely do not give me the same consideration and I frequently either get bumped into by another, or worse (grrrr) they cut me off without paying attention to my walking path.

I sometimes think in some of these cases they might be either very stupid or stoned at the time.

UGH! I can't go anywhere without clueless f*cks acting as though I'm somehow infringing on their space, wherever I am. Why am I always expected to move out of the way, when I was browsing in a particular aisle *prior* to the dumbasses' arrival? Why can't they take their overloaded carts to another aisle, instead of rudely attempting to push them past me when I'm obviously engaged in looking at something? At the very least, these troglodytes could offer an "Excuse me!" Instead, they shove past me, shooting me daggers all the while because their carts and their behemoth asses can't fit by me without my squeezing myself into the nearest crevice.

I love the folks who plow into me, too - then look up, startled. I'm 6'1" - how can people NOT see me?!

When I was living on my own, I would have at least one moment each time I went grocery shopping in which I wouldn't be aware of blocking someone or not leaving enough space to walk by until I would hear them say "excuse me". I felt embarrassed about my repetitivnous of getting in the way, but everyone was nice about it.